Dale Carnegie wrote another, lesser known book called How to Stop Worrying and Start Living. He discovered while teaching his public speaking classes that people became paralyzed with fear by things they worry about. It was written in the same style as How To Win Friends And Influence People. He interviewed well-known people of the time as well as include personal stories told in his classes by people who had overcome their worries and how they did it.
He documented 30 principles for overcoming worry. One of them he named
Live In Day Tight Compartments. We have all heard varying versions of this idea. One day at a time, just for today, live for today etc. The principle is the same, don’t worry about yesterday or tomorrow. Do today, the best you can, with what you have, where you are. The premise is tomorrow won’t matter if you don’t make it through today. So, be here now the best you can.
I just lost my wife to a two-year health challenge. I was her primary care provider, 24 hours a day, seven days a week for that time. That alone was a challenge, but now I have a whole new set of challenges. Things that I’ve never done before, such as managing an estate and all the details associated with someone’s passing. All while handling the sorrow of losing a partner of 30 years. I have wonderful people around me helping and supporting me, but I still have to handle me.
One thing I have mastered over the years is being able to take one more step, and then one more after that. So, that’s what I do. I ask myself what can I complete today. And then what else can I complete today, until the day itself is complete. Then, do it all over again tomorrow. I have been around long enough and seen enough to know that everything always works out as long as I keep moving. There is no going around. There is only going through.
Life sometimes seems unfair.… And it is. Life is not supposed to be easy. Trust me, even those people you look at with envy for how easy their life seems, have their own worries and challenges. Our jobs are to use ours to become the best me we can.
Live in day tight compartments, and soon you won’t have to.