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Welcoming A New Year Of Growth

I am welcoming a new year of growth, a 41 year old single mother of two small children. Yes, you read that right – I was 35 when I had my first child.  My youngest child was born on New Year’s Day, and as this new year begins I am pondering not just her life, but my own.

My divorce from my children’s father was final last December (Merry Christmas to me!!), but I was doing the single mom gig for a long time before that.  Even before my marriage ended.  When I look back over the past few years there are so many moments that seem significant.  Separation, manipulative ex, mediation, divorce. I started dating again, and have met the most amazing man who is still in my life.

But it has been in this part year, in particular, that I have done and have learned so much.  In this past year there have been so many things that have changed.  My boyfriend and I have had to work through things as a couple.  I bought my home – the first I have ever bought alone.  I have had the difficult job of continuing to heal.  Of recognizing that some of the patterns and responses that I accumulated for years in a toxic relationship, while helpful and protective to me in THAT relationship, are no longer needed and in fact are hurtful to new and current relationship(s).  I have had to work on not just recognizing those patterns, but BREAKING those patterns.  It’s been a pretty grueling year, really.

But looking back now, and looking ahead into 2020!

I am proud of myself.  Proud for continuing to WANT to do the hard work of healing and moving forward.  Proud that I work, try to be the best mom I can be, and that I was able to save enough money to buy my house.  I am thankful that I have such a supportive boyfriend.  I have gained a whole new Mom Tribe of friends, acquaintances, and people I can lean on.  I have had to say goodbye to relationships that were holding me back.  I have been able to work on myself, focus on my personal growth, while also focusing on the needs and growth of my children.  While my past is painful, it has led me to here.  And here is a pretty good place to be.

So I look forward to 2020, with open arms.  May it continue to bring love and growth, peace and happiness.  May it do the same for you.

~H

A New Beginning

It’s finally happened, the 2010s are no more and the 20s are now beginning.

Since I am only in my teenage years, this decade has taken up most of my life. It has been a decade so interesting, that it’s hard to keep track. In these past 10 years, we’ve experienced major events in not only our lives, but in pop culture, politics, and news. I’d like to say that I’ve learned a lot in the 2010s. Not just academically, but also lessons that I could use everyday.

Most of the things I’ve learned are due to the mistakes I’ve made on the way. Unfortunately, there were times in the past decade that I didn’t learn from the mistakes I had made. With this new decade now beginning, I decided that it was time to change my habits and work on those things that I want for myself and for my future.

For me personally, I figured out that I needed to start challenging myself in ways I never had before. I’ll be working hard to reach my goals, and I’ll never give up on the hopes I have for myself.

This is exactly what everyone should be doing when entering this new decade. You must figure out your weaknesses and work on how to better improve in that significant area.

Finally, I want to stress the importance of having a positive outlook on what these years have to offer. Just as the 2010s were filled with unexpected surprises, the 2020s will not fall short in that category. Be open to new possibilities and to new beginnings.

Happy new year! -Dani <3

Bravery Is A Keyboard

Bravery is a keyboard…

As I do every Sunday I grab a drink, turn on some music, take my pit stop on social media and start writing.

When you read this it will be a new year. 

Literally 

A new decade

Literally 

As I mentioned in my last blog, I don’t do resolutions.  Guys,I struggle getting my laundry folded. The pressure of a new year, new me. Nope.

However, as I mentioned, I am going to do more things I enjoy.

I am also going to dig into that little catchphrase known as self care. 

I am going to be gentler on myself.

Gentler on those around me.

We all have a story to tell. 

Some of us just can’t tell it.

Over the last few years I have let my insecurities sometimes cloud my judgement. It’s not fair to me or the people in my life. 

 BUT….

I have found strength in a surprising place.

Here.

Every Sunday when I share… one less secret, one less brick holding up my wall.

You all have given me back the bravery I forgot I had.

For that I can’t thank you enough.

Happiest of New Years and New Decade Mommas 

<3 Caprise

New Year No Resolutions

New Year No Resolutions…

As I am preparing to write this I do what I always do and took a little pit stop on social media.

I was hit in the face with frantic last minute Christmas posts and resolutions.

I will be up front about two things.

I still need to shop and I am not making any resolutions. Maybe that’s one in and of itself.

Here’s the thing. 

Ok, a couple. I am absolutely lousy at keeping them. Resolutions.

I am already frantic, please don’t add to my stress. A task I may not complete. That’s stressful.

Also… sometimes resolutions feel targeted. New Year, New Me. What’s wrong with you right now?

Have you ever thought it’s not you?

A lot of times, I’m going to say at least for me. My year is bad because of things around me. The environment, things out of my control.

This was not a banner year for me. To say the least. From job loss. Loss of loved ones. Fractured friendships. A financial bomb.

But I still hope that each New Year is better. I always hope I grow. But at my core I should not be a new me.

Maybe fold my laundry right away so I have more time on Sunday to relax so I don’t feel so stressed come Monday morning.

Get every scrap of information before I make big decisions.

Focus on my humans. The ones who focus on me. Text, call…

Spend less time on social media. I really don’t need to know my cousin three times removed is into some of the things she’s into.

Take time for the little things. When is the last time you peeped a sunrise?

Sing loudly in my car. 

Snuggle with my dog.

Buy the special creamer for my coffee.

These aren’t resolutions. These are things I like to do. I just maybe don’t do them enough.

A new year is a great time to remind yourself to do those things, but honestly Mommas why not all year?

My hope for you is a wonderful holiday and if 2019 wasn’t your year, that 2020 will be.

Much love Mommas.

<3 Caprise

Resolutions & Goals, How Do We Get There?

A few days ago I blogged about not having the pressure of referring to my goals as “New Year Resolutions”…just something I do for myself….but I know that everyone sets some goals or resolutions this time of year for improvement within themselves and their lives.

Here are a few of mine:

1.Weight loss(and yes this is a cliche goal)

2.Family Vacation

3.Full-Time Business Owner(I sit at about half time now)

These are just a few and I have some mini goals that I will do to get to the final destination. I would like to know some of yours, if you are willing to share and not sure how to go about accomplishing them, maybe we can help each other?

Remember-you don’t have to change the world over night! Use the S.M.A.R.T process:

S-Specific

M-Measurable

A-Achievable

R-Realistic

T-Timely

 

Love to All-Kim

 

 

 

2018 Approaches Another Year To Put Behind Us

And here we go, the countdown into the Holiday Crazies and 2018…another year to put behind us and another year to create in front of us.  2017 was the end of a lot of things for me, mainly my corporate Executive Team position with Dreamstime.   Most of you know that after almost 15 years I stepped down to spend more time with my family and to do the work that I feel compelled to do in the world…it has been a time of transition and 7 months later there are still days when I feel complete and utter terror, however I also feel a sense of freedom and right choice.  I know without a doubt that I made the right decision and I look forward to starting the year fresh with my own company and not having to worry about what other people are doing.

I am starting to think about making a list of all the things that were accomplished in 2017 and all of the things that need to be left behind, behaviors, attitudes, conditions and in some cases people.  I am feeling like 2018 is going to be an amazing year filled with miracles that we don’t even expect.  Soon I will start talking to you guys about writing down goals for 2018, so start thinking about that—if you could accomplish ANYTHING in 2018 what would that be??

Also start thinking about what needs to be left behind you as we enter into this new season–and what in 2017 you are grateful for.  The more work we do on being complete and preparing for the new year that we want to manifest, the better things will be.  We will keep talking about this….

 

Noelle