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Kiss A Few Frogs

Kiss a few frogs…

Oh girl, I am so proud of you.  Online dating is a huge step.  

And……It can be a lot of fun.

Put your smile on, dress up in that cute outfit you love so much and snap away.  Along with some selfies, be sure to post pictures of yourself doing what you love.  Set the Auto-Timer and snap some more.  And if you have photos with friends, put them up too. (if it’s okay with them).  It’s good for the men out there to see you in your element.

When you get ready to write about yourself, stand strong, wrap your courage & confidence around you like a cozy blanket & come from your heart. Talk about some of the things you like to do, your favorite coffee mug, your best place to put your toes in the sand….anything a little interesting about you that’s fun to share.   Be bold.  Be honest.

If you’re looking for an available man…. he will see your truth when you write from there. 

Look for all that in his profile too.  You want a guy who will say something about himself, but not be all up in his ego, bragging about how great he is.  A guy who has more than two sentences but less than 9 paragraphs.  LOL  A guy who appears confident with what he says without saying “I’m the confident kind”.  

AND be watchful of :

  only 1 or 2 photos

  selfies in bathrooms, gyms and bedroom mirrors

  pictures in/on a bed

  topless pics showing off his guns

And if you don’t like his initial message, or you’re not interested in meeting him, be sure to thank him for writing & wish him luck.  If you want to meet a nice guy, you need to be a nice girl.  And if you want to meet him, there’s nothing wrong with asking him to meet for coffee after a few messages.

Now go meet a few frogs & know your prince is out there.

xoxo

Your God-girl

Tracy

 

Dating Safely Series-Part 4: Meeting Up For Dates

This is the final article in the four part series on dating online safely.  In the previous articles we decided we are ready to date online, and we decided to put our safety first.  We learned to keep our private information private, and we put in the effort to qualify persons of interest.  Now that we have weeded out obvious unsavory attention we can feel much better about meeting an individual in person.  However, even though we did qualify this person, any person can behave well for a short period of time to get what they want.  So we are going to put in the effort to ensure we choose a safe first date.

  1. Prep an Excuse to Leave

Make a list of a few reasons to leave in a hurry and make the decision

to use them, if necessary.  Give yourself permission to trust, respect and take action on your gut instinct.  Refrain from talking yourself out of it if you feel uncomfortable.  If something doesn’t feel right, it’s most often because it’s not.  If you leave and don’t feel safe, drive to a police station instead of going straight home.

 

  1. Check in with a Trusted Friend

Be sure to keep a trusted (and capable) person in the loop about when and where and how long you expect to be on a date.  Let them when you are on your way and again when you leave safely.  Also, talk to this person about the individuals you are choosing to date.  Sharing with trusted friends our observations, feelings and experiences makes it more unlikely that we will be able to miss or accept unacceptable behavior.

 

  1. Meet at a Public Location

They may have a beautiful house on the lake or offer to take you somewhere secluded and romantic but insist on a public first meeting.  Even though we have qualified this person, nothing takes the place of that initial gut feeling when meeting someone for the first time.  Remember and respect that first feeling, for any person you meet, ever.  Whether you drive or take an Uber, be sure to have a quick getaway planned for an emergency.

 

  1. Take a Self Defense Class

Self defense training is something that is best when taken regularly, at least annually.  These are skills that are to be developed.  Find a class that addresses situational awareness, avoidance and defensive communication skills.  If you have Krav Maga nearby, go with that.  If you are limited to police, dojos or community centers then take them all as they cover different approaches and perspectives.  If possible, a female instructor is ideal.

 

  1. Carry a Personal Safety Device

A tool that you are unwilling to use is a useless tool, so don’t bother if you don’t see yourself using it.  Take the time to look into local laws (as well as practicability) as a salesperson will often sell you anything.  You can call the police department or a defense attorney with questions.  There is no perfect tool, only the tool that is right for you.  Get training in anything you choose to carry, especially retention – even if you think it’s unnecessary.

Stay Safe!

 

Carrie Conrad

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Carrie Conrad is a single mom and self defense specialist in Detroit.  To support her daughter and her special needs she took her decades of martial arts training and lifetime of experience with violence to begin an evolving journey with Beating Disaster, a business offering specialized self defense training.  From Basic Self Defense to coaching for parents with violent children, she invests her time in high level training in order to provide relatable guidance to women and children.  You can find out more at