What about you…..On Coffee Chat last Sunday morning we talked about making sure that you are taking time to take care of yourself and I pointed out that you can’t help someone else if you are not well. I reminded you all that there is a reason on an airplane they tell you to put your oxygen mask on first and then help others…a poignant way to illustrate my point.
The first thing that happens when you have a lot of toxic relationships or situations in your life is that you stop checking in with yourself about how YOU are because of course you are waaaayyyyy too busy caretaking and enabling to be worried about your own well-being. In addition to drawing lines in the sand about what is acceptable to you and what isn’t you also have to start looking at what you need to do for yourself that you are not doing. Can be as simple as taking 15 minutes for yourself everyday with no distractions or as complex as sticking to a daily workout schedule— only YOU can say what you need to function optimally.
Some of you may not even know the answer to the question, “what do I need?” —if that is the case then it’s time to find out.
What do you require to feel centered and happy and peaceful?
Who do you need to start saying NO to?
What new habits do you need to acquire for taking better care of yourself?
What relationships are no longer serving you in their current format?
These are all valuable questions to start looking at. Often times we are so focused on just surviving that we forget it IS possible to thrive. You are of no value to anyone if you are not well or barely functioning…as a parent you have to take care of yourself first in order to do what you must do for the kiddos…this whole idea that you don’t have time to take care of you is a bullshit construct that must be left behind.
Too many of us are over doing, over compensating and enabling and it is costing us our health, our joy and our peace of mind…our survival and our ability to be vibrant and thriving is dependent upon us putting ourselves first. I have news— nobody is coming to save you—- it is time that you saved yourself.
It is our responsibility to start speaking up and start taking the time that we require to get ourselves in order each day so that we can face things from a position of strength. Your mental and physical health are your most important assets — without them everything else becomes much more difficult if not impossible in some extreme cases.
Begin NOW—start looking at what you need and start carving out the time to make that happen— and start saying NO to the people and things that are stealing your energy and not giving anything back—- it’s way past time to change the game.
See you Sunday for Coffee Chat.