Look at your life and pinpoint for yourself some things that you really, really want. Got them? Good. Now tell me how bad do you want them? Do you want them bad enough to change everything about yourself that stands in the way of you getting them? Do you want them bad enough to give up your behaviors that don’t work? Do you want them bad enough to not give up until you get them?
Most people will probably tell you that they want certain things, however, I would bet that they are not willing to do WHATEVER it takes to get them and that is why they still do not possess the things that they want. I would also bet that most people don’t even fully understand the concept called ‘whatever it takes’—most people quit at the first sign of difficulty. There are some people however that don’t quit…the Navy Seals don’t quit and truly self aware people don’t quit either because they know that quitting only perpetuates the circumstances in their lives that they don’t like.
Let’s talk about where most people lose it along the trail of getting what you want…you start out with a business or a goal or a relationship and everything looks kind of groovy at the beginning. Then we move along in time and obstacles start to appear…the business doesn’t seem like such a good idea, the new relationship looks like a piece of shit, the goal you set out to accomplish looks WAY TOO HARD. So you start to buy into that you didn’t want it anyway, you start to think of other things that you can do that would be “easier” —we call this the “grass is greener” syndrome—news flash—the grass is NEVER greener somewhere else…smarten up and learn to cultivate your own grass to make it the green that you want it to be—another news flash—this is HARD WORK…it requires commitment, discipline, purposefulness and doing what you said– NO MATTER WHAT. If you want to win and get the things you want in life then you must go to war with all the things about yourself that don’t work.
Going to war with yourself means that you set out to prevail no matter what. This means that you must give up paying attention to your ailments, grievances and complaints. This means that you must only look at what you want… keep focused on the goal, the intention and let go of ANYTHING that is counterproductive to forward motion. This looks like doing what you said no matter what opinion you have about it, it means not giving attention and energy to what isn’t working, it means NEVER giving up no matter what it looks like all around you…you keep yourself focused on what you want to achieve and you refuse to be swayed by anything that doesn’t get you to where you are going.
This kind of war on your self is not easy, in fact it is very, very difficult and therefore the average person would never even begin to attempt it. The average person gets stopped in life by the first sign of trouble…they hit the first obstacle and they quit.
In Navy Seal training an average starting class of 80 people ends up to be about 20 or so by the time graduation rolls around…the men that want to be Navy Seals NO MATTER WHAT are the ones that graduate. In Seal training they are wet, cold, sleep deprived, physically challenged, mentally challenged and pretty much put through what most people have nightmares about—the BEST part of this…they ASK for it…they WANT to go…they strive to EXCEL…they want to be THE BEST…imagine that? Navy Seal candidates want it so bad that they will do anything to get it. Would you go through that kind of hell to get what you want? Are your goals important enough for you to overcome yourself to achieve them?
Any goal or thing worth having is worth whatever challenge you have to go through to get it…that is the beauty inherent in the system of achievement…when you overcome yourself, when you work hard, when you change yourself to achieve something, then you can REALLY HAVE IT…you can REALLY appreciate it, you can feel deserving of it because you know that you EARNED it and it is yours to keep…be it a relationship or a successful business or a degree…whatever.
If you get something and you didn’t work for it the satisfaction of it is very short lived…handouts don’t teach us anything…challenging ourselves to be better teaches us a wisdom that can’t be learned any other way…xoxoxo