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Choosing The Right Education For Your Children

Education is said to be one of the greatest things we can provide for our children.  That makes finding the right education for our children one huge responsibility as single mothers but what do you do when school just doesn’t fit your child?  Between bullying and the rising threat of school shootings toped by inadequate funding for education. I was facing this reality for my oldest son Logan. Logan has a long history of being physically and emotionally bullied in school, by students, paras and a teacher in his educational career.

Logan has an IEP and I have seen him be singled out by some of his mainstream teachers, He doesn’t have a behavioral disorder he is extremely high functioning autistic, which makes socialization difficult sometimes and he can get sensory overload.  About two years ago a para assigned to my boy decided when he laid down on his time out mat for sensory reasons that it would be ok to kick my son in the back and the head. I threw a fit and when the school didn’t do anything about it I pulled him out.

Logan used to be an advanced reader, but because of his IEP he hasn’t been challenged academically, to the point now he has fallen behind. Being frustrated and quite honestly fed up I decided to try a different approach. I have pulled him out of school after another incident and instead of trying a new regular school we are trying a online school.

To be honest this is the first time in a long time I am excited for a new school, and so is Logan. He’s a little down about not hanging out with kids all day but I’ve already signed him up with a fall sport and a spring sport through the community and this school offers events where the kids in the same class can meet each other since it is a locally based school. This school also offers student free career and tech classes once they are caught up. There is live class lessons and discussions where Logan can hear and see his classmates and teacher. The best part of this school is we can make his lessons completely individualized!

So here’s to new beginnings and bright futures I’ll follow up and report how its going before the end of the school year.

Always be unapologetically true to yourself

Ali

Unicorns and Daddy’s Girls

It is mid-July. I stroll through Wal-Mart picking up supplies for the office, and I see the table of mix and match outfits for little girls. I realize haven’t started shopping for school clothes and supplies. With three daughters, all now in school, it dwells on me that I am as behind on this as the IRS processing refunds this past year.

My youngest is five and headed into big girl school. She loves unicorns. I pick up a coordinating, sparkly, and sure to wow the fellow Kindergarteners, unicorn outfit.  Leaving the store, unicorn sass attire in hand, I am Super Mom and feel confident I may win the heart of my Daddy’s girl daughter (if only for a few moments).

That evening I come in with my imaginary Super Mom cape flowing behind me and announce to her, “Mommy picked out something special for school!” Wait for it………………….

The avalanche of tears that begin to pour down her face were reminiscent of the time I forgot I was filling up the sink to thaw out something for dinner until, yes you know it, my kitchen was flooded. In between sobs, she finally gets out, “But Daaaaaddddyyyyyyy was supposed to to to to to (insert stuttering cry rambling) take me shopping!!!!!!”

Aaaaahhhhhhhh, now it makes sense. If I bought her an outfit, in her mind, Daddy would not take her shopping. Myself and my older daughters (9 and 14) attempt to explain she can pick out other things with Daddy too. Still to no avail, the tears fall.

Remembering what it was like to only have a few things and time exclusive with my own Dad, and how invested I was when looking forward to my time with him, I chose to eliminate the issue all together. I asked her, “Would you like for me to just take it back to the store?”.

If those tears didn’t dry up faster than the gas stations in Houston when a tropical storm turns into a hurricane in the gulf, I tell you what! My older daughters carefully eyed my own face for evidence of hurt feelings and water works. I shrugged my shoulders and giggled a little, gave them a wink, and the world was at peace again.

So, I hid the bag from the store, and I probably won’t remember to take it back within the allowed time. I’m predictable in that way. So are my girls. The youngest, more than all of them, knows exactly what she wants and how she’d like to obtain it. I am ok with that and I am ok with some things just being off limits to Mommy because she’s reserved them for her Daddy.

What did I learn that day? Unicorn outfits are restricted to shopping with Dad. My daughters are growing up to be independent, strong willed, and more and more patient than needing to be instantly gratified. Oh, and it is OK if they’d prefer to do something with Dad over me. I still make “the best pizza rolls there ever could be”. I’m good with that.

-Ellen in Texas Y’all

Time And Money Saving Two Meal Entree For Those Back To School Nights

If you’re like me back to school time can be totally crazy, especially on nights where you have to be two places at once and don’t have time to cook or really know exactly when you will be home that night. The meat reheats great and can be easily used the next night with a quick cook microwave veggie on day 2.

What you need:

Pork Chops

Bread Crumbs

Ears of corn (we did 3)

Garlic salt or your favorite seasoning

Spring Mix

Tomato

Onion

Other Salad Toppings

Olive Oil

This meat is a deal….it’s actually 4 meals worth for us. Tonight we are using half and freezing the other half.

Preheat Oven to 400 degrees

These pork chops are huge so you will want to cut them in half…so 3 in the pack make 6 really good size pork chops. Coat them in olive oil & bread crumbs. Cook for 25-30 minutes.

Boil your corn and make your salad.

Disclaimer: My kids pretty much eat the pork chop & corn only. They will eat veggie pasta & some of the frozen microwave veggies…so that’s how we avoid fast food on night 2. Just reheat & serve.

You can see the entire recipe along with photos at https://fake-it-until-you-make-it.com/2018/08/14/two-meal-entrees/

~Bethany

You can follow Bethany on her blog at https://fake-it-until-you-make-it.com

You Are Enough-Just As You Are

Lately I have been thinking about where I would like my family to be … and where we are. There is a gap. Some days it feels like a chasm.

Both of my daughters are taking summer school this year. Not because they are learning a third language or preparing to win first place in the state science fair or taking special classes for high school students at Ivy League schools. It seems like my facebook friends’ kids are all doing these things. Seriously, who are these families??? My daughters are going to summer school to improve basic academic skills. They are both smart girls, but they are not disciplined students. This past school year has been a tough one for them and for me.

It would be easy for me to beat myself up about this. Education is something that I value. Frankly, I can be a snob about it. I am quick to point out that both of my daughters could read when they started kindergarten. When I get down, I cling to the fact that I was brave enough to go to graduate school in mid-life, and I now have a masters degree and a new career (and the student debt to prove it — LOL).

I’m sure that my attitude toward education started when I was young. When I was growing up, school was something that I knew I could do well, and where I could receive praise in spite of anything else that was going on in my life.

The year that my parents divorced, the effects showed up throughout our family. My eldest sister almost failed Algebra. I remember my mother explaining to me that my sister’s teacher had told her that “some girls just aren’t good at math” and suggested that my sister avoid math classes in the future. My mother was smart enough to dismiss this advice (and change schools the next year).

My mother was enough. And there were moments when she was down right heroic. My sister “who wasn’t good at math” went on to earn an engineering degree. This couldn’t have happened without a mother who recognized that my sister was smart and her bad grades were due to lack of focus, not lack of aptitude.

What I can do for my daughters is … my best. I can make them go to summer school even though they would rather sleep in and play electronic games and eat junk food all day. I can tell them that they have to earn their own money to have some of the privileges that they would like. In time, my daughters will blossom into women who will be beautiful and accomplished in their own ways.

I know that whether or not I always recognize it, I am enough. Just as I am. And you are, too. So hug the stuffing out of those kids. And who knows? Perhaps we all have moments when we are heroic mothers. And our kids will appreciate it. Someday. When they have kids of their own — LOL.

Liz Possible ​is a Writer and Single Mom Extraordinaire. She lives in Minnesota with her two teenage daughters and their cats, Beau and Phoebe. “Possible” is her attitude, not her legal name — but then you knew that. Follow Liz at her blog at www.lizpossible.com and her FaceBook page at https://www.facebook.com/MySingleMomLife/