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Make The Bed

The importance of good habits comes to mind after weeks of playing the effectiveness game, practicing good habits equals our kids picking them up and emulating them as well…so I have learned:)

When I was growing up my grandparents were really like my parents and my grandfather had a rule about making the bed, he was a Navy man who served in WW II.  As a child and even as an adult we were not allowed downstairs to start the day unless it was made. Made to his satisfaction that is, which meant made neatly and not just pulling a comforter or bedspread up over the mess from the night before.  Fluff the pillows, straighten the sheets, put the throw pillows back on etc.  MADE.

So, as you might imagine after years of training and trying to rebel against house rules…making my bed became an ingrained habit.  To my amazement it has also becomes my son’s habit, that kid does not leave the house until his is made up perfectly…every day, no matter what.  This is something that he started making important on his own, we’ll call this #winning for me!

Now let’s talk about what making the bed can contribute to you, a few years ago I saw a video that US Navy Admiral William McRaven did entitled, “If you want to change the world, start by making your bed”— I will include the link at the end of this post.  It is worth watching.  In his video Admiral McRaven points out that if you make your bed it starts your day with one task that is complete and that gives you a sense of accomplishment to go on and conquer other tasks for the day.  Very good point.

For me making the bed has always been about creating order and making a fresh start on the new day—as you know I am big on how you begin and end your days.  When you end your day by walking into a room with a messy bed that takes away your energy (in my opinion)— everyone likes to get into a fresh bed at the end of a long day.

It is the little things you do every day that contribute to a new reality, small changes done consistently over time net BIG results.  Darren Hardy wrote a great book called, “The Compound Effect” that talks about how life changing alterations start from making daily, consistent changes.

Take a peek at the Admiral’s video and if you aren’t already doing so…make the bed!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3sK3wJAxGfs

XO, Noelle

What Do You Believe?

What do you believe?

On Sunday I talked about the fact that you cannot change thoughts and habits successfully until you examine the ‘beliefs’ that are under everything running your life.  I equated it to having something rotting in the refrigerator that you can’t see and how until you clean it out it will contaminate all the fresh food that you put in there.

The same is true about the conversations/beliefs underneath everything that are running your life and you are not even aware of them.  Things such as:

“I’m not good enough”

“there is never enough money”

“I can’t do it”

“I will never get ahead”

“I’m not worthy”

“what if I fail”

The beliefs that are the underlying scripts of our lives come from childhood—we either heard them or learned them or saw them being emulated and then we decided that is how things were and so we unconsciously adopted them.  Then our lives took shape and we didn’t even notice that we were living out the things we adopted as beliefs when we were little.

To change thoughts, behaviors and actions without digging down and discovering these beliefs really is like putting fresh food into a rotting fridge—everything will become contaminated and nothing new will happen.  The OLD, OUTDATED, GRUBBY scripts will literally kill off the NEW good that you are working so hard to create.

So, when I talk to you about changing the game and changing your life, I have to first make you aware that there are scripts underneath everything that you have to find.  Whatever they are they are OLD NEWS and they are not the truth about you, in fact they NEVER were the truth about you…

When I was live last Sunday with you I talked about how my poor, pathetic scores on the effectiveness game had led me to start thinking that I must have some unrecognized, self-sabotaging belief that is still running me—I am still looking for it –hopefully by this Sunday I will have something to share about what I have discovered.  Meanwhile I want you to start thinking about what those beliefs are for you—the conversations that are running you, hidden under everything.  We have to find those so that we can clean them out…

Go back and watch last Sunday’s live for more conversation on this…and catch me this Sunday at 10 est on our FB Live Coffee Chat show.

Remember that anything can be shifted, first it has to be seen…once we know what we are dealing with we can annihilate it and move forward.

 

XO, Noelle

I’d Rather Not

I’d rather NOT do anything today…I’d rather not go workout, write this blog post, have gotten up at 5:15am to keep my ‘new’ regime on track, I’d rather not have talked to clients this morning, cleaned up the kitchen dishes, unpacked the amazon boxes and folded the laundry that was in the living room…

I’d rather not figure out how to help the family members that are suffering from their own lack of discipline, I’d rather not keep helping my son figure out his life…I’D RATHER NOT.

However…I am wise enough to know that this is just a feeling that I am having, a passing thing, it is not who I am, it is not what I will do, it doesn’t ‘mean’ anything….it’s a feeling and my life is not run by my feelings…my life is run by my intentions and my promises…thank God for that.

If you have been reading my blogs or watching me on Sunday mornings you know that I have instituted a new habit of getting up at 5:15am and getting into the gym early—weekdays—in order to make sure that I get up, Tracy (who blogs for us and is my bff) and I have a quick call at 5:20am—I have news, we’d both rather not on most of the days.  Yet we DO…we do it whether we ‘feel’ like it or not, we do it because we are pushing ourselves on purpose…we know that nothing new can be created by doing the same old things and we decided that we wanted to create amazing things for 2020.  Our friendship spans over 30 years and we know that our word is all that matters, we know how to produce the result no matter what, no matter how we feel in the moment or what we think.  This is the stuff that keeps your edges sharp which I talked about in last week’s blog.

Left to our own devices without ‘checking’ our behaviors or disciplining ourselves in uncomfortable ways we end up with dull edges…muddling along with things undone piling up all around us…how do you think that a hoarder becomes trapped by their own stuff…one box or pile at a time.

How does someone gain an extra 100 pounds???…one pound at a time.

Without checkpoints in our behavior we will go for the ways of least resistance…

“I will clean it tomorrow”

“I will workout tomorrow”

“I will fix it later”

“I’ll deal with it when I feel like it”

These are the songs that we sing ourselves and then before you know it we turn around and things are out of hand and much harder to fix/change.

I was always told that in this life we will suffer because it is how we GROW and that I could either CHOOSE my suffering or the Universe would bestow it upon me.  I would much rather CHOOSE my hard than have it foisted on me.

And so I do crazy shit like keep score on myself and get up early and force myself to workout etc etc…

Personally, I don’t want my edges to dull and I am willing to do whatever it takes to create the reality that I want…are you?

Something worth thinking about.

See you next week.

XO, Noelle

No Need To Defend Yourself

If you’re on a mission to be a better mom, you may already know a lot about transforming your thoughts, changing your mindset and healing the broken parts.  But did you also know that when you are full up in love with YOU, there is never a need to defend yourself?

Yup!  That’s right.

Sit with that thought for a minute.

Then think about the places in you, where you currently defend yourself.  Think about the places where  you’re triggered to argue back or where you shrink down & say nothing but are screaming on the inside.

Those are the places that still need healing, forgiveness, and most of all LOVE.  Because when you love you, I mean allllll of you.  The good, the bad AND the ugly….. you will not have a need to defend.  All your weaknesses, all your scars, all your mistakes.   All your shortcomings, all your ridiculousness, all your wrongs.  All of it!  LOVE them.

AND claim a new story while you’re at it.  Change the adjectives you’re using.  Look in the mirror and remind yourself you are beautiful.  You are wonderful.  You are 100% amazing from head to toe.

Think of the places where you may feel threatened by someone else’s words.  And know ‘a sense of threat is an acknowledgement of an inherent weakness’.  Yup! If you are threatened… you are agreeing with their words.  Do you know your truth?  Do you love all of you?  Do you accept every inch?  Then whose words of attack could alter you?  Nobody’s!

Remember ‘defense stems from fear, not love.’

Today start a new habit of acknowledging what is great about you and write it down.  The next day add another thing to the list.  And the next day, another.   Eventually you will be so flooded by your own greatness that nobody can say anything that would cause you to defend.

Just Love.

Tracy

Plan To Work, Work Your Plan

Plan to work? Let’s work your plan. Maybe you’ve decided it’s time to rock a side gig. It’s time to bring in some extra money, live with purpose and find an outlet for your gifts. Before you begin, let’s take a look at five of the key, daily habits that drive the lives of successful side-giggers.

 1. Successful side-giggers live in gratitude. It’s so easy to get caught up in what the competition is doing: to feel like everyone is winning more than you, that they have more customers than you or are making more money than you. But successful side-giggers know that comparing kills joy. Don’t get me wrong – they know their competition. They learn from them. But they never compare. Instead, they focus on being grateful for their gifts and their own unique voice.

 Cement this in your brain by having a daily gratitude practice: meditation, prayer, a gratitude journal, a nature walk, all of the above – whatever works for you.

 

2. You’ll always find successful side-giggers using the fringe hours. After all, they’re just like you and me – they spin a lot of plates. So, they use the fringe hours to keep up. Fringe hours are those little bits of time that happen early in the morning or late at night when everyone else is asleep and the house is quiet. They are intentional about this. They choose a time to get up (or stay up) that works for them and their sleep needs. Then they commit!

 Give yourself a little wiggle room on this one. Baby woke up three times last night? Scrap the early morning ideal and sleep!

 

3. This one is closely related to number two. When they do sit down to work, successful side-giggers use their time wisely. They dive right into the important stuff. Listen, we are all too busy. You might only be able to find 45 minutes to work on your business on any given day. Don’t waste that precious time checking how many new followers you have on Instagram. Instead, dig into the projects that will actually  move your business forward and generate revenue. Plan your work and then work your plan.

 

4. Successful side-giggers cut corners. Yes, you read that right! They cut corners all the time. They let perfectionism die. Unless you’re manufacturing airplanes or operating on people, good enough is usually enough.

 Now, you want to give your customers top-notch, more-than-they-expect products and service. But housework, meals, and emails to co-workers are all examples of things that don’t need to be perfect. Ever. Nobody is going to die if you serve chicken nuggets and sliced apples every other day for a while.

 

5. Finally, successful side-giggers tend to their anchor work. They don’t get so caught up in their side gig that they totally neglect their main gig. For you, your main gig might be your kids or your day job, or both. Remember to spend a little time playing with your kids. Make sure you’re doing the work you’re being paid a salary to do. You’ll sleep better at the end of the day when you’ve tended to your anchor work. There may be days you can’t work on your side gig at all. That’s okay. You just do what you can, a day at a time. 

 

Whether you’ve already started a side gig or you’re just in the thinking stages, keeping these five principles in mind will help you thrive and flourish in all your roles. You’ve got this!

 Love ya,

Lecia

 

Wanna know more about how to start your own business? Hang out with Lecia on her podcast – just search “Mighty Choice Life” on any podcast app.