Webster’s defines bridge for my purposes here as “a thing that provides connection, contact or transition”. Sometimes Life provides us a bridge that we mistake as ‘the solution’…there are times when we need help, yet we are not truly ready for what’s next and in those times Life provides a bridge that transitions us from who we are to who we must become. Often in this process we mistake the ‘bridge’ as the solution.
There are times in our lives when moving to the next, higher stage of being is required and often we are so caught up in the circumstances of the moment that we can’t see our way clear to make the changes on our own. It is at these times that Life sends us a bridge to help us transition from who we are to who we must become…it can look like a new situation, a new friend, a mentor, a boss, a relationship interest, a new job opportunity, a move from one place to another, a new work project…whatever way we need to have it in order for it to be effective, that is the way Life will send it.
When the desired transition is complete the bridge is no longer needed and often the loss of the bridge is mistaken as a hurtful experience, when in fact it is a blessing because it means we have transitioned and are ready for the next level which is a better place for us.
There is a teaching that says “the blessing comes before the challenge”—meaning that we create a gift for ourselves and then we must create a challenge to overcome so that we can readily receive it…in that same way we create a bridge to help us become who and what we need to be.
Understand that a bridge is a gift, just because something is utilized to get you from point A to point B doesn’t make it any less meaningful or worthy—it is just means that a bridge isn’t forever, it is a situation that is meant to last only for a certain period of time whether it is one week or 5 years. A bridge isn’t meant to build a life on; it is meant to cross you from one place to the other.
Think of all of the things that haven’t worked out the way we thought they would or should have…reframe them as bridges, every, single one of them.
To see something as a bridge allows you to forgive yourself or someone else for what you previously may have labeled “failure”. To see a completed situation as a ‘bridge’ allows you to reconstruct the past in your mind and out of that you have the ability to create a different future. Imagine if you had an attitude of gratitude about your ‘bridges’ instead of a story of how horrible they all were…imagine turning a string of previously labeled ‘failures’ into a path of bridges that are taking you just where you need to go…there is a lot of freedom in that and a lot of power.
**From Noelle’s book, “Practical Change…Inspiration for Kicking Ass & Slaying Dragons”