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Our Normal Routine Getting Flipped Upside Down

I am a routine person true and true… I do not handle abrupt change well so needless to say this last few weeks have been extremely hard.  I went into the week with everything planned and scheduled, by Friday everything was chaos.  No routine, no schedule, just a lot of unknowns.  

Let’s start with my career, I work in hotel sales. Thursday, March 12th, is when it all started to unravel for us…  We were going into back to back sold out weekends and then the coronavirus began to hit. In a matter of hours, it seemed like the world had changed…Hundreds of hotel cancellations had came thru, concerts cancelled, the NHL postponed… St Patrick’s Day activities were all put on hold. What started out as a typical Thursday had ended as one I will never forget.  It just escalated the next week with having to furlough most of our employees. I still feel at times I’m just living in a dream… 

That just transpired into my home life with sports cancellations, play dates postponed, stores closing,  and then the announcement of online learning would begin. So many abrupt schedule changes… and before that Thursday my biggest worry was having to get one kid to cheer and one to soccer at the same time..

Fast forward a few days.. The kids have now started distance learning and I’m working from home.  So much to process with changing schedules and all activities coming to a complete halt. It was complete overload.  I have a hard time making an instant transition when it’s not pre-planned.   

So here we are the first day in and I’m just a mess… I’m a creature of habit. I get up at 5:20 each day  go to the gym before work, come back and get ready… here I am with all gyms closed. I scrolled thru you tube for workout videos and there is about a million to choose from…which gives anyone a migraine. 

So instead I skipped working out for today, stayed in my pjs, ate chips while I worked from the couch.  By 4 pm, felt defeated and so overwhelmed with all the changes. I was crabby at my kids all day and yelled at them numerous times for the smallest things. It finally got to a point where my daughter said, “ why are you so crabby” nothing seemed to feel normal or in order. 

I think it was a lot of the abrupt changes and disruption to my normal schedule. I decided that night that I needed to get back on track. No one knew how long we would all be together and I would not survive without sticking to some sort of routine.  

The most important thing for me was still getting up and exercising. So starting the next day, I would be up by 6:30 and go for a 3 mile walk or run.  It felt like an accomplishment and some what normal. I also added in another short walk at the end of the day. I then get ready for the day and listen to a podcast, the same as if I was driving into the office.  

The distance learning is still a challenge for me and will take some time to get into more of a groove. I try and stick to the school schedule but with working from home and many interruptions it doesn’t go as planned. Honestly, if it says optional we skip it.  I have enough going in life right now without trying to be the overachiever teacher.  

I’m learning just do small things through out the day that keep it as normal as possible. Exercising, organizing, making a to do list, are all things that have kept me in as much as a normal routine as possible.  

I don’t make my kids do every activity that is sent out by their teachers… we do the best we can and we get through it.  We take it day by day… 

-snarky

https://www.snarkydivorcedgirl.com/blog

Getting Out Of Bed Has Saved Me

Getting out of bed and morning routines have saved me. If you knew me in college, this would never have happened.  20 years later I would be a person that loves a morning routine. And now I set my alarm to get up earlier than I need too including on the weekends, I still stick to a routine.  Yes, I set my alarm most weekends because otherwise I just won’t do it.. I come up with some excuse and then I’ve missed my opportunity.  We all do it.. say we are going to get up early but it just doesn’t happen. Setting a routine and sticking to it everyday works.

After my divorce,  my life seemed to get crazier with my kids and settling into a new lifestyle… there is a lot of adjusting with schedules, emotions, and just life.  I know people think that when you share custody you have all this free time. FALSE. I almost think I’m more busy ( that’s a story for another time).  I knew I had to do something different with my daily schedule. I needed to find time for myself and not finding time to exercise was making me more stressed. I felt so overwhelmed with the changes in my life and my mind was going to explode.  Like when you are trying to think about all these things to get through but your head is just scrambled.

I decided to start a morning routine, which includes getting up at 5:15 am.  This is not something that happens easy … it takes time to change habits and it’s hard.  I had to change my nightly routine and go to bed earlier.  And many days I have to drag my body out of bed and I still do..but I love it.  Morning is my favorite time.. it’s my time. I usually go to the gym and workout for that hour.

Crazy thing happened…After a couple of months of sticking to a routine.  I noticed that I am more prepared when my kids wake up and I’m not losing my shit every morning.  I am more productive at work because I’ve had time to plan my day and think about what I need to accomplish.   And I feel better about myself for getting up and doing something. It’s that feeling of accomplishment.

It’s my time of the day and I schedule it.  I get to prepare myself for the day ahead and not feel so rushed.  I hate that rushed feeling of not being caught up with life…. You start to feel scattered and running behind on everything in life..Routines keep me on track for the week.

Some days I go for a walk, write a blog, listen to a podcast, follow up on small projects or just sit outside..but I stick to the same routine that includes time to focus for myself.  Your daily routine does not need to include exercise, it can be whatever you want.  What is something you want to do each day but can never find time… this is the time that you can schedule it.  For me, this gave me an extra hour in the day.. one hour, 60 minutes, for seven days adds up.. it’s amazing what you can find to fill that hour.. and pretty soon it’s a routine for you and feels normal

-Snarky

https://www.snarkydivorcedgirl.com/blog