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Make The Bed

The importance of good habits comes to mind after weeks of playing the effectiveness game, practicing good habits equals our kids picking them up and emulating them as well…so I have learned:)

When I was growing up my grandparents were really like my parents and my grandfather had a rule about making the bed, he was a Navy man who served in WW II.  As a child and even as an adult we were not allowed downstairs to start the day unless it was made. Made to his satisfaction that is, which meant made neatly and not just pulling a comforter or bedspread up over the mess from the night before.  Fluff the pillows, straighten the sheets, put the throw pillows back on etc.  MADE.

So, as you might imagine after years of training and trying to rebel against house rules…making my bed became an ingrained habit.  To my amazement it has also becomes my son’s habit, that kid does not leave the house until his is made up perfectly…every day, no matter what.  This is something that he started making important on his own, we’ll call this #winning for me!

Now let’s talk about what making the bed can contribute to you, a few years ago I saw a video that US Navy Admiral William McRaven did entitled, “If you want to change the world, start by making your bed”— I will include the link at the end of this post.  It is worth watching.  In his video Admiral McRaven points out that if you make your bed it starts your day with one task that is complete and that gives you a sense of accomplishment to go on and conquer other tasks for the day.  Very good point.

For me making the bed has always been about creating order and making a fresh start on the new day—as you know I am big on how you begin and end your days.  When you end your day by walking into a room with a messy bed that takes away your energy (in my opinion)— everyone likes to get into a fresh bed at the end of a long day.

It is the little things you do every day that contribute to a new reality, small changes done consistently over time net BIG results.  Darren Hardy wrote a great book called, “The Compound Effect” that talks about how life changing alterations start from making daily, consistent changes.

Take a peek at the Admiral’s video and if you aren’t already doing so…make the bed!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3sK3wJAxGfs

XO, Noelle

What Do You Believe?

What do you believe?

On Sunday I talked about the fact that you cannot change thoughts and habits successfully until you examine the ‘beliefs’ that are under everything running your life.  I equated it to having something rotting in the refrigerator that you can’t see and how until you clean it out it will contaminate all the fresh food that you put in there.

The same is true about the conversations/beliefs underneath everything that are running your life and you are not even aware of them.  Things such as:

“I’m not good enough”

“there is never enough money”

“I can’t do it”

“I will never get ahead”

“I’m not worthy”

“what if I fail”

The beliefs that are the underlying scripts of our lives come from childhood—we either heard them or learned them or saw them being emulated and then we decided that is how things were and so we unconsciously adopted them.  Then our lives took shape and we didn’t even notice that we were living out the things we adopted as beliefs when we were little.

To change thoughts, behaviors and actions without digging down and discovering these beliefs really is like putting fresh food into a rotting fridge—everything will become contaminated and nothing new will happen.  The OLD, OUTDATED, GRUBBY scripts will literally kill off the NEW good that you are working so hard to create.

So, when I talk to you about changing the game and changing your life, I have to first make you aware that there are scripts underneath everything that you have to find.  Whatever they are they are OLD NEWS and they are not the truth about you, in fact they NEVER were the truth about you…

When I was live last Sunday with you I talked about how my poor, pathetic scores on the effectiveness game had led me to start thinking that I must have some unrecognized, self-sabotaging belief that is still running me—I am still looking for it –hopefully by this Sunday I will have something to share about what I have discovered.  Meanwhile I want you to start thinking about what those beliefs are for you—the conversations that are running you, hidden under everything.  We have to find those so that we can clean them out…

Go back and watch last Sunday’s live for more conversation on this…and catch me this Sunday at 10 est on our FB Live Coffee Chat show.

Remember that anything can be shifted, first it has to be seen…once we know what we are dealing with we can annihilate it and move forward.

 

XO, Noelle

I’d Rather Not

I’d rather NOT do anything today…I’d rather not go workout, write this blog post, have gotten up at 5:15am to keep my ‘new’ regime on track, I’d rather not have talked to clients this morning, cleaned up the kitchen dishes, unpacked the amazon boxes and folded the laundry that was in the living room…

I’d rather not figure out how to help the family members that are suffering from their own lack of discipline, I’d rather not keep helping my son figure out his life…I’D RATHER NOT.

However…I am wise enough to know that this is just a feeling that I am having, a passing thing, it is not who I am, it is not what I will do, it doesn’t ‘mean’ anything….it’s a feeling and my life is not run by my feelings…my life is run by my intentions and my promises…thank God for that.

If you have been reading my blogs or watching me on Sunday mornings you know that I have instituted a new habit of getting up at 5:15am and getting into the gym early—weekdays—in order to make sure that I get up, Tracy (who blogs for us and is my bff) and I have a quick call at 5:20am—I have news, we’d both rather not on most of the days.  Yet we DO…we do it whether we ‘feel’ like it or not, we do it because we are pushing ourselves on purpose…we know that nothing new can be created by doing the same old things and we decided that we wanted to create amazing things for 2020.  Our friendship spans over 30 years and we know that our word is all that matters, we know how to produce the result no matter what, no matter how we feel in the moment or what we think.  This is the stuff that keeps your edges sharp which I talked about in last week’s blog.

Left to our own devices without ‘checking’ our behaviors or disciplining ourselves in uncomfortable ways we end up with dull edges…muddling along with things undone piling up all around us…how do you think that a hoarder becomes trapped by their own stuff…one box or pile at a time.

How does someone gain an extra 100 pounds???…one pound at a time.

Without checkpoints in our behavior we will go for the ways of least resistance…

“I will clean it tomorrow”

“I will workout tomorrow”

“I will fix it later”

“I’ll deal with it when I feel like it”

These are the songs that we sing ourselves and then before you know it we turn around and things are out of hand and much harder to fix/change.

I was always told that in this life we will suffer because it is how we GROW and that I could either CHOOSE my suffering or the Universe would bestow it upon me.  I would much rather CHOOSE my hard than have it foisted on me.

And so I do crazy shit like keep score on myself and get up early and force myself to workout etc etc…

Personally, I don’t want my edges to dull and I am willing to do whatever it takes to create the reality that I want…are you?

Something worth thinking about.

See you next week.

XO, Noelle

Plan To Work, Work Your Plan

Plan to work? Let’s work your plan. Maybe you’ve decided it’s time to rock a side gig. It’s time to bring in some extra money, live with purpose and find an outlet for your gifts. Before you begin, let’s take a look at five of the key, daily habits that drive the lives of successful side-giggers.

 1. Successful side-giggers live in gratitude. It’s so easy to get caught up in what the competition is doing: to feel like everyone is winning more than you, that they have more customers than you or are making more money than you. But successful side-giggers know that comparing kills joy. Don’t get me wrong – they know their competition. They learn from them. But they never compare. Instead, they focus on being grateful for their gifts and their own unique voice.

 Cement this in your brain by having a daily gratitude practice: meditation, prayer, a gratitude journal, a nature walk, all of the above – whatever works for you.

 

2. You’ll always find successful side-giggers using the fringe hours. After all, they’re just like you and me – they spin a lot of plates. So, they use the fringe hours to keep up. Fringe hours are those little bits of time that happen early in the morning or late at night when everyone else is asleep and the house is quiet. They are intentional about this. They choose a time to get up (or stay up) that works for them and their sleep needs. Then they commit!

 Give yourself a little wiggle room on this one. Baby woke up three times last night? Scrap the early morning ideal and sleep!

 

3. This one is closely related to number two. When they do sit down to work, successful side-giggers use their time wisely. They dive right into the important stuff. Listen, we are all too busy. You might only be able to find 45 minutes to work on your business on any given day. Don’t waste that precious time checking how many new followers you have on Instagram. Instead, dig into the projects that will actually  move your business forward and generate revenue. Plan your work and then work your plan.

 

4. Successful side-giggers cut corners. Yes, you read that right! They cut corners all the time. They let perfectionism die. Unless you’re manufacturing airplanes or operating on people, good enough is usually enough.

 Now, you want to give your customers top-notch, more-than-they-expect products and service. But housework, meals, and emails to co-workers are all examples of things that don’t need to be perfect. Ever. Nobody is going to die if you serve chicken nuggets and sliced apples every other day for a while.

 

5. Finally, successful side-giggers tend to their anchor work. They don’t get so caught up in their side gig that they totally neglect their main gig. For you, your main gig might be your kids or your day job, or both. Remember to spend a little time playing with your kids. Make sure you’re doing the work you’re being paid a salary to do. You’ll sleep better at the end of the day when you’ve tended to your anchor work. There may be days you can’t work on your side gig at all. That’s okay. You just do what you can, a day at a time. 

 

Whether you’ve already started a side gig or you’re just in the thinking stages, keeping these five principles in mind will help you thrive and flourish in all your roles. You’ve got this!

 Love ya,

Lecia

 

Wanna know more about how to start your own business? Hang out with Lecia on her podcast – just search “Mighty Choice Life” on any podcast app.

Dreaming One Size Too BIG!

Dreaming big, I know, you’ve heard this before, so why does it seem nothing seems to change! We dream big, but do we believe BIG? Most people have no problem dreaming big dreams, their problem is getting into action to make those dreams a reality. BIG dreams mandate bigger action, there is just no way around this fact. To take action on the “one size bigger” dream, we must believe we can accomplish this, hard work, yes, crazy effort, yes, plan B, never, we must absolutely believe we can own the dream, so we must dream one size to big.

Let’s relate this to your health and fitness lifestyle. What is a “one size to big dream?” Getting rid of your insulin resistance, and creating a healthy blood sugar level? Losing 25, NO, 75 pounds! Create a healthy and massively fit lifestyle! Why talk yourself down, why let anyone hold you down, it’s your dream, don’t let someone else create your nightmare. You are worthy of big, bigger, and one size to big dreams!

I am talking to someone today that wants to enter, and win a physique fitness contest. They are in their forties/fifties and ready to go one size to big! Would you say to them, “oh I wouldn’t ever want to do that.” First it wouldn’t matter what you or I think, it’s their dream! We need to get the “dream stealers” out of our life, and business. Bye-Bye>>>>>>

You can dream any dream your heart desires, but you MUST believe you can do it. It doesn’t matter if you have never done it, that is never an indicator of what you can do, you must believe in the DREAMING. Look at what you can do, what you’re willing to do, what you’re willing to sacrifice, and suffer through. Yes suffering is legit, sacrifice is real, this is a NOT game, this is the real deal, you are the real deal, and that one size to big dreaming is too!

If you’ve done something before that is awesome, it is no longer a challenge, or a dream, it is a reality. I believe we are all created to reach beyond our grasp, to push, to yearn, to seek, and to drive ourselves beyond our current limits. Growth comes from adaption to stress and resistance, and we must seeking that “next level.”

Creating a lifetime of health and fitness isn’t about statistics, it is about a process, a system actually, of developing empowering beliefs, emotional stability, and physical strength. There are countless statistics on the ravages of obesity on one’s health, and emotional life. All the stats prove is what an overweight person already knows, it “sucks” being overweight. Your health is compromised daily, and many are emotionally exhausted from the reality of living in a “smaller” world as a larger person. You are treated with disdain more often than not, and people tend to see you from “where you are,” not for “WHO you are!”

The reason I created, Unleash the Champion | Online Coaching, is to help you, change you. Not for anyone else, but for you, to develop the empowering belief in your worth, your value to this world, and that through a healthy and fit lifestyle you can fulfill your ultimate purpose and destiny.

Unleash the Champion | Online Coaching program is not magic. There are no secret exercises, or a newly discovered diet that kept the ancients lean and mean, and no hypnotic way to change the way you think. It is brutally hard word.

Simply put I focus on three major areas of your life;
1.) Changing what you think about yourself, which is ultimately influenced by what you believe.

2.) Learning how to control your emotions, rather than allowing your emotions to control you.

3.) Creating healthy habits for a lifetime; daily activity and exercise, a nutritious diet, and excellent sleep.

It’s not for everyone, it’s only for the dreamers who dream one size to big.

Maybe that is you?

#TRAINHard

Next week we will talk about the power of creating simple nutrition, and fitness habits.

Carter