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Independence Day

Independence Day

I am currently sitting on my front porch enjoying the sun, heat and breeze today is giving me. I wish it was me enjoying those three things with my family but the state I live in is seeing a spike in cases and where my family is,it’s the same

So instead I’m pretending I’m on vacation which right now is tricky because my neighbor is outside with her partner and he’s going all in and showing her some exercises. Meanwhile I’m sitting drinking fake cocktails in cutoffs.

It’s the 4th of July. Normally we’d be going somewhere. Instead here I am.

When I write these, music always plays in the background. This week it’s songs from Hamilton which I finally got to see.

I was all set to write to you about the things I’m celebrating my Independence from, but I’m not sure how relatable they are, and do you really want to hear about how during a pandemic I thought it  would be a good time to give up my last vice? Margaritas… and how I have been on a failed quest to find a fun substitute.

How because I still can’t go get my haircut I tried to cut the back myself and my daughter had to help me fix it.

How even though my person is only fifteen minutes away we suddenly feel like we are in a long distance relationship?

How I miss my friends?

I am not a very social person but what I wouldn’t give for some stranger to ask me if I know where something is during one of my rare Target runs.

How I worry about my friends and family everyday.

Every week I put a piece of me in words for you to read. 

This week is one of the harder ones because no one wants to be the person at the party with the arms crossed sitting in the corner.

Again, I dial back to how fortunate I am, but man what I wouldn’t give to bury my face in a basket of chips and a big old side of salsa.

The reality is, that is not my reality right now.

Instead I am trying to focus on my bright spots. The time I’ve gotten back with my daughter. 

My phone, actually being used as a phone. I have mentioned this before but I have definitely upped my phone conversations since March and it’s good.

Working from home – first I’m working. That in and of itself, but it also has meant more time with my daughter. I can’t tell you how much that has meant to me.

I’m learning to be mindful. Take a step back. I am learning to speak up.

I am learning now more than ever it’s incredibly important to speak up, stand up, and tell people you love them.

I am also learning I should not try to cut my own hair.

I am an up and  down roller coaster and that’s ok.

My eating habits are like that of a teenage boy. 

When there is a full moon, stop what you are doing and encourage your family members to look at it.

Tell people you love them. Tell people you need them. Tell people they are important.

Embrace who you are. 

Speak up.

Speak out.

Turn the music up.

Love loudly.

Give your dog hugs.

Talk to your cat.

We watched Hamilton this weekend as I mentioned, and my big take away,those guys didn’t have a rule book.

Why should you.

 

Be safe

Much love Mommas 

<3 Caprise

Create A Memory Space

Creating A Memory Space

I have always been sentimental since childhood and have kept various memory boxes throughout the years. Twenty one years ago I attended my first workshop and was introduced the concept of creating a mindful or intentional “Memory Space”.  That weekend gave me clarity about why I felt the deep desire to keep certain items around me and why I derived such comfort and pleasure from them.

As you can imagine I have had many over the years and they tend to change or rotate at various times. I know most of us are extremely busy, life today moves at a much faster clip and we don’t always take the time to mindfully create a space that is just for “Us”. I’m sure some of you might even say to yourself, who has the time or space.

From personal experience, I can share that it is so worth the time and it can take as little as 10 minutes or it can be an ongoing process that evolves as you do.

The most important part of creating your space in my opinion is making it an intentional activity and not seeing it as another “thing” you have to do.

There is no wrong way to create your Memory Space as it is a very personal practice and will be different for everyone. During this time in my life I have several all representing different aspects of what is important to me and what I want to create intentions for. By no means am I saying you need to have several, however I really believe having a space dedicated to what brings your heart joy will add richness to your days.  Examples…one for memories concerning your children or one for memories concerning family or people close to your heart.

Based on your preference, these can be created in a ‘public’ place in your home or office where it is seen by all or it can be completely personal and tucked away in a place for your eyes only.

You may want to create this as your sanctuary, a place to pray, set an intention, meditate, or simply gaze at the objects that bring you joy.

Someone once told me that ”a memory space is a place of non-ordinary reality held within ordinary reality.’

Now don’t get overwhelmed in thinking it needs to be in the perfect place or a certain size. It can be large or as small as your night stand, it could even be located inside a cabinet or a closet.

For those who have one or may know a little about them, as your might be aware, there are many types and ways of doing this. I suggest that those interested in learning more to do research. There is a plethora of information out there.

My intention is, for those of you new to this concept; to make it as simple and enjoyable as possible. It is something I love and really wanted to share as my first blog.

So let’s begin!

  1. Find a space in your home that feels most comfortable and that you will want to spend time at or at least, that you will be able to see every day.
  2. Be in a peaceful mindset as you de-clutter, clean and prepare the surface.
  3. Find a cloth, scarf, or any type of covering that feels special or is symbolic to you.
  4. Set your intention and or purpose for the space – some examples could be that you want to honor loved ones who have passed on, recall moments of joy that you have had or simply just have a space to put your favorite things. It can also be a combination of any and all of the above.
  5. Give thanks and gratitude as you place each object in the space.

Some suggestions for object you might want to consider;

  • A candle
  • Stones or shells that hold special memories.
  • Personal items that have meaning to you.
  • Crystals – always a favorite
  • Artwork, either your own or loved ones, favorite postcards or anything visual that inspires you.
  • Photographs of family, friends, beloved ones, places you either been or want to travel too.
  • Statues and or talismans any symbol that represents peace and tranquility.
  • Flowers, plants or any living thing like a fish. A fish is a symbol of prosperity.
  • Any special texts, words of wisdom or your favorite book.

Always remember that this is YOUR Space, trust that your intuition will guide you to create exactly what is needed in this moment. When you spend time or gaze upon your Memory Space, honor who you are and how far you have come.

Wishing you all that your heart desires!

Kirsten

Questions or Comments kirsten@fortunatopartners.com