Reconstruct Your State Of Mind.
Imagine for a moment that we lived in a world where people actually understood that the words they speak go forward to create their future. In that world there would be very little complaining or negativity and how peaceful it would be. If you were to ask me what I thought was the most important lesson for you in this book my answer would be for you to fully understand that your words, thoughts, feelings and actions create your future.
What we spend our time thinking about, talking about, listening to, looking at, reading and watching all have great bearing on what is created in our lives. Understanding this gives us great power. If your current circumstances are unsatisfactory it is well within your reach to change them. All you need is a little reconstruction coaching.
HINT: If you think it, if you speak it-
IT WILL COME TO PASS
Direct Your Thoughts
Start to direct your thoughts to what you want more of instead of spending time thinking about what you don’t want more of. Stop complaining about the things that aren’t working. You have to acknowledge the things that aren’t working so that you can correct them; however, there is no need to complain to everyone about them as this will only create more of whatever the problem is. The first step in this process is to merely become conscious about the words that you are speaking. Are you grateful? Do you constantly complain? Are you always talking about what’s wrong? Do you speak ill of others? Do you praise and acknowledge people? Do your words inspire people? Do your words hurt people?
Once you have a clear picture of the kind of talking you are doing you can take actions to alter it. Begin to sprinkle some gratitude into your speaking, talk about what went right for the day, make an effort to see the good in situations and speak about that. You have the ability to direct your life and your future by directing your thoughts. You can change your whole outlook on life by simply changing your speaking.
Fake It Till You Make It
In the beginning, doing linguistic surgery on yourself will be extremely uncomfortable as your thoughts will still be the same old moldy ones from the past and your new words will seem stupid. This is where you fake it till you make it. Feelings follow thought so direct thought — direct feeling. After awhile your new thoughts will turn into new feelings. For instance, you will start to talk about how successful you are and pretty soon you will feel like a success and then the circumstances for you to become a success will materialize.
Remember the movie ‘Field of Dreams’ when Kevin Costner’s character built the baseball field and he just kept saying it would work. Everyone thought he was crazy and he just kept right on saying it would work and it did. Real life is actually like that for those of us that understand Universal Principles. You begin by speaking what you intend and then you start moving into the thoughts, feelings and actions that will bring it into being. Lots of times in the middle of doing this you will appear to others as stupid and they may even feel sorry that you are so committed to what they think is a pipe dream.
Think of all the success stories you have heard, they all started out as an idea that had no background of obviousness. Somebody had the thought and they backed it up with feelings and actions and they brought it into being. So can you.
An excellent way to push yourself into new thought patterns is to do affirmations. Find or write affirmations that talk about how you want your life to be and then spend a few minutes each day reading them. I have been doing affirmations since I was 12 years old and these days I spend 20-30 minutes a day doing them. I have included some of my favorites in this book. An affirmation is a statement that affirms what you want to have happen. As in:
-I am healthy.
-I am successful.
-I am losing weight everyday
-I am grateful.
-I leave behind old states of mind
-I create a future unlike the past
Saying or reading affirmations is a great way to re-train the mind into thinking things that will move you forward into a prosperous, healthy future.
A Little Gratitude Goes A Long Way
There are so many things to be grateful for and yet most people demonstrate very little gratitude for anything. Expressing gratitude is the quickest way to bring good into your life as what you praise naturally increases. In addition to changing your speaking and thinking, practicing gratitude is a required component for rejuvenating your life. The very act of gratitude is regenerative to the soul. For those of you that aren’t sure what gratitude or being grateful actually mean here are Webster’s definitions:
Gratitude: a feeling of thankful appreciation for favors or benefits received; thankfulness
Grateful: feeling or expressing gratitude; thankful; appreciative
When you find yourself in a bad state of mind start mentally listing the things that you have to be grateful for and yes there is ALWAYS something to be grateful for. Taking the time to think about what you are thankful for instead of thinking about what you are suffering from will allow miracles to occur in your life.
I remind myself to practice gratitude daily by making a list every night of what I am grateful for. You can even be grateful for things in advance to help bring them into being. I was grateful daily for my weight loss long before it manifested itself. I keep a gratitude journal in my bedside table and I make myself write something in it every night. This is another discipline that I force myself to practice and there are days that I don’t like this one either. On bad days I feel hard pressed to get to gratitude so on those days the list is short, however it is still there.
Practice some gratitude and I promise that your acts of thankfulness will return to bless you many times over. It is also a great idea to teach children the skills of being grateful as early as possible given that they are our future.
From the Inside Out
True and long lasting change will occur from the inside out and must begin as an idea. Once you have the idea of changing you begin to put a plan in place and the workable plan includes changes in thought patterns, speaking, surroundings, company that you keep, feelings that you have and behaviors that you practice. The first change occurs inside you as you begin to see yourself in the new way. As you see yourself newly you begin to speak and think differently which will cause you to take different actions. Inner behavior starts to change and as a result outer circumstances will follow suit.
It doesn’t work to try and start change from the outside in. If you changed your outer circumstances without reconstructing your state of mind the changes wouldn’t stick. You can only rejuvenate your life from the inside out as your current circumstances were brought on by your current state of mind. Therefore, if you want to change your current circumstances you must first change your current state of mind. Remember that creation occurs in the unseen (mind) and manifests itself into the seen (reality). In other words, whatever you are creating in your mind with your thoughts and feelings will bring itself into manifestation. If you think you are unworthy and poor you will create that. If you think and feel fat and unhealthy you will create that. If you have the power, why not just create yourself as a success? A fit and healthy success that is.
Some of these ideas may be new to you and may seem a little strange, however I promise you that they work when properly applied as I have been actively using them since I was 12 years old. I encourage you to do your own research and give them a try; it certainly can’t hurt to be positive and grateful, right?
**From Noelle’s book, “Practical Change…8 Ways to Rejuvenate Your Life”