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Getting Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable…

One of the hardest lessons to learn is to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.  There are times in our lives when things are simply out of our control, times of transition are like this as well as when someone close to us is suffering from some circumstance that we cannot fix for them.   It can be heinous to just have to SIT in all of these things and it is SO UNCOMFORTABLE!!!

So, then we start to get angry or sad or we want TO DO SOMETHING to make it different…yet it just keeps being how it is and we feel like someone put our skin on backwards…it’s maddening really how awful it is to SIT IN SOMETHING that we cannot control.  Not only are we unable to control what is happening, we also do not know what the outcome will be.  This is when you must rely on your Faith to understand that even when you cannot see, you CAN trust that all things are working together for good.

What we resists, persists…so the longer we sit there wishing it were different, the longer it will stay just as it is.  This is where getting comfortable with being uncomfortable can serve you well.  What IS, IS.  As hard as it is to get comfortable with how uncomfortable we are during these times, we must.  Our very sanity depends on it.  There is much peace and wisdom in accepting things as they are, this does NOT mean that you stop working on solutions…it simply means that you STOP using your energy to fight being where YOU ALREADY ARE!!!

WHAT IS, IS.  You are here in this place, be ok with that…learn to get yourself comfortable with the unknown.  I have been sitting right SMACK in the middle of this place since I stepped down from my corporate position on April 26, 2017.  I have been uncomfortable in ways that you cannot even imagine and I have developed a new skill set for being able to be comfortable with transition and the unknown.  This is no easy skill to master, it has taken me the better part of 6 months to be at peace with what is and to trust that all is working together for good.  I had some pretty horrible days fighting how uncomfortable I was and it didn’t help anything, in fact it likely took solutions longer to find me because I was so unsettled in my mind.

Being comfortable or being at peace with being uncomfortable is not for the faint of heart, it is a skill only available to those of us that are willing to put our trust in God and understand that everything IS working for our good even when it looks like shit, even when we cannot see, even when someone that we love is suffering, EVEN THEN everything is working for the good.  When you learn to be at peace and stop fighting how awful it all seems, you will see the good faster.  Simply do the next task in front of you and then the next one, do what you can with what you have available to you and learn to be OK with what IS.

Sometimes the lesson is simply to lean into what is disturbing you the most and be at peace with it, only then can things shift into another place…remember what you resists, persists.