On Saturday’s Coffee Chat we talked about doing an inventory of the relationships and alliances in your life and whether or not they are serving you anymore. I mentioned being very aware of who contributes to you and who takes away from you—everybody that you encounter does one or the other—they either ADD to your life or they zap your energy.
When you make the decision that you want a different kind of life you must be willing to take the actions that will make that manifest in your reality, often times that means that we have to divest ourselves of some stuff…people, objects, behaviors. Anything that is no longer serving you must be left behind otherwise you will be unable to move forward.
It takes great strength to realize what you need to let go of and even greater strength to actually DO IT. You cannot move into the future that you want for yourself by dragging along people and things from the past, not all people want to change. Some people are quite happy complaining about how things never change vs. actually taking ACTION to change them. Change is uncomfortable, however being uncomfortable causes us to grow as human beings and if we are not growing, we are becoming complacent and inevitably declining…
Time to start LOOKING at who and what is around you and deciding what stays and what goes—clutter, old clothes, papers, behaviors, people that drain you etc
Time to CLEAN HOUSE –the first step in Practical Change is to take inventory and be willing to tell the truth to yourself about what is no longer working for you. This can be difficult as often people that we love are not committed to moving ahead in their lives and for us to move ahead we will have to change our associations with them. The hardest thing to do is step back from people that we love that are unwilling to help themselves—in those cases it’s either ‘us’ or ‘them’—as I always say, “there is a reason the airlines tell you to put your oxygen mask on first.”
Do not be afraid to admit to yourself what is no longer working and don’t be afraid to cut it loose—everything that you want is on the other side of you making these changes. It is time to make NEW beginnings and start surrounding yourself with the things that will support the life that you are creating. See you Saturday for Coffee Chat!