What puts the “wonder” in the woman?
I had a bad dream on Saturday night—It woke me up at 6am on Sunday and I was so unsettled that I just got up. In the dream Antonio was still little and my ex-husband had taken him for a visit, and I was freaking out because I was unable to reach them, and I was worried that he would not bring Antonio back. I woke up remembering the times that I felt like that, which were infrequent because the ex was pretty much not around the kid’s whole life—that fact likely made me more concerned about trusting him when he did take the kid for a visit. I had to remind myself that Antonio will be 20 in a few weeks and that he lives right down the street with his own phone and his own car etc.
When I settled myself with those facts, I started thinking about how nobody really helped me with raising him and then I thought about everything that I have been able to do for us—how I brought us from filing bankruptcy to where we are today—how he is going to be 20 soon which means that I have been at this parenting thing for two freaking DECADES. Then I thought about how much I worried about shit that I couldn’t control, about how f—ing terrified I was most of the time, about how many times I cried after he went to bed or when he was at school because I was just so damn scared about everything. I was on my own in TN for 12 years with him…his father visited once, my Mother visited never…that’s another whole story for another day…
Point is that I made it, I did it— we are OK, we were OK, I figured it out, I kept going, I keep going. Now I worry less because I realize that it wastes my energy and when you worry you attract things to be worried about. None of us need that kind of help. Truly. STOP worrying.
These days I continue to practice what I teach you, vibe from a better, higher place, think the next best thought, elevate yourself on the daily. Appreciate what you have, keep doing the next thing and then the next.
Do me a favor—stop once in awhile in the middle and think about how FAR you have come, I never do that. I am trying to learn to do it more—mostly I just kept moving because I was afraid that if I stopped, I would not be able to pick myself back up—I did not give in to despair EVER because I imagined that if I did it would put me out and then who would take care of the kid…so for him I just kept doing the next thing.
I remember days that I was so afraid about money or something else that I could hardly breathe—so I would do the next thing and then say some affirmations or pick up a book that would help me direct my thoughts in a better way.
In case you ever wonder if I know what it feels like to be YOU, I DO. It’s just that I am a bit further along and I created this work with The Working Single Mom brand to help you see that you can make it too—you can and you WILL. No matter what is happening now, you will get through it—I did, I do and you will.
Let me help you see what it looks like to get on the other side of hell—I will keep sharing my stories and you keep doing the next thing and use the tools that I am teaching—those tools and those prosperity principles saved my life and they work if you work them.
What puts the “wonder” in Wonder Woman is you and the GRIT to keep going.
courage and resolve; strength of character
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