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Be Prepared For Tomorrow

Today is preparing you for tomorrow. This is preparing you for that. Just like Kindergarten prepared you for Elementary School and High School prepared you for College. Just like the rain prepares the ground for the flowers to bloom and a good night of sleep prepares you for a restful day in the morning. …so does every moment of every day prepare you for tomorrow, for what’s next, for a future worth being in.

All the joys & victories, bumps & hiccups, falls & lessons…..they are all preparing you for what is next.

Do not be afraid of:

Every hard duty that lies in your way, that you’d rather not tread, because of the pains & struggles that will come.

Every hard road on which you cannot see the Masters shoe prints, that you’d rather not follow, because of the thorny path.

Every heavy load that you are called to carry, that you’d rather not, because of the discipline & endurance needed.

Every point of battle to which you are called where you must draw your sword, when you’d rather not stand up never mind fight.

There is power, blessing, strength & victory in all of them. And if you do not go to them and go through them, you will not know what is waiting on the other side.

And when you’re not so sure….remember……when you were in Kindergarten, you had no idea what College would be like. You just kept doing what you do, being who you be and enjoying the moments in front of you.

Prepare now. Take it on now. Invite it in now. Set things in motion now. Embrace your heart now. Live life full now.

So you CAN know about the tomorrow, the what’s next, the future worth being in.

Your God Girl,

Tracy

Question Your Routine

Hey Teens!

This week I want to share something specifically with you guys.

Recently I’ve been spending a lot of my time writing and finishing up homework for the upcoming school year. This means that I have basically been locked up in my room and focused on my schoolwork. Any free time that I’ve had, I’ve used to call my friends, or catch a couple episodes of my favorite TV show. I notice myself not really interacting with family members; my little sister, in particular, often gets ignored. This is something that commonly happens. I often notice that it becomes part of my routine throughout the school year. It was really something that I never noticed until one of my friends brought it to my attention. He began to tell me about his own issues with unintentionally isolating himself from his family, and about the negative impact it had on both him and his family members. It really shocked me, that I was committing the same mistakes as him.

This really made me question my “routine” and what I should be doing with my free time. Family is such an important part of our lives, and unfortunately I am also guilty of sometimes isolating myself from them. I’d like to make a point of saying that although it is wonderful to have your form of escape, as I have mentioned previously, one must not forget the importance of bonding with family. Our loved ones take time out of their busy schedules to try and reach out to us. Sometimes we forget how incredible they are, and we fail to let them know how much we enjoy hanging out with them. Because of what my friend told me, I decided that it was time to change some of my ways. I realized that I needed to spend moments with the people I love most. Many times, we will prioritize certain things over what is truly important. Make memories with your family, and live every moment to the fullest. Go and question your “routine”.  

-Dani

Experiencing Tower Moments

I’m sure you have experienced it, the feeling that your entire world is crumbling down around your ears.  I call these moments tower moments. In Tarot the tower card depicted above shows and explosive scene of despair and destruction.  The tower, and what it symbolizes is a very misunderstood event. In the very moment you feel everything crumbling, whether it be something you worked hard for, or something you feared, it can feel catastrophic, heartbreaking, unfair, or hopeless. If you focus on the destruction of the tower and your disappointment; or you cling to the situation or person that is being forcefully removed to re align you, you will make yourself miserable. You will miss out on the lesson and the blessing god is trying to give you. The more you try to keep the things, people, perspectives, and behaviors that are meant to be removed the more you will have to repeat the tower moment.

It is my belief that the most painful, explosive shifts in our lives are a tool that the power greater than ourselves uses to re align us or wake us up.  It’s almost like he’s saying “If I make it louder and more painful maybe she will hear me this time, Maybe she will understand this person or path isn’t meant for her.”

My most recent tower moment was with a career path I went down, and also with someone I considered a dear friend and a family member.  I cannot go into too many details Because of my privacy regulations from working as a realtor. I can tell you I poured my heart and soul into becoming a great realtor, I sacrificed and worked myself to the bone without pay. I was very proud of my hard work and I was ecstatic when I landed two listings within a month.

The next three months I had everything set up for both clients. Then the tower moments came. One from bad circumstances, the other was out of nowhere, I lost both listings and my reputation with my business.

The night I found out about the second deal blowing up, I put the kids to bed, then went to try to sleep and audibly sobbed for most of the night. I was so distraught I made myself physically ill and ended up having to call into my part time job the next morning.

The one deal that devastated me the most was the one that came from nowhere, I was ready to throw in the flag. Thankfully I have an amazing support network that helped me wait until I had a clear mind to make a decision. Now I see that whole scenario was ment to remove people from mylife, and re align me with my life’s purpose.

If it weren’t for this earth shattering experience I would still be falling into the same patterns and stuck in a place of non growth. I had become stagnant. I didn’t want to let people dear to me go even though they were unhealthy for me. Now even though I am still mourning the loss of people and things I had wanted, it’s also like a breath of fresh air. I have more room to grow and I am running with it.

Just remember when things look the darkest, and are the most painful, look for the lesson, look for where you need to grow and you will find the light, count your blessing and not your problems. Address those problems within yourself and grow baby grow!

Healing, Growing, Loving

Ali

Moments…

As promised, here I am blogging again…this is the first in a series of musings as I approach my 50th birthday in August…they will likely be random in nature…enjoy…XO…

In all of our life stories there are always those moments, the ones that alter everything.  The ones that change you in a way that will never be undone.  They are in every story of consequence that we carry with us…often in a wonderful way and also often in a way that we will never recover from.

Bear in mind that I don’t say “will never recover from” in a negative way, I say that in a true way as in we will move on from that moment, we will put ourselves back together, stand up, forgive, keep going…yet we will NEVER be the same exact person that we were before that moment occurred.  We will be more cautious (perhaps), wiser, less innocent, less naïve…most of all we will be DIFFERENT.  Often the people that contributed to those moments will want us to go back to being the same, they will want to erase the damage that they helped to happen…yet we cannot.  We are different now and will remain so.

I think this is why my Grandfather would tell me that once you left someone or they left you, once it was over—do not go back.  He would say that people don’t really change and that eventually the things that didn’t work would reappear.  For the most part, after just about 50 years now, I believe this to be the truth.  I think that there are cases where exceptional people do the work and repair broken things with success, however, I would call that rare…

The moments, they are not always in romantic relationships…those moments can be with a friend, a parent, a relative, a job…the moments that change you, they come from all kinds of places…sometimes they are caused by actions and sometimes by words.  I can recall holding my tongue more than once in my life for fear that if I uttered the words I wanted to it would cause a moment that could not be undone.  I can also recall times that I said those words, the ones I should have held in and I did cause moments that couldn’t be taken back.  I am guessing we have all been on both sides of that coin.

As I approach 50 in August, I am doing a lot of sorting and reflecting…making decisions about who I want around for the next 50 and who and what I can do without.  We put up with a lot of things…I am finding that I don’t really want to do that anymore.  My time is valuable to me and I want it spent on things and people that matter.

Looking back through the last 50 years, I gained an understanding of these ‘moments’ that I am speaking of.  I think that there is a lot of power in owning these moments and recognizing how they changed us, it can provide us with wisdom for what is to come next.

No matter what kind of moment it was, there was always a lesson…granted sometimes one that I did not learn until long after the moment had passed…really though that is how most things are, often we don’t see what there is to see until we get to the other side.

~Noelle

April 2, 2018

 

Power Of Words And Their Affect

I am wondering today if people really understand the power of ‘words’, do people understand that their words are living breathing pieces of consciousness that go forward to either harm or to help?  This week I had another experience with a person that uses their power of words to hurt and to wound and to cut the legs out from under the person that they are attacking…this person has done so much damage with their word power, caused so much distress, wreaked so much havoc…one might think “oh they are only words”, however, wish to admit it or not words have an incredible power…they run over and over in your head and that gives them extensive amounts of life after the fight, after the conversation, after the attack…

There are words both kind and unkind that still run through my head from years past…every once in awhile a sentence said resurfaces and along with it the emotions that were present during the interaction…I’m sure this is true for all of us…we are all aware that you can’t take back words…you can apologize, but you can’t undo them…once they are out of your mouth the damage or the gift is done.

I wonder if this person that I know of feels happy after they have systematically punished and attacked the ‘enemy’—do you think they look in the mirror and feel glee for the hurt and harm they have caused?  Or do you think they have a heavy heart from being the cause of so much turmoil???  I really wonder…

We all have moments where harsh and harmful words escape our lips, we all have things that we wish we could take back, we have all done damage by allowing reactive words to escape us unchecked…hell I know I have…in my younger years I had a much harsher tongue than I do now…I have learned over time that mostly it is best to stay quiet when reactive and angry…much more class, style and grace in standing down and walking away then in engaging in a full-fledged assault…when unkind words are flinging people can’t hear anyway…

I think people do the best they can for who they are and when we encounter a person that is hurtful and harmful it is best to stay away from them for no amount of us yelling and screaming and counter-attacking is going to help them at all…it just feeds their reactive nature and brings more chaos…

There is an incredible amount of power in forgiving and moving on…it is a very freeing practice…

This week this person that I know of has helped me to remember that words are alive and they can either bring harm or help, break-down or build-up…and for that I thank them…

We all need to think before we speak and really decide if the harsh words we have to share are worth the damage that they could do…so think today before you send that email or make that phone call or write that letter, make sure that whatever you have to say forwards the action of life…God knows there are enough wars that we are fighting with real enemies, we don’t need to be fighting each other…

Change the Way You Look at Things…

I have been thinking lately about the things that shape us, the events in our lives that have molded our behaviors and responses. My mother always says that when we reconstruct the way we hold the past then we bring alive the possibility for a new future. New futures are a good thing they allow us to be free from the same old song and they change us…change is good, it is enlivening.

When you look back on the string of events that makes up your life, do you see certain things that caused a crack in you along the way? Once you locate the ‘cracks’ you can see how everything else was colored by them in a certain sense…the first heartbreak colored every relationship after that, the first death of someone you loved, the first job experience etc, etc.

All the cracks woven in and out of everything causes a shift in behaviors and responses, so that one day when you are older and wiser you look down the road you have traveled and you can see how events of the past may still be influencing your present behaviors. You can change this, you DO NOT have to be a victim of your past hurts and defeats and disappointments. YOU can choose to reframe what happened back there and hold it as a learning experience instead of as a ‘horrible event’…it doesn’t mean that you forget it, it means that you stop allowing it to color your future. It means that you take your power back and that you decide to stop reacting to the present based on the past.

This shift in perspective has the ability to change your life in a moment.

Time To Listen…

Listen!Webster’s defines listen as “to give ear to, to hear, to pay attention to, to give something consideration.”

How many of us are actively listening to people, to GOD?  Or are we soooo busy with our own agendas and our electronic devices that we have forgotten the fine art of LISTENING??  Many things can happen in the silence of us listening, we can hear God’s will for us, we can hear people’s ideas, concerns and needs…we can be thoughtful while we are actively giving attention to someone else.

Attention is life-giving and listening to someone IS giving them your undivided attention, that means no cell phone, no iphone, no ipad, no computer —just you paying attention to them and listening to HEAR what they are really saying.

Lots of times we “listen” and we don’t “hear”—we automatically think we know what the other person is saying so we tune them out before they even get to finish speaking.  In sales a good listener does very well, in life a good listener also does very well.  People thrive from your attention and everyone wants to be “heard”.

Take quiet time to listen to GOD, to listen for His direction and timing for us—so many times we try to push things in our timing when if we just waited for God’s timing the path would have been so much smoother.

Take a moment and listen to someone today, put everything aside and really listen.  You will be glad you did.