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All I Got For You Is A Song

All I got for you is a song…

A few days ago the incredible woman who brought us all here,Noelle, shared a blog about her friend losing a parent.

There was some sad irony in that.

As in a few days I will be going to one of my dearest friends Mother’s funeral.

I am of age where my friends are loosing parents but it is thankfully not something I have experienced.

You always hurt for your people when they hurt and experience loss. However, this loss is hitting me.

When I found out, as I am now I had no words. What can I possibly say?

What do you say to one of your closest friends when they lose their parent? A friend who even when you are at your lowest and most unlovable has loved you. Even when their heart was breaking and they were watching their Mom go, took a few minutes to make sure you were ok.

What do you say about a woman who when you ….

I will just  tell you.

A few years ago I was hosting a music showcase. That same day I broke up with my boyfriend who I started dating after my divorce. The breakup I did not take well. I let old bad habits back in.

Really bad habits.

I think I might have fallen on stage.

Definitely cried during some sad songs.

It was so bad they called one of my Chewbacca’s and strongly suggested he come.

I could feel the shame, but the sadness was stronger.

I came off the stage after an introduction knowing how bad it was, wishing I was home, wanting my Mom and there was my friend’s Mom.

Who gave me a hug and told me all the things I needed to hear at that moment.

I had only met her a few times, but that moment will forever be with me. Like her daughter she loved me when I felt my most unlovable. It is a trait she has definitely passed on to my best friend. That strong, fierce, unconditional love. I really hope you have friends like that.

So here I am struggling to help my friend find the comfort that may not come.

The peace that may ebb and flow.

The words I don’t have.

Instead I did the only thing that makes sense to me. She loves Van Halen. I host a radio show. On Wednesday’s I suggest songs you should listen to.  I suggested Van Halen. I taped my radio shows and made sure to play Van Halen.

And today on Eddie Van Halen’s birthday I made sure to post some more. I, of course have called and sent texts. But as the saying goes where words fail, music speaks.

My hope is that my friend knows that where I’m failing in words I’m sending so much love.

Mommas this would be the part where I give you a  sage pep talk. Sometimes I struggle, this week it’s easy. You are important. There is going to be a moment that you might not even realize, that will mean the world to someone.

<3 Caprise

Words Of Wisdom From Papa Federico

Words Of Wisdom From Papa Federico…

Let’s start this off with some sage advice from my Grandfather, a classic, old school Italian man…the hardest-working person I have ever met in my lifetime, he died 4 weeks before Antonio was born from two different kinds of cancer.  He was Antonio T. Federico and my son was named for him as Antonio M. Federico.

I was raised in part by my grandparents and so when he became ill, frequently I was the one to drive him back and forth to the hospital and doctors appointments.  After one such appointment we were called into the doctor’s office, it was myself, Papa and my Uncle Mike the doctor told us that Papa had colon and stomach cancer and started talking about treatments.  At the time Papa was 82, he looked at the doctor and said, “Doc no offense but there will be no chemo, no radiation, and no treatment.  It is what it is and I am going home.”

The doctor said he had 6 months to live with no treatment, he lived a year…

After we left the hospital he wanted me to take him to his favorite bakery in Readville, MA on the way home.  I was standing in the bakery, shell-shocked at the news I had just witnessed and he said, “Little girl (I was 31) don’t be sad, I have had ONE HELL of a ride and when it’s done, it’s done.”  Papa taught us all how to live and he also taught us how to die, he left on his own terms, from his own house, his way and when he was damn good and ready.  He only finished the 6th grade, he served this Country in the Navy and he was in the Local 4 Construction Union in Boston, MA for as long as I can recall.

He bought his house and then he worked 7 days a week straight until it was paid off, he went for a haircut every week and made his bed every, single damn day.  He was a man of few words, however he was BIG on actions.  He never really got to see what I have built, what I am still building, however he was my greatest teacher…he taught me how to KEEP GOING no matter what and I know he would be pleased that I am sharing some of his best advice with you …

*adapted from ‘advice my father gave us’…written by my mom, Toni Stone

“Thanks to Papa we know how to get up every day even when we would rather not.

We know that no one else is going to do our work for us.

We know what’s past is OVER and GONE.

We know that when we leave something it is for a reason and once we are done we don’t go back…because the reason we left is still there…

We don’t try to live in yesterday or get it back.

We keep GOING, NO MATTER WHAT.

We remember that disappointment is not the end of the world.

We know people will screw us over unwittingly, unconsciously or on purpose.  We won’t be stopped by it. We won’t take it personal and we WILL keep a good eye on them after that…

We will also stay tuned to all the players…some people aren’t wrapped too tight, some are living in another reality, some don’t know their ass from a hole in the ground and others are just cruising through to see what they can get every day.

We remember that 75% of people have to be dealt with very carefully and some of them are dangerous characters…we remember to WATCH WHAT PEOPLE DO, not listen to what they say…actions speak volumes…promises are lip service unless followed up on with actions and results.

We do not count chickens before they are hatched.

We always have cash, just in case…”

XXOO,

Noelle

NOTW-Not Of This World

“Not of this world”…I’ve known these four words for a long time.  Thought it.  Read it.  Lived it.  Every day, still, I work on reminding myself that I am Not Of this World.  Being the God-girl that I am, you’d think I wouldn’t have to remind myself… but I do.  I am IN the world but not OF it.  This World we live in….it’s a powerful place.  God’s power is ever present and much, much more powerful… BUT if my eyes are not on Him and my eyes are here, looking around me, comparing, challenging, competing.  I’m sucked in.  I’m doomed.  There is power and money and fame and popularity and attention and affection EVERYWYERE.  I can have those things, but at what cost?

In my younger years when I thought the World was the place to find all of these things, I charged forward, I had it all figured out, all lined up.  I was successful.  I climbed the corporate ladder-stepping on who was in my way, I dated the handsomest of men-spitting them out if they didn’t please me, I hung out with beautiful girlfriends-controlling where we went and what we did.  I judged, I ruled, I competed, I was soooo popular.  BUT I was sad and lonely and alone.  I created my life to satisfy me and yet….oh and I was satisfied – or so I thought….but the satisfaction never lasted so there I was again…going at it.  The cost?  My soul.  I did whatever I had to do to be liked and accepted and important. And I was empty.

Now my life is of substance.  I have friendships and money and things.  BUT it’s all from God and for God.  Money, blessings, miracles, love…all of it.  HIS.  I am here to be a steward.  I am a beacon of His love and light.  I am here to shout it from the rooftops that I am Not Of This World.  I am of His World.  You’ll know it by my words, my actions, my compassion AND by my tattoo.

Your God Girl,

Tracy xoxo

An Encouraging Word

Never underestimate the value of an encouraging word.

The simple act of encouragement is so often taken for granted.  So many of us want to believe that we encourage our family, our friends, our co-workers and our general fellow man.  Sadly, though, many of us fall short.

Think about your everyday conversations.  Do you listen and smile casually, leaving yourself with the impression that you’ve participated in the conversation in an encouraging manner, when you haven’t really offered any encouragement at all?

Have you asked questions about the potential negative outcomes of a friend’s excited effort under the guise of “helping them think it through”, unknowingly (and, in all fairness, most likely unintentionally) crushing their excitement instead of offering encouragement?  Or, have you in fact shared an encouraging word commending someone for a job well done or offering them a word that says “I know you’ll succeed in this venture”?

Many of us listen to and participate in conversations and, when we leave said conversation, truly believe we have been an encouragement to the other party / parties involved in the conversation.  However, if we take a hard, honest and objective look at these same conversations, we will find that we haven’t really been of any encouragement at all.  Sometimes, we have in fact been the opposite or completely neutral.

At various points in my life, I have been blessed to have some genuinely encouraging people in my circles.  I would venture to say that they have been quite scattered, but present nonetheless, and the difference it has made in my life is absolutely priceless.  Several years back, I went through a dark period that left me very unhappy and in possession of very little self-confidence.  Having people in my life then that were constantly encouraging me was such a blessing.  It’s not that they were necessarily going out of their way to come up with extra things to say in each shared conversation, but these people truly made a habit of being encouraging to the point that it was simply a part of who they are.  Having this kind of people in my life has really broadened my appreciation for words of encouragement.  I find myself being more encouraging to others as well, which is just a happy little side effect.

You never know how big an effect the smallest words can have on someone’s day, someone’s week or even someone’s life.

Take a moment to really think about your everyday conversations and see where you may have room to work some encouragement into your own daily life.  I guarantee you the benefits will be reaped by not only those you encourage, but by you as well.

~Tanya

You can follow me at sunshineandbluemoon.blogspot.com and, as always, make it a great day!

 

The Good Is Out There

Today seems difficult to me, the energy of today…it seems anxious and unbalanced…I have been reading things that indicate that the Super Moon tonight could be the source of what I am sensing, maybe so.  I have spent a lot of time praying this morning for all of you, for people more directly in my world and for the world in general.  Right now the world needs prayers, as many as possible.  The world requires prayers and we, collectively as the people in the world must be working hard to focus on the good.  GOOD is out there, it is in the places that you love, in the people that you love and in the acts of kindness and service that people do for each other.  When you have an opportunity to speak out loud, pause for a moment and consider if what you are about to say will help or hurt, will it bring joy or create discord, will it support peace or stir controversy???

Words are POWERFUL things and every, single person has an opportunity every time that they open their mouth to speak…they have an opportunity to be part of the solution or part of the problem.  I am asking myself today, which one am I?  Ask yourself, which one are you?  No matter what the heck is swirling up around us in any given moment we always have the opportunity to choose JOY, we have the opportunity to bring a blessing and BE a blessing.  So today, on a day that feels difficult to me I am working hard to highlight what is good and I encourage you to do the same.  Much love.  xoxo

Think About It To Get More Of It

Happy Thursday, I hope that you all had a good day thus far…I just finished a round of teaching boy to drive…NO WORDS!  Let us just say that it is REALLY hard for a control freak to not be in control in that situation…’nuf said!

I posted a video this afternoon for you, it can be found on the FB page.  In it I am talking about how what you think about, you get more of…as in what you keep focusing on is actually what you will bring to pass.  Many people seem to think that the circumstances they find themselves in are a mystery, yet if you backtrack into what they have been focused on for the last while you may start to see exactly how they ended up where they are.  You actually perpetuate unfavorable conditions by staying focused on how awful they are, when you complain about and continually discuss the things that are not working you give them more solidarity.  Your words, thoughts and attention have an immense amount of power and therefore what you focus them on gains strength in your life.

That said, when things are not working the way that you want them to you need to start focusing on the outcomes you want to see instead of on what seems to be before you.  This is no easy task, it requires you to be vigilant with your thoughts and police all the ones that are not going in the direction you want them to.  Not only do you need to catch those unfavorable thoughts, you have to REPLACE them with a positive thought or with a moment of gratitude.

I have been studying these principles since I was 12 years old and I can promise you with certainty that when they are practiced with discipline and consistency they work, hands down, every time.  Let me know in the comments or via email if you want me to elaborate on this more.  For now I will task you with beginning to pay attention to your thoughts and words and see if they are representative of the life that you want to have.

See you tomorrow. xoxo