I have been thinking lately about the things that shape us, the events in our lives that have molded our behaviors and responses. My mother always says that when we reconstruct the way we hold the past then we bring alive the possibility for a new future. New futures are a good thing they allow us to be free from the same old song and they change us…change is good, it is enlivening.
When you look back on the string of events that makes up your life, do you see certain things that caused a crack in you along the way? Once you locate the ‘cracks’ you can see how everything else was colored by them in a certain sense…the first heartbreak colored every relationship after that, the first death of someone you loved, the first job experience etc, etc.
All the cracks woven in and out of everything causes a shift in behaviors and responses, so that one day when you are older and wiser you look down the road you have traveled and you can see how events of the past may still be influencing your present behaviors. You can change this, you DO NOT have to be a victim of your past hurts and defeats and disappointments. YOU can choose to reframe what happened back there and hold it as a learning experience instead of as a ‘horrible event’…it doesn’t mean that you forget it, it means that you stop allowing it to color your future. It means that you take your power back and that you decide to stop reacting to the present based on the past.
This shift in perspective has the ability to change your life in a moment.