When my son, who is now 22, was a little boy, I was allllll about “THERE’S A PLACE FOR EVERYTHING AND EVERYTHING IN ITS PLACE.” That was more for me than it was for him or for anyone else, really. You see, I didn’t want it to take20 minutes for us get out the door every time we had somewhere to go.
When we were going to “Mommy & Me”, I wanted to know where my purse and his jacket and his firetruck were. At my fingertips, there had to be his bestest friend “Freddie” and his car snack bag & his play bag. “What about the bag of hand me downs for the other boys?” Oh AND MY COFFEE. Etc etc etc. Until WHOOSH, we were out the door in no time flat. That’s why I put things in their place.
If everything is where it belongs…. it takes no time to get everything together and go.
Life just works better when you’re organized…. and on purpose with your life. You show up on time AND you’re in a happier mood because you weren’t running around the house like a banshee looking for everything, everywhere. You didn’t have to open and close the closet door 5 times, you didn’t have to look under the bed…again. It’s all right there . The kids and all you need….are out the door with you.
The most important part in this is to let the kids put their things where they go…not you. And when they ask “HEY MOM….where’s my xyz?” You can tell them “It’s where you left it.” They will learn on their own along with your teachings and guidance how important it is to keep things tidy…..Especially when mom says “The bus is leaving in… 5, 4, 3, 2, 1” And you walk out the door.
Tears….Lots and Lots of them…The other day I was talking to a client who was crying about her situation. I knew this was a desperate situation and I reassured her there would be no more crying when I was done. She went on to tell me how ‘stuff was everywhere’.’ she has a hard time finding anything’, ‘it has never been this bad’ and ‘it’s going to take more than 4 hours of organizing!’.
We talked about the specifics of her home, what her immediate goals are, what she sees changing as a result of my coming and is she ready to purge.
She is very clear and very ready to have me come clean up the clutter purge the unnecessary and open up a harmonious space in her home for her to paint again.
Our conversation helped her see how her anxious thoughts, her heavy shoulders and her feeling of being burdened were a result of the clutter that was surrounding her. It was an AHA moment for her.
No more tears here…just a smile and an eager client.
I was working with a client recently and she was overwhelmed with the thought “where will it all go?” How would everything she wanted to keep fit in the small spaces she had available. Well…she did not look up, she did not look wide, she did not look in.
Look up…. there is space above your head, knooks and crannies on shelves and on top of armoires that could be a great place for ‘things’ as well as room décor.
Look wide…look beyond the space right in front of you, look at your side tables, bed tables, wall units and fill them with the extra stuff you LOVE.
Look in…that’s about you my dear friend. Look in at the attachment you have to some of your things and really really really take yourself on. Give it away if you can. Throw it away if you’d like And keep it if you must.
Think about organizing like things with like things. Put them into baskets, buckets, boxes, bins. Label them as you pack them away. Put them in cabinets, closets, & on high shelves.
And if it really comes down to the answer of “where will it go?” is “there is no room”. Then it’s time to decide between what you want and what you need to keep.
Make a list, Make a list, make a list. Did I say make a list? Yes.
Write down what you want to have happen, where is the chaos, what
needs decluttering, what space is overwhelming? Just start and keep
writing. Some.of the things on your list could be to ‘own a new car’,
‘clean out the junk drawer’, ‘buy a new perfume’. When you’re
organizing your thoughts, you just keep going…just write…it doesn’t
have to make sense…..buy a new bra ,clean out my garage,
organize the pantry, PB&J for lunch, sew the clothes that need
mending, give away the baby’s clothes. Your list could consist of
many different things. Things you want to see happen, change, fix,
have or purge…etc.
Then organize the list. Pick out what’s REALLY doable over the next
3-6 months. Then write the month next to each line item. Can you buy a
new car within the next 3-6 months? If not, take it off the list.
Keep going through the list identifying the month you can accomplish it.
Can you organize the pantry, get some sewing done, clean out the junk drawer?
Now take what you put into this month and decide what do you
want done this week? Schedule out your days. You have to start
somewhere and you have to start with a doable action. OK let’s pick the
pantry because every time you open it you’re reminded of how messy
it is and you can’t stand looking at it. So today organize the top shelf,
then tomorrow do the next shelf and the day after that, attack the
next shelf, until you’re done. Throw out expired food, stale chips,
crumpled crackers. Say goodbye to the things you don’t eat that are
taking up space. If you want to take on the WHOLE project, then empty
the whole thing and designate what foods are going where and put
them back in an orderly fashion, purging as you go. AND if for some
reason you don’t accomplish ‘it’ then put ‘it’ onto another day. Maybe
your GF called and she really needed you. Don’t beat yourself up.
Tomorrow you can do it. Whatever you do….. it starts with organizing your thoughts…
and then, organizing the space around you is easier to handle.
It’s time to organize and make room for something new.
Purging, tossing, sharing, recycling, releasing, donating…all of that…it’s so important to do…. not only for your sanity, sore back, stress-filled energy & heavy-laden shoulders….BUT also so new things can come to you. If your space is full of piles, clutter, chaos, old memories, excess, chachkies, memorabilia, stuff, stuff & more STUFF….there is no room…I’m talking NO ROOM for new opportunities, new ideas, new movement, new concepts.
Because you’re already full. Full Up. Full Up with everything and anything that may mean something or nothing at all.
So if you haven’t made the time to get it handled. Now sounds like a good time to start,right? Move it on, pass it down, throw it out, give it away. Stuffed drawers, overflowing files, busting-at-the-seams closets, duplicates, triplicates, an abundance of things you don’t use. Make a list of the different spaces you’d like to clean up. Make a list of how you’ll feel if things were different. Then start with one thing. Just one. Get it done and cross it off the list. Smile at your success and see the new is coming your way.