I wish someone would explain the meaning of the “hi” text. I do not understand the constant texting but never asking someone out on a date. If you are interested in me, then ask me out or ask me to do something. I would like someone who would get to the point and be honest. I feel that a lot of the men that I have corresponded with are interested in just texting. Yep, here we go another pen pal. And I am sure this goes both ways, that girls waste time and just send “hi” texts also.
I am probably going to write about more what not to do than what to do.
You text me short texts every morning that consist of “hi” or “this day sucks” but why can’t you say “good morning” or “how is your day?” Anything that would show some interest in the person you are texting. Girls want to feel like they are important to you or that you care, or possibly show some interest. I do not think anyone wants to start their day with a debbie downer text from someone that they barely know. Some days I feel like I’m trying to cheer up Eeyore.
I have just spent the morning yelling at my kids about getting in the car before school or fought with them over what color pants to wear or that they can not eat Doritos for breakfast, so getting a good morning text on my way to work can be a complete game changer for my day. I love “good morning” texts. Honestly, a good morning text will probably get you a date with me.
Or there is the every other day “hi” from someone. You don’t want to seem too needy or desperate so I get just a “hi” every few days. And nothing else. I honestly do not even know how to respond to those texts. I ask questions back for example, “ do you have any plans this weekend” and I get “not much” in response. I know we are not all super chatty but you need to put a little effort into it. Something to get the conversation going…
For example its basic…might be kinda nerdy but it gets the conversation going…
Man-How was your day?
Woman–Good, The weather today is beautiful. I am going to go for a hike after work
Man-Really, that sounds perfect. Where do you like to hike?
Woman-I love to hike at the state park near my house. It’s so relaxing in the evening.
Man-I know. I have started to get back into hiking and running. Would you like to go hiking next week one night?
Simple conversation that could lead to a date…
I do not know who invented the “hi” text but it has got to be the most confusing text to send to a girl.
And if you are going to send a “hi” text, can you please follow up with something like “whatcha doing, did you make it to work, how was your workout”, or anything that shows you have interest in them. Something that they have told you in the last few days that you can ask about.
If you have to store a “notes section” in your phone with things to remember about that person, then do it. There are many reminder apps these days, just pick one. And if you ask about my day and I tell you about it, then have text me back and start a conversation over it. Don’t just not respond.
Here is the truth..I get “hi” texts and “ good nights” texts, which turn into nothing. I eventually get bored and don’t respond. Say what you mean and just ask. Don’t spend weeks or months sending short ‘hi” texts because that does not turn into a conversation or definitely not a relationship.
I love when I get something that includes a bit of something we had discussed earlier. I love that I told you my kids had swimming lessons 3 days ago and you remembered and asked about it. Maybe you just looked back at our messages, but I don’t care because you put some effort into the text. Maybe you know I get up every morning to work out, so you text me at 7 am each morning to see how my workout was.
Those are the things that girls want… If you like her or want it to go somewhere, then show some interest in her life…