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How To Navigate The Grocery Store

Grocery shopping is one of those necessary tasks and just part of “adulting” but it isn’t always fun, especially when you feel like you are wandering around the store like a lost puppy dog. Thankfully now there is curbside pick-up and delivery services which make the chore a bit more palatable for some. There are SO many options at the grocery store now that it can be hard to discern what to buy. Healthy and clean eating is much more popular and accessible nowadays, which is fantastic, but with it comes a lot of products boasting terms like  ‘all natural’, ‘organic’, ‘low-fat’, ‘Whole30 Approved’…just to name a few. What does it all even mean?! There are so many healthy, organic options on the shelves now but what do you do when this whole clean eating thing is all new territory for you and you are overwhelmed and confused by all of the jargon?! 

Let me give you a few tips to help you navigate the store and simplify the overwhelm so that you can go in and conquer your shopping and press forward with your healthy, clean eating plan.

First things first. Always shop the perimeter of the grocery store! You may never have taken notice but every grocery store you walk into has the exact same layout. The perishable items and fresh produce are on the outside perimeter and the non-perishable, dry goods are on the inside aisles. If your goal is to eat a more healthy and clean diet, stick to the outside perimeter and don’t even venture down the inside aisles and get lost in the land of cookies and chips. On the outside perimeter you will find your fresh produce, meat, and dairy items. 

Go prepared with a list. Entering the grocery store without a plan and a list is asking for it…asking for your cart to be filled with impulse buys and things you likely wouldn’t have chosen had you gone in with a specific list and plan. Take a few minutes before you go to the grocery store and make a game plan. Your wallet and your waistline will thank you for the intentional forethought. 

Don’t go hungry. I think we’ve all made this mistake a time or two and it goes hand in hand with the above tip to go prepared with a list. When we enter the store with a grumbling tummy, our stomach is making more of the decisions than our brain, and that isn’t going to end well (typically). Eat a well balanced meal BEFORE going to the store so that when you arrive you are satisfied, well nourished, and able to think with a clear mind so you can make healthy choices that align with your goals.

Read your labels. Take the time to turn around that box of crackers or bag of granola and look for some key items such as serving size, sugar content, ingredients, calories, saturated/unsaturated/trans fat amounts, as well as sodium amounts. Learning to read and interpret a food label is critical to making healthy choices at the grocery store. It sure does pay to pay attention. There are a lot of “healthy” convenience foods on the shelves now that look good and harmless, but be careful because oftentimes they are still processed to a degree and not as good as fresh, whole foods. 

Navigating the grocery store can be overwhelming and time consuming but I know implementing these 4 easy steps and keeping these things in mind will help you tremendously, especially when it comes to making healthy choices to keep you on track with your goals. Being mindful goes a long way.

Meghan Meredith
HomeBodySoul, Founder
Certified Health & Wellness Coach, Certified Personal Trainer

Navigating Loss

Navigating Loss…

This is a special blog post from me, when I am upset I write…

A few days ago one of my lifetime best friend’s lost his Mother…she was a Light, a force of nature, an amazing human being, a treasure and everything to her incredible family.  My heart is broken for them and I have been thinking about him and his family non-stop since I heard the news.  I know what it is like to lose your anchor humans— what it is like to have to get through the wake and the services, what it takes to keep going through the motions when you can’t even comprehend the impact of the loss.  When I talk to people about the death of a loved one, I tell them the truth…”there is nothing I can say that will make this better, nothing that I can do that will make it shatter you less…what I can promise you is that every day it gets just a little, tiny bit easier to tolerate…”

That IS the truth, when you lose your foundational humans you don’t ‘get over’ that…it is never, ever the same…it is different and in time you will recover to the point that it stings less…yet a day won’t go by that you don’t miss them and want to tell them things…you learn to navigate their departure and you teach others what they taught you and you carry on their legacy and you talk about them and keep them very much alive to your friends, children and family…they are ALWAYS a part of you, no matter where they are.

However, in those first weeks and months it is almost intolerable what you must walk through and it is knowing this that keeps me praying non-stop for my bff and his family…I am praying peace and strength and love for them…

I texted him a note today to remember to FEEL his feelings moment by moment, the most horrible thing about grief is that if you stuff it down it will come back and eat you alive at the worst possible times…you have to feel your way through the catastrophic losses…feel it and keep putting one foot in front of the other and keep walking…you WILL get out the other side.

In addition to feeling all the ‘feels’, remember to celebrate the life of the person that has gone on…they would want you to do that…A’s mom would want her clan to celebrate the hell out of her, she was a vibrant woman and she left a legacy of children and grandchildren that is just incredible—- the whole clan is gorgeous, smart, witty and goes out of their way to help people and do what is right…Shelia got the job done in spades…these are some of the BEST people that I know.

I cannot shield them from these moments or what they must face walking through the next few days, however I can pay tribute to them here and use it to help all of you understand that this isn’t something that you ‘get over’—-this is something that you learn to navigate with time.

You are all stronger than you think and you do have what you need to get through your most difficult circumstances…I promise you…you do.

Be gentle with yourselves during times of great loss, have Grace for what you are walking through…losing foundational people is one of the worst fire seasons…

For A and his family know that I am covering you up in love and prayers and that my heart is with you all…

XO, Noelle

Learning To Navigate The Steps

When I say steps, I don’t mean the kind you walk up, though this is an uphill climb too. I mean the kind that result from a new marriage. 

My kids gained a step-mother  in May of this year. They also gained a step-sister who lives with them when they are with their father and his new family, which is 50 percent of the time. 

I will not lie and tell you that this was hard for my children in the beginning, it was hard for me. It was hard for me because I was jealous. It was hard to watch him move on. It was hard because where my ex and I had communicated well before, even to the point that you could say we were friends, the communication was cut off. On their side of things, I could not definitively tell you the motivation for that. However, I will concede that it must be difficult being a new spouse and forming a new family when there are extra catalysts for discord. 

I wanted to be friends with my ex and his new wife and if we could not be that, I wanted to at least be friendly. This was never allowed. It was seen as an attack on their relationship when I bought a Father’s Day present for my children to give their father. Virtually every time I contacted them I got knots in my stomach because I knew it would be met with nastiness or ignored completely. It was painfully obvious that he was not able (allowed or otherwise) to respond to simple text messages about the children, without consulting her first. I understand being partners very well, and I think if the roles were reversed I would tell my husband about it, but I would not ask what I was allowed to say or do. The thought of asking permission makes my skin crawl. Though trying to see things through my partner’s eyes does not.

I have struggled and agonized over how to handle this situation. I ask myself over and over when contacting them if it is 100% necessary. I ask myself what is in the best interest of my children. I have gone so far as to consider going back to court to attempt to gain primary custody, though that is never what I wanted. I want my children to have a relationship with their father, a great one even. What I do not want is for them to have to play telephone between their father and me. That is not fair to them. It is not fair to them for people to not act like adults. My ex or myself. 

I am still learning. I am dodging minefields some days and not giving it another thought on others. But, the truth of the matter is that this is a real, raw, and nitty gritty part of divorce. I will keep doing what I feel is in the best interest of my children, and I will take it a day at a time. I will swallow my feelings and my pride to be what they need. And I hope if I am met with the situation my ex is in, I am stronger for my kids than he has been.

Stronger Than Yesterday, 

Alice

How To Deal And Navigate The Unexpected

Navigating the Unexpected

Nothing unseats us faster than things we don’t expect—events, circumstances or communications that we weren’t planning for, these are the things that have the capability to throw you if you allow it.

These unexpected events can range from an unwelcome communication to some event concerning our job or children that wasn’t in our master plan.  When this stuff pops up the first thing that we want to do is REACT which usually includes a fair amount of emotion and that never really leads us to a good place…

Unexpected happenings are designed to challenge us and often we allow them to steal our joy and take away our peace of mind, we give into the panic, drama or worry and within minutes we are ‘down the rabbit hole’ and off into all the ‘what if’s’— this methodology is a recipe for disaster…

All seemingly unwelcome events come to teach us something and they come to PASS and not to stay—how fast they pass really depends on our response to them.  We cannot control what comes our way, however we CAN control how we deal with it and how much of our energy we expend on it.  I believe that everything has something to teach us and the faster we are open to the lesson the faster we can move out of the circumstance.

Our response to our lives is KEY, I often tell you that what we call a thing it becomes so if we start calling some circumstance horrid or a travesty or insurmountable then that is exactly what they will become.  When things don’t look the way you want them to you have two choices—one complain about them to anyone who will listen and lament about how horrible your plight is OR you can choose to know that somewhere in it there is good and you can start saying things like “I know what to do and I do it”, “solutions present themselves to me”, “Divine Order is present here and now” and my favorite “every day in every way things are getting better and better for me now”.

Since I have been pushing that affirmation with you guys these past few Sundays on the FB live, I have started using it more myself.  Today when my daily prayer partner asked me how I was on our morning call instead of listing out all my grievances I just said you know what “every day in every way things are getting better and better for me now” and they laughed and I laughed and said, “I could list out for you all my seeming problems today, however what the hell difference would it make?  So I am just going with this statement as my answer— how I am today is better and better and I am sticking to that all day.”

So far, so good and it is 12:34pm at the moment—- I mean shit what do I have to lose, right?  I teach this stuff, it works, I tell you to do it—so instead of giving voice to my complaints I am doing it too.

It is all what we make of it—- if I list out all my crap then I only give it more power and I KNOW this for SURE.  The best place that you can be is peaceful within yourself—no HIGH highs, no LOW lows—if you can remain at peace knowing that whatever is displaying itself to you is only temporary then you will achieve a level of self mastery that most people never see.  It is a difficult thing to do and takes practice, yet do the work on yourself and you can get there.  I still work on this myself regularly—-it gets easier to quell your reactions with time.

So for this week strive to keep yourself in a peaceful place and know that unwelcome circumstances don’t come to stay, they come to pass.

 

Join me for Coffee Chat, Sunday on FB live at 10am est.

See you then.

-XO, Noelle