Do you want a Man’s Man? A strong, get-it-done, rough & tumble kinda man?
Then you need to listen to what he says, & watch what he does. Do those two things line up? When he says he’s going to pick you up at 8:00… does he pick you up at 8:00? When he says it’ll be fun to go somewhere special, does he take you there? When he says he’ll make the plan for Friday night, does he follow through? When he says he doesn’t eat junk food, does he go to a fast food place and justify why?
Are you asking why does this matter?
It matters because
# 1 – it’s important that your man keeps his word
#2 – it’s important that he values his commitments to you
#3 – it‘s important…because when he says “you’re beautiful”… you believe him
Men are action oriented. They are doers, hunters, fighters, chasers. They are bold, courageous and strong. If we don’t give them the space to be that MAN, and we take away THAT manhood that we want so much… they could feel unwanted, undervalued or even threatened and they just might leave.
It is not our job to be the man in the relationship. It is not our job to do, to get, to fix, to plan. It is our job to BE….be femininity, be heart, be comfort, be quiet, be encouragement. They have hard edges, ours are soft. They get to the point, we talk in long sentences. They drive, we relax. They do, we be. Am I making sense?
If we don’t allow them the space to hunt, court, defend, protect …..because we’re doing it. Because we’re calling first, we’re making the plans, we’re in control, we’re figuring it out and we’re fixing it where it’s messy…. if we DO all the DOING….. we’re not giving them the opportunity to be living at “full throttle” in their manliness… protecting, providing, fixing… and they just might not stick around. You can be an independent woman and still bring on the captivating feminine.
So sit down, smile, flip your hair and bat your lashes. He’s about to Man Up.