TINDER LOVING CARE
P. Charlotte Lindsay
“Single mom, writer, and community service maven seeks kind, compassionate, intelligent, funny man, steady in his life – to exchange witty banter, clever repartee, and perhaps see where it leads. Tall is a plus. I’m 5’11”.”
– P. Charlotte’s Blurb
THE TEN THINGS TINDER TAUGHT ME…
It was a dire situation. Desperate even.
After fourteen years of marriage, commitment, hard work, and all things housewifely, I found out my man had another woman… for fourteen years.
BAM! All at once, I was single again.
After another year or three of crying about it, my friends, my family, even my children told me, “Enough! Time to move on.”
Problem was, I was a 45-year-old single mother of two who worked full-time. Not the best catch in LA’s sea of nubile young models and taught, budding actresses. Even worse, I had been on maybe a total of ten dates my entire life. You could count the number of men I’d slept with on three fingers.
Did I mention I was 45 and a single mom?
Nevertheless, one night my friend Peggy plied me with margaritas, teased my hair, painted my face, and dressed me up in all sorts of ‘so not me outfits.’ She took sexy pics, intellectual pics, and the requisite “sporty” pic. She fiddled at the computer, with my Facebook account, tinkered with my I-phone, and voilá – I was on Tinder.
Tinder is an “app.”
app |ap| noun
1. Abbreviation for “application.”
2. A small program that can be downloaded onto your phone with the help of a Peggy.
…And maybe the greatest invention of the 21st century, wherein with just a cell phone and the swipe of a finger, a 45-year-old woman can get a date… better yet, a 45-year-old single mom can get laid. (If that’s what she’s looking for).
At the time, I did not want to get laid.
I wanted to feel like a person again. Not a mom, or a broken heart. Not dog-walker, or housekeeper, or neighbor, friend, boss, daughter, sister, writer… or anyone requiring any sort of need. I wanted to feel like my own separate self.
I wanted a man to sit across from me, in some sort of public space (preferably a restaurant) at some form of table (preferably at Chateau Marmont, but hell – I’d take Starbucks), with a beverage (other than water), and maybe even some food. (Am I pushing it?)
Then, I wanted this man to have a conversation with me wherein he would listen to me when I spoke, speak to me in turn, laugh with me, and I would feel pretty again.
In short, this man would pay attention to me.
Following, we would fall madly in love. He’d reveal he was a secret billionaire and exsoccer star, who in his spare time worked to save orphans in Africa. He’d give me a massive diamond ring, and I’d drop twenty pounds from sheer joy (a yet to be discovered scientific diet-phenomenon), then we’d travel the world on his private jet and live happily ever after.
And this is exactly what I got….
Well, not even close.
Stay with me. I’ll come back to this…