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No Negative Thoughts Today

No negative thoughts today.

When I’m blogging about the negative thoughts that are sometimes in our heads, I might write about:

Change your mind – Change your life

Write a new story

Have a different conversation with yourself

ReThink THAT thought

Re-Wind & Do-Over

Not Today Devil – Not Today!

All of these ways to recreate our thoughts are very powerful, on purpose and can be a driving force for a new way of being..… BUT… you must first address any underlying emotional baggage, upset, trauma, etc, that you’re dealing with. I don’t care how many times you tell yourself the most amazing, most powerful, most mind blowing affirmations….. if you have any underlying trauma attached to what you’re trying to change…. it might change temporarily, but as soon as a trigger comes along… you’re right back where you started.

Let’s just say, like me, you have body issues. You’re repeating amazing affirmations. Affirmations that would make your momma cry. Affirmations that rock your world. AND you’re working on loving yourself, loving your shape, loving your femininity, loving your weight and a big one for me – loving your scars and the bumps that come with them. You’re feeling GOOOOOOOD and you’ve got some peace going on.

And THEN…..

You’re invited to your girlfriends lake house with your 6 besties. You want to be bold and wear your 2-piece on the pontoon, but you’re not sure. ….WHAT?! …Not sure? These are your long- time girlfriends! What are you even second guessing yourself? Remember the peace you had as you were packing your bags? Where’d that go? These are the girlfriends who’ve shared the good, the bad & the ugly. As tears try to pool up, you stand strong, remind yourself you’re amazing, look in the mirror & repeat your list of affirmations. The girls are yelling your name reminding you…. “7 minutes!” AND You RALLY!

You put on that 2-piece and give yourself a thumbs up for making it through another episode of No Negative Thoughts Today.

xoxo,

Your God-girl

Tracy

What Do You Believe?

What do you believe?

On Sunday I talked about the fact that you cannot change thoughts and habits successfully until you examine the ‘beliefs’ that are under everything running your life.  I equated it to having something rotting in the refrigerator that you can’t see and how until you clean it out it will contaminate all the fresh food that you put in there.

The same is true about the conversations/beliefs underneath everything that are running your life and you are not even aware of them.  Things such as:

“I’m not good enough”

“there is never enough money”

“I can’t do it”

“I will never get ahead”

“I’m not worthy”

“what if I fail”

The beliefs that are the underlying scripts of our lives come from childhood—we either heard them or learned them or saw them being emulated and then we decided that is how things were and so we unconsciously adopted them.  Then our lives took shape and we didn’t even notice that we were living out the things we adopted as beliefs when we were little.

To change thoughts, behaviors and actions without digging down and discovering these beliefs really is like putting fresh food into a rotting fridge—everything will become contaminated and nothing new will happen.  The OLD, OUTDATED, GRUBBY scripts will literally kill off the NEW good that you are working so hard to create.

So, when I talk to you about changing the game and changing your life, I have to first make you aware that there are scripts underneath everything that you have to find.  Whatever they are they are OLD NEWS and they are not the truth about you, in fact they NEVER were the truth about you…

When I was live last Sunday with you I talked about how my poor, pathetic scores on the effectiveness game had led me to start thinking that I must have some unrecognized, self-sabotaging belief that is still running me—I am still looking for it –hopefully by this Sunday I will have something to share about what I have discovered.  Meanwhile I want you to start thinking about what those beliefs are for you—the conversations that are running you, hidden under everything.  We have to find those so that we can clean them out…

Go back and watch last Sunday’s live for more conversation on this…and catch me this Sunday at 10 est on our FB Live Coffee Chat show.

Remember that anything can be shifted, first it has to be seen…once we know what we are dealing with we can annihilate it and move forward.

 

XO, Noelle

Look Up Look Out

Look Up…Look Out…

This morning was a tough one. The darkest thoughts that come along with living alone started to rear their ugly heads and take over my thinking. I felt myself going down the rat hole. That is NOT a good place to go. I know that for certain. I started to oppose the deep dark voice.

“Ohhhhh…. NO…. Not Today!!!”… “This is NOT happening today!” and then immediately, it bit back with, “You will always be alone”. I reminded myself that those are the fearful words of the liar when I look IN. I dug my heels in and proclaimed with some gusto in my tone… “Nope! Nope! Not Today!!”. And another lie crept up….“Friends” What friends?”. The argument went back and forth for a little bit. I stood strong, reminding myself of what is right and good and beautiful in my life. I reminded myself of my wonderful friends and my talents and what it is that brings me joy every day.

I know for me… when I listen to the liar in my head, I can sometimes get overwhelmed with what I don’t like about my life. It can quickly take over, pull up a seat next to me & stay for the afternoon.

So…I recited scriptures that give me strength and courage and it reminded me WHOSE I am. I sat and remembered how important it is for me to look UP.

…..I opened my affirmation journal and started to read:

New friendships are developing now.

Meeting people and making friendships is easy and effortless.

Women want to know me.

The way is made ready for relationships to grow.

I create relationships with people….for our highest good.

Perfectly wonderful people appear to spend time with me.

Perfect relationships come to me now.

I am in the right place at the right time.

My circle of friends expands.

The way I felt as I was reading my journal went from sadness and desperation to exuberance and love. I picked up the phone and reached out to others. I invited conversation and shared laughter. I sat and remembered how important it is for me to look OUT.

When I feel like I am alone I am reminded that not only do I have an abundance of friends who love and adore me but also that I am God’s Beautiful Child….all is good.

XOXO

Your God Girl

Tracy

Reshaping Thoughts

Reshaping thoughts…Not only were reading good books with substance & transformational information my life line to creating a new mindset, BUT I surrounded myself with pictures, words & quotes that made me feel alive.

Vision Boards, Dream Posters, Image books, signs on my mirror, verses in my car, cut outs on my bulletin board.  Anywhere I looked & everywhere I was in my home, there was something to remind me of reshaping my thoughts to something new, something amazing, something magnetic.

Now….it is part of who I am.  It just is.  I still read great books, still have reminders all around my home, and still write affirmations BUT now, it is a peaceful, authentic and glowing reality of who I am and how I live my life.  It IS me.

If you’re not sure how to change your mindset, how to begin the journey of positive thinking or how to come up with the words to use….… just start somewhere….

Here are some affirmations that might get you started….

I move steadily from where I am to where I want to be.

I do what works.

True excellence is always present,

I am divinely full of enthusiasm, moving into new ways & new directions.

I attract what I want.

I act for what I want.

I am an integrating force for good.

I think thoughts of truth,

I uplift all those around me.

I encourage others, I empower others, I appreciate others.

Happiness abounds everywhere I go.

If there is something you no longer want, be sure to write it in a positive manner.  For example, if you want to say “I’m not afraid of doing X anymore”, word it positively “Love prevails when I do X” or “I embrace all the good in X”.   Remember to put them into “I” statements.  Use positive, uplifting and affirming words.  Have fun with what you come up with.  IT will BE YOU.

xxoo

Your God girl,

Tracy

Not Giving Attention To Negative Thoughts

Yesterday we talked about replacing  thoughts..  Today I want to talk about what giving attention to negative thoughts will create for you…

Your thoughts are far more powerful than you might imagine and they go forward to create your future.  What you think about, speak about, talk about and give your attention to WILL become your reality, so you have to be very mindful of what you are focused on.

The thoughts that you hold in mind will produce after their own kind and your thoughts will produce an energy field around you that will end up attracting to you the kinds of things that you are thinking.

Remember that character in Peanuts, Pigpen?  He had a dirt cloud that surrounded him wherever he went, crappy thoughts will work like that…they will form a dirty cloud around you and they will begin to attract things that are similar.  Negative circumstances are no mystery; they arrive because we have given too much attention to negative thoughts, worry, fear and doubt.  We will also attract unfavorable circumstances when we are critical, judgmental, angry and ungrateful…like attracts like…that will always be true. Misery loves company.

Thankfully this same principle of ‘like attracts like’ will work in your favor when you start thinking more positive things, when you are grateful and when you focus on what’s good and what works.

There is no EASY button for changing your thinking or for teaching yourself how to stay focused on what you want more of, it requires discipline and work to stay vigilant about your thinking.  However, the results that can be produced by this practice are life-altering…you CAN create the life that you want and the Holiday Season that you want, you just have to be willing to do the work…xoxoxo

 

CONTROL Your Thoughts…

Often we find ourselves ‘stuck’ in circumstances that we consider unfavorable and we lament them in our thoughts, thinking things like “why me???”, “poor me!”, “how can this be my life???” etc

We invite these pitiful thoughts in for tea and scones and then invite them back for lunch and dinner.  We feel trapped in the circumstances because we keep the thoughts of them alive in our minds.  In order to overcome circumstances we MUST learn to overcome ourselves which means manage our thoughts!

When sad, pitiful, failure breeding thoughts step in we have to slam the door on them, we cannot allow them access even for a moment.  All it takes is a second and your whole day can be thrown off track by one pathetic thought such as “why don’t I have more money?”.

You have to be VIGILANT in policing your thoughts.  Think ONLY the things that are going to push you forward, STOP entertaining thoughts that make you feel worse!

This morning I was speaking to one of my oldest and dearest friends, he is an amazing man, smart, handsome, talented and witty among other things.  He has been in the middle of some trials for the past few years and I fear he is losing heart, this morning I explained to him that at times he is his own worst enemy because he gives voice to the negative chatter in his head.  Like so many of us when we are being tried, he feels like it will never end, he feels like this trial has become who he is. That is a FALSE idea; he is a WARRIOR and a CHAMPION as we all are.  I know this for him every day and I remind him of it as often as I can.  I am reminding YOU as well!

You are an OVERCOMER, A CHAMPION, A WARRIOR!  Start ACTING like that; stop suffering by visiting with the negative, stupid, self-defeating chatter in your head.

Only YOU can change the circumstances of your life and you do this by first changing every, single thought you have.  If it is an unproductive thought, BANISH it and replace it with something that works…such as ‘every day in every way things are getting better and better’—you don’t have to know how right now, you just need to know that it IS happening, things are getting better and better…

Action follows thought, control your thinking, be vigilant…and NEVER GIVE IN to that self-defeating crap…NEVER!