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Be Better In The Middle Of Your Grief

What on earth? How many tears can one body produce? How many boxes of tissues must you go through? And what’s up with the mad… sad… content… tears… misery… anger… denial… tears… happy….. anxiety… pissed off… acceptance and back to sad again? Welcome to the “Stages of GRIEF”.

Can you hear yourself.… “Really? Can’t I just go back to sleep and then it will all go away? What about a therapist, won’t that cure the crabbiness? I know, I know…. chocolate. That always makes me feel better? Waaaaaah.

You have good days and bad days. And the triggers come out of nowhere and at the most obscure times let alone when you’re not expecting it. And the rollercoaster ride of Grrrrrief seems to be going and going and going. When will it stop?

And not for nothing but…..

You want your life back the way it was. You want the to-do’s back in order and the schedule back on track. You really want a do-over. Why is going through the Stages of Grief so hard? Well it JUST IS. Seriously. Nobody wants to be the one left behind, nobody plans to lose a loved one, and nobody knows what its like until they experience it. Nobody can judge the length of time it takes you, nobody can heal your heart and nobody can wipe the tears to stop. Just you. If you trust God, like I do, turn to Him in your sadness and ask for healing. Do what you have to do and press on with joy in the sadness.

Maybe just maybe, when you’re on the other side of this, you can be a smile in someone else’s grief, share a hug, speak a kind word, offer a nice gesture. Do something to ease their pain because you remember how hard it was for you. But for now…..be a better you in the middle of your grief.

 

Your God Girl,

Tracy xoxo

When God Shuts A Door…

I saw a quote today and posted it on the Revealing Excellence Facebook page, it said in essence, when God closes a door stop banging on it…meaning He closed it for a reason.  We may not understand or agree with God’s reasons and timing; however we need to trust them.  God has the bigger plan and He knows what we need better than we do.

Having Faith means trusting what we cannot yet see.  Sometimes when we are seeking the answer to something we need to let go of it and simply do the tasks before us.  Trust that when the time is right the way will be made unmistakably clear to us.  At times this can look like stepping out where there seems to be no road under our feet; there are times when we have to follow God’s prompts to go forward even when we do not see the pavement in front of us.  During these times God acts as our eyes, He sees the road ahead and He directs the path on which we walk, put one foot in front of the other…do the tasks that are before you each day and just keep putting one foot in front of the other. 

We may not see the whole road, yet as we step each time there is solid ground that appears beneath our feet.  God makes a way where there is no way, some days this is my mantra…

So when God shuts a door just leave it closed and go find the open one…