The Tao of Mr. Rogers….
While I am not a fan of resolutions I have been trying really hard to make both my 48th year and 2020 the year I am kinder to myself.
It started by not filtering my photos.
It’s a small step but if I can’t embrace and love who I am, how can I possibly expect anyone else to?
A lot of this shift started with Mr. Rogers.
I work with the under five set and I grew up on Mr. Rogers, so when the Tom Hanks movie came out, I started visiting with my favorite cardigan wearing sage again.
Secret: I would change my shoes and put on a sweater when I would watch the show when I was little.
Now you know that about me.
One of my favorite quotes from my man is:
“There is no person in the whole world like you and I like you just the way you are.”
Another absolutely fantastic one:
“There isn’t anyone you couldn’t learn to love once you’ve heard their story.”
Yet we live in a world that tells us to hide our true selves away.
As I write this I am snuggled under a blanket that looks like a tortilla because I love tacos.
I am a taco snob.
I fly that flag- high.
As I should.
But along the way I’ve been teased, questioned, gotten an eye roll.
That’s a teeny example. A random kinda silly one.
But a bigger secret. A deeper, harder one to share. I am incredibly shy. I have a hard time showing my true self to people I care about. See people I’m dating. Yes we are going there, just a little for now. I worry about being too much. Not enough. I have had a bad habit of comparing myself to other people.
Boy, Mr. Rogers would be disappointed in me for that one.
There isn’t a magic switch to make that stop. But, I have changed my environment. I’m working on changing my mindset.
I have edited out the people who thrive on being negative cheerleaders. Here’s the thing. I appreciate honesty. I don’t appreciate cruel. Backhanded compliments. People who feed my insecurities.
We all have had those people… “I’m your honest friend.”
A blog for never.
Forty eight may be the year of no filter, but it’s also the year I let certain things go.
Even if they’re people.
Somewhere along the way we forgot the lessons from our childhood. Being yourself is amazing. People who really, truly love you will love you. Even if you have a really unhealthy obsession with tacos.
I am also wearing taco socks right now. Yup, also a gift.
I know it’s hard. Being yourself. Not comparing. But did you forget who you are?
You’re a Momma and there is absolutely no one like you, and that makes you amazing.
Much love Mommas