I have spent a lot of time in my life waiting. I never really got terribly upset when I had to wait in line. It always seems to me to be a waste of time to be mad about something I have no control over. To other people though, it seemed a personal deficit that I was willing to wait and not get mad as hell that things didn’t happen in my time frame, because that’s how they would handle it. People would think that I lacked motivation and that I should care more about how things turned out. For a long time, I confess, I thought they must be right. I would ask myself am I lazy? It seemed odd.
Over time though, I have seen, looking at nature, that patience is what naturally occurs. Trees don’t cry every time they lose their leaves, more will come in the spring. Bears take a nap for the entire winter. Are they lazy?
“Nature does not hurry, yet everything is accomplished.” — Lao Tzu
It’s not as though I sit cross legged on the floor just waiting. When something needs to be done I know how to make it happen and I do, but I also know not to force things. We are the culmination of a universe in motion for at least 13.7 billion years. Waiting a few more months or years can’t be the end of the world.
In nature, there are seasons. And we must abide by them also or our lives will be a greater struggle than necessary. You would someone is foolish if they went and shoveled off their garden and started planting it in February. Of course we all know that’s not the right time to plant. Spring is. Patience comes with knowledge. I just know that everything will work out if I am patient.
Did you ever notice when you ask God for patience things start to heat up in the world of impatience?
The grocery lines are longer, the red lights are more often and the little old lady that you let cross the street is going slower than a turtle. And THAT is how you will become more patient. In the middle impatient moments. Yup! How else would you learn? Only then can you retrain yourself toward being more patient. Only in a long line, while you’re late will you be pushed to your limit to see if you really can adapt to this new way of being. When you pray for patience, God is not going *snap* & give it to you, he’s going to create situations for you to hone your skills. To sharpen the blade, to heal the wound to humble the judgement.
You can do it. You just have to look at it with NEW glasses on. See the beauty in the moment, notice the children around you or the glimmer of the sun on the snow or the consideration you hold in your heart for those who just might be having a tough week never mind a tough day. Allow others the space to go at their own pace because you are full of love and kindness. Right?
You think I’m crazy? Okay… think about teaching a young child to walk. They put one foot in front of the other trying to understand how it all works to only fail and fail and fail. Falling after one step. Falling after two steps. It’s not coming too easy for them. They have to train themselves. Focus on what is working and what isn’t working and get better at it each time. This is how you will learn patience. One step at a time.
Try it. If you haven’t already….go ahead…ask for patience. Pray about it. God will deliver to you the perfect situations you’ll need to learn just that. Are you ready?
Your God Girl,