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How Do You Do It All?

I get asked all the time how I do it.  “It” referring to working full time, taking care of a household, and raising four boys each with a different personality. I used to struggle and question my parenting style; for example do I parent like I was raised or do I parent like society says I should parent.

Then not so long ago I had an ephiany. I realized I need to keep doing what I’m doing. When my two younger boys, ages 12 and 14, are at each other’s throats, I try and remain calm and ask them what happened. Most of the time they talk and yell over each other and in the end I’m the one yelling.  That is okay because after some self reflection I tell myself I will try and do better the next time.

The truth is there is a combination of things that go into how I parent, work full time and take care of my household.  First of all, I pray for patience, patience, and more patience. Second, I do my self care routine. My routine consists of putting my kids to bed and watching TV or getting on social media.  I also like to go to the tanner or go for walks with friends. I realized long ago self care is not selfish. I know I cannot be there for my job or my kids if I’m a hot mess. Humor is also a very important piece of my daily routine.  I laugh at myself several times a day. Like when I’m looking for my phone while it is in my hand or when I am shopping and jump when I see my reflection in a mirror and say excuse me thinking it was another person.

I have to remember I am human and I am not perfect.  Mistakes are made daily and that is okay, because I am blessed beyond measure and I get to wake up every day and try again.  If I can tell myself at the end of the day that I put everything I had into being the best that I can be I know my kids will turn out okay.

 

Yours Truly,

Anne Smith- A Working & Single Mother

Plan To Work, Work Your Plan

Plan to work? Let’s work your plan. Maybe you’ve decided it’s time to rock a side gig. It’s time to bring in some extra money, live with purpose and find an outlet for your gifts. Before you begin, let’s take a look at five of the key, daily habits that drive the lives of successful side-giggers.

 1. Successful side-giggers live in gratitude. It’s so easy to get caught up in what the competition is doing: to feel like everyone is winning more than you, that they have more customers than you or are making more money than you. But successful side-giggers know that comparing kills joy. Don’t get me wrong – they know their competition. They learn from them. But they never compare. Instead, they focus on being grateful for their gifts and their own unique voice.

 Cement this in your brain by having a daily gratitude practice: meditation, prayer, a gratitude journal, a nature walk, all of the above – whatever works for you.

 

2. You’ll always find successful side-giggers using the fringe hours. After all, they’re just like you and me – they spin a lot of plates. So, they use the fringe hours to keep up. Fringe hours are those little bits of time that happen early in the morning or late at night when everyone else is asleep and the house is quiet. They are intentional about this. They choose a time to get up (or stay up) that works for them and their sleep needs. Then they commit!

 Give yourself a little wiggle room on this one. Baby woke up three times last night? Scrap the early morning ideal and sleep!

 

3. This one is closely related to number two. When they do sit down to work, successful side-giggers use their time wisely. They dive right into the important stuff. Listen, we are all too busy. You might only be able to find 45 minutes to work on your business on any given day. Don’t waste that precious time checking how many new followers you have on Instagram. Instead, dig into the projects that will actually  move your business forward and generate revenue. Plan your work and then work your plan.

 

4. Successful side-giggers cut corners. Yes, you read that right! They cut corners all the time. They let perfectionism die. Unless you’re manufacturing airplanes or operating on people, good enough is usually enough.

 Now, you want to give your customers top-notch, more-than-they-expect products and service. But housework, meals, and emails to co-workers are all examples of things that don’t need to be perfect. Ever. Nobody is going to die if you serve chicken nuggets and sliced apples every other day for a while.

 

5. Finally, successful side-giggers tend to their anchor work. They don’t get so caught up in their side gig that they totally neglect their main gig. For you, your main gig might be your kids or your day job, or both. Remember to spend a little time playing with your kids. Make sure you’re doing the work you’re being paid a salary to do. You’ll sleep better at the end of the day when you’ve tended to your anchor work. There may be days you can’t work on your side gig at all. That’s okay. You just do what you can, a day at a time. 

 

Whether you’ve already started a side gig or you’re just in the thinking stages, keeping these five principles in mind will help you thrive and flourish in all your roles. You’ve got this!

 Love ya,

Lecia

 

Wanna know more about how to start your own business? Hang out with Lecia on her podcast – just search “Mighty Choice Life” on any podcast app.

Expect the BEST!

Hey there…yes it IS really me blogging again…I know that you guys have been reading some great stuff from a bunch of our guests bloggers, it’s fantastic to see everyone writing!  Thought it was time I actually added a post to my own blog…

As you know I turn 50 in August and on Friday night my son graduated from High School a year early…so lots of milestone shit happening up here in the Green Mountains…which brings up ALL the feels!!!! The closing of one chapter and the beginning of a new one, my Second Act we are calling it.  As I sort through the last 50 years (holy shit it feels weird to type that) I am seeing soooo many lessons learned, so much education in all of the stupid things that I have done…WOW…

Feeling like I have gotten to a pretty decent place and knowing that there is so much more to get done in the next half.  One of the things that I am working with this week in my own personal study is the idea of “you get what you expect”…I spend a lot of time reminding you guys that what you think about and speak about you will get more of, which means that if you start REALLY expecting the BEST it will change your whole life.

How many of us really walk through the days ‘expecting the best’, I see that even I am not doing that…I am not consciously walking through the days declaring and expecting the BEST…so I have to ask myself WHY NOT?  I certainly have been well-trained in understanding that what I expect and focus on I will get, so WHY am I not running through the days expecting nothing but the BEST outcomes???

Somewhere in all of us there is this place where we feel like things can’t always be amazing, we all worry a bit that when things are great it won’t last…well I am calling BULLSHIT on all that!  The truth is that we can get to a place where we really understand that what we expect we will get, we can get to a place where we KNOW that there is GOOD in everything even when it looks like a complete piece of shit.  It is NOT an easy place to reach, it is a place that you CAN reach by studying principles that demonstrate that what you fill your mind with is what you create, what you focus on is what you create, what you talk about is what you create…

That means that in order to REALLY rise to a place where we go around expecting the best, we have to DO THE WORK to get there.  Which means training your mind to think the things that will help you and understanding how to respond to things from a place of peace rather than react.  It means that when it ‘looks like’ your bank balance is too low you focus on the fact that money is coming instead of panicking based on what appears to be true in the moment.  The last year, since leaving corporate stuff and choosing to build my own company again, has been one of the hardest and scariest of my life thus far…I have had to REMIND myself daily of all the things that I teach, I have had to declare GOOD through panic and tears, I have had to TRUST when I could not see the way out…I have been taught so much in this last year and now it seems that my lesson is REALLY starting to come from a place daily of expecting the BEST.  Easier said than done, yet I am working on it…it seemed a good thing to share with all of you.  Here are two of the affirmations that I am using as I walk through this, perhaps they will help you as well…

“Nothing is too good to be true.  Nothing is too wonderful to happen.  Nothing is too good to last.”

“Today and every day, I expect the best. Wonderful things are happening to me now.  Everything I do turns into good for myself and others.”

XO- Noelle

Willing To Do Whatever It Takes…

‘Willing to do whatever it takes’ is a concept foreign to many, which explains why most people do not have the results that they want in life.  ‘Willing to do whatever it takes’ means just what it says “whatever it takes”…this may mean staying up all night to get the job done, it may mean making cold calls when you don’t feel like it, it may mean helping someone if you aren’t in the mood, it may mean getting up at 5am to work on your goals before you start your day.  It certainly means making yourself uncomfortable in some way, “whatever it takes” is never easy and it never feels good, however it WILL enable you to execute the results you seek.

Sadly, most people that think they work so hard are actually working within their comfort zone, and then they wonder why their HUGE, AUDACIOUS goals never come to pass.  Working within your comfort zone will net you the same circumstances and results that you have always had.  If things are not moving along the way you want them to, then you are not doing enough to create momentum.  Momentum is difficult to create, yet once it starts rolling it will knock down everything in its path and you can keep it moving with consistent focused effort. 

If you have a goal that you want to complete then you must be willing to do whatever it takes to make that happen.  Do not let anyone deter you, delay you or distract you…keep your head down and stay focused on doing whatever needs to be done.  Executing results is not impossible, it simply requires consistency, commitment and a willingness to do ‘whatever it takes’.  That means no more excuses, only results.

This will be an unpopular way to behave in most circles because the majority of people prefer to offer reasons and excuses instead of results, so if you are truly committed to doing something different you may need to change the company you keep.

 

Life Doesn’t Have an EASY Button…

Life doesn't offer an 'easy' button

Life DOES NOT have an easy button!  Anything that you want in this life you need to work for and earn, at least anything worth having.  In the process of working to earn something you enable yourself to be worthy to have it and therefore you can keep it.

I have some more unfortunate news…life wasn’t meant to be ‘easy’, life is meant to teach you so that you can elevate your soul and serve other people. For the self-serving folks in the crowd this will be sad news, for others of you this will just be a confirmation of what you already know to be true.

Working to earn something doesn’t have to be an unhappy circumstance, life is what you make it and we have the freedom to choose our response to any situation.

An alarming number of children growing up today are not being taught to earn what they wish to have, their parents are simply giving them whatever they want be it money, cars, electronics, college tuition etc.  These children will turn into adults that expect an ‘easy’ button to be available to them and when it isn’t they won’t understand.  They will be ill-equipped to handle life as it really is and they will become ineffective adults waiting for somebody else to solve their problems.

There are already enough ineffective adults floating around expecting someone to take care of them, we don’t need to add more.  Don’t be afraid to work hard to get what you want in life, God helps those who help themselves.  If you are sitting around unhappy with the way your life has turned out waiting for the ‘easy’ button to fall on your head here is the Staples link to order yourself one http://www.staples.com/Staples-Easy-Button/product_606396 .  Everyone else get to work…