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Time To Break Traditions

I realized this is the year we change the rules, break traditions… Nothing has really gone as planned since March, so its time not to follow our normal plan for the rest of the year… Time to break some traditions and make new…

I am such a tradition person, I love traditions… I have tried to pass many down to my kids…so, this year, my kids have been begging to put up the Christmas Decorations early.  I think they started even asking before Halloween.

Of course, I said “no way, we do not put up anything until the day after thanksgiving” in my mom voice.  That is the tradition and we do not change it.  Since I was a little girl, we always put up our decorations and tree the day after thanksgiving.  And yes, we all have that one friend that has always put her tree up in October and I would roll my eyes and think she was crazy…

Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday….I love getting the newspaper with all the black friday ads (totally old school), along with watching the Macy’s day parade and the smell of the turkey in the oven….all that delicious food that I can not make.

The place cards sitting in front of each place setting, which were made many years ago that are full of spills and old gravy.  My kids sitting at the kid table putting the olives on their fingers and just eating buns with butter.   The Ham Pickle Roll Ups that no one can live without… My mom telling everyone that there is “No Football” on Thanksgiving.. She never wont that battle.  Its the kick off to the Holiday Season and I love that.

So this week, it really hit me hard  when my mom said we could not have Thanksgiving this year.  Thanksgiving is my favorite holiday.  Thanksgiving was cancelled, I was mad.  And at first, I was kind of mad at her…. How could she cancel thanksgiving…. And then I realized it was for the best.

But not getting together as a family, its just so sad, plus I might have to cook now.  I know lots of whining from me… But I am tired of trying to be ok with all these damn 2020 changes.

So, yesterday my daughter asked again, “can we please put up our Christmas decorations this weekend” and I started with my mom voice “NO…along with my normal rant about when we put them up” and then I stopped and said “yes, I guess we can”.  I mean, “ why not”.

I mean really why not…nothing is normal anymore this year… maybe its time to break traditions and start things new.  I feel like this Holiday Season should be just full of extra joy and happiness.  It’s like I want to turn our home into a Holiday Village with snow and twinkling little lights.

I know that I feel the heaviness of the unknown this year and I can tell my kids do also.  They do not understand all the changes in our plans and not being able to get together like in the past.  They are doing their best with it, but I think we are all just tired.

Easter, Memorial Day, 4th of July, Labor Day, Halloween, 1st Communion, Confirmation, many Birthdays and now Thanksgiving are all different.  There are no big family get togethers or celebrations.  And as much as I have gone with the flow and adapted, it really sucks.

So this year, we are starting our holiday decorations and celebrations early… I am breaking my golden rule and breaking the traditions.  It started this morning, with the holiday music and ordering another Christmas tree off amazon.  And we all decided to make Xmas cookies the day before thanksgiving. Another tradition that I just broke…

We might all be sick of it all by Christmas, but at least we can really enjoy the next 6 weeks.  And I want my kids to remember 2020 as the year we started new traditions…

 

-snarky

 

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Bringing The Christmas Cheer

We have spent the last few days with some serious moments of ups and downs. Because our kids don’t entirely grasp what is happening to their uncle right now it doesn’t seem to be upsetting them quite as much. That’s the thing about illness and death, I think mortality seems much more real and alarming as you age.

We are trying to pull ourselves together and bring in the Christmas cheer. There isn’t much we can do for him except pray so worrying is only making both of our anxiety worse. We have the elf at our house…his name is George. Honestly-4 years ago when I introduced him to our traditions-I did not realize what a PAIN in the ASS he was going to be. Problem being, my 7 year old asks about him throughout the whole year and wonders what he is up to-or he would just disappear. Lesson learned on that one-there will be NO elf for the grandchildren. We went and cut down our tree and have put up the indoor decorations. And this morning my daughter got to open the first door on the advent calendar! This weekend we will put out the outdoor decorations and being baking, wrapping gift and some light shopping. I do most of my shopping online now but still want to bring money to small local businesses so I do a few days of old school shopping 🙂 It is forecasted to bring snow next week and our youngest has her school Christmas program on Monday and church pageant next Sunday.

That’s the thing about “adulting”. Life doesn’t stop even in the worst moments, everything keeps going and turning. We can either fight it or do what we NEED to do to enjoy it. I don’t want to get out of bed on most days as of lately-but I am strong and I do what I need to do. Each and every one of you are strong too!

 

Love to All-Kim