Tag Archives: motivate

I’d Rather Not

I’d rather NOT do anything today…I’d rather not go workout, write this blog post, have gotten up at 5:15am to keep my ‘new’ regime on track, I’d rather not have talked to clients this morning, cleaned up the kitchen dishes, unpacked the amazon boxes and folded the laundry that was in the living room…

I’d rather not figure out how to help the family members that are suffering from their own lack of discipline, I’d rather not keep helping my son figure out his life…I’D RATHER NOT.

However…I am wise enough to know that this is just a feeling that I am having, a passing thing, it is not who I am, it is not what I will do, it doesn’t ‘mean’ anything….it’s a feeling and my life is not run by my feelings…my life is run by my intentions and my promises…thank God for that.

If you have been reading my blogs or watching me on Sunday mornings you know that I have instituted a new habit of getting up at 5:15am and getting into the gym early—weekdays—in order to make sure that I get up, Tracy (who blogs for us and is my bff) and I have a quick call at 5:20am—I have news, we’d both rather not on most of the days.  Yet we DO…we do it whether we ‘feel’ like it or not, we do it because we are pushing ourselves on purpose…we know that nothing new can be created by doing the same old things and we decided that we wanted to create amazing things for 2020.  Our friendship spans over 30 years and we know that our word is all that matters, we know how to produce the result no matter what, no matter how we feel in the moment or what we think.  This is the stuff that keeps your edges sharp which I talked about in last week’s blog.

Left to our own devices without ‘checking’ our behaviors or disciplining ourselves in uncomfortable ways we end up with dull edges…muddling along with things undone piling up all around us…how do you think that a hoarder becomes trapped by their own stuff…one box or pile at a time.

How does someone gain an extra 100 pounds???…one pound at a time.

Without checkpoints in our behavior we will go for the ways of least resistance…

“I will clean it tomorrow”

“I will workout tomorrow”

“I will fix it later”

“I’ll deal with it when I feel like it”

These are the songs that we sing ourselves and then before you know it we turn around and things are out of hand and much harder to fix/change.

I was always told that in this life we will suffer because it is how we GROW and that I could either CHOOSE my suffering or the Universe would bestow it upon me.  I would much rather CHOOSE my hard than have it foisted on me.

And so I do crazy shit like keep score on myself and get up early and force myself to workout etc etc…

Personally, I don’t want my edges to dull and I am willing to do whatever it takes to create the reality that I want…are you?

Something worth thinking about.

See you next week.

XO, Noelle

The Power Of No

The power of no…

On and off throughout my life I have been told I’m too much. Too sad, too happy. Too short, too chubby. Too shy. I have held onto those statements good, bad and otherwise and used them as my kick starters. The constant tape in my head.

However, my biggest motivator is the word no.

When I’m told no as the saying goes “I do it twice and take pictures.”

I have heard no my whole life. As a small person for obvious reasons. But the first time I heard no and used it to light a fire was in junior high. Some of my friends were cheerleaders. I was mildly interested. When I shared this with a friend and was overheard by a classmate (who promptly told me someone who was so shy like me couldn’t possibly be a cheerleader). I tried out and became a Basketball cheerleader.  It was short lived, because yes I didn’t like being in front of people,but I did it.

In high school when I was told my poems weren’t that great, I became our literary magazine’s editor my senior year.

In college when in a class I was told I should keep my opinions to myself I ran for student government and became president of our hall.

Ok… maybe it’s not the word no exactly but the being told I can’t do something.

Even if I know I will probably fail. I am going to still try. I have to.

When I first started out in radio I remember having a station manager tell me a young lady like me should do admin work. Throughout my career I was told my voice was an experiment. The first comment led to me applying for and getting a paid on air shift. The second caused  me to leave commercial radio. For many years. Later when our community got a public volunteer radio station- yours truly applied and hosts not one but two radio shows.

I always apply for a job I’m interested in. You just never know . Someone may say yes. Case in point I wanted to work with kids, I saw an ad teaching children Spanish, my experience was adults. But I tried. Thirteen years later and I now run my own center.

I have asked bands for interviews. What’s the worst that can happen? I hear no. I have already heard it. A few have said yes.

My most favorite leap … well you are a part of it. I have always wanted to write. REALLY write. But who possibly would want to read what I had to say? A dear friend of mine saw The Working Single Mom was looking for bloggers. I submitted a piece that was incredibly personal and we never published…a year later, geez I think even longer actually. Here we are.

No is easy to hear and let become a piece of negative talk we all play in our brains. But if a shy, failed cheerleader like me can use it for power. Mommas so can you.

Remember who you are….a magical creature. You are the keeper of hearts,hopes and dreams. No is nothing to magical beings like us.

 

<3 Caprise

Mood MATTERS!

What is your mood today???

I have for you the best answer to the most asked question on the planet.

What you are experiencing right now is what’s called intellectually confounding.

You want to know the answer because its the best, yet you’re not even sure what the question is.

The most asked question on Planet Earth is….

“How are you”?

I’m sorry to report the most asked question on planet earth is given the least amount of attention. The least amount of care. The least consideration.

But not me. I won’t give in to mediocrity.

Average is the best of the worst and the worst of the best.

And easy is the enemy of progress.

I have taken an oath, a challenge to disrupt the world.

You only control one thing in your life. ONE. Your mood.

Everything else is out of your control.

Yes, I don’t smoke, I don’t drink or drug, I eat right and exercise-but that’s no guarantee that I’ll live another day. I could get hit by a bus tomorrow. I could get a lousy call from the Dr.

ANYTHING is possible.

Which also means anything IS possible.

So, I choose to control what I CAN control.

My Attitude.

Yup, its the six inches between my ears.

But it’s my call.

That’s on ME!

So each and everyday I pick a mood from my Choose a Mood Box.

It’s my choice so I stacked the deck.

For the last 6 months each and every time someone asked me how I was I answered “AMAZING”, “AWESOME”, “FANTASTIC”. And I say it with enthusiasm; SELL IT!

These last 3 weeks I have chosen “MAGNIFICENT”! It has a little more formality to it….like I’m wearing a suit and tie. Maybe a top hat and spectacle.

Why, you ask? WHY NOT? If you get to choose, why not choose great?

And when people ask me why I’m Magnificent, my current reply is; “We live in the greatest country in the world, during the most advanced time in human history. My job isn’t so difficult that I need the intellect of splitting atoms, nor so physically demanding that I’m shoveling coal. So what could I possibly complain about? Seriously?! I GET TO WAKE UP.”

Do I need to be stressed if things don’t go well at work? Can they survive without me? I pass a graveyard everyday on my morning commute; it’s loaded with people who thought they were irreplaceable. The world keeps turning. Sun keeps rising and with any luck, in the morning so will I. And when I do, I’ll greet it with the best good morning you ever saw.

I’m Jay Cummings and you’ve just been Moodivated. Try it for 3 weeks, then pay it forward and do to someone else what I just did to you. It’s a great life if you choose it. Changing the world one smile at a time.

you can visit jay at www.imoodivate.com

 

GOALS

Many of us have goals in our heads of things that we want to see happen. Yet they never quite make their way to paper nor do we achieve them. This weekend I am launching my new class, “The 7 Ways to Create Good Fortune” and one of the points that will be covered is setting goals and actually writing them down, working with them in an ACTIVE way, and how to reach the end result.

In preparing the materials for the class I did some research into the power of actually writing down objectives and backing them up with action plans. As a result I came across this study and it was really interesting to see the importance of writing down objectives and creating a plan.

In 1979, Harvard Business School did a study on the graduating class and their goals. Here is some of what they found.

  • 84% of the class had set no goals at all
  • 13% of the class had set written goals but had no concrete plans
  • 3% of the class had both written goals and concrete action plans

10 years later, the 13% of the class that had set and written down their targets but had not created concrete plans, were making twice as much money in comparison to the 84% of the class that had set none at all.

The 3% of the class that had both written down goals and a plan, were making TEN TIMES as much money as the rest of the 97% of the class.

The Harvard MBA Business School Study on Goal Setting

Pretty interesting, right?  I will be talking to you more about your goals. How to set them and how to make them work for you.  Start thinking about what you would like to achieve in 6 months, 1 year, 5 years. WRITE them down! This is your first step in the beginning of how to create your own personal good fortune.