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A Lazy Generation

One of the things we often hear being used as an adjective to describe Millenials and Generation Z members, such as myself, is the term lazy. We hear it all too often from just about every generation before us.

Although this claim might have some truth to it, it is not entirely correct.

We are often depicted as kids who rarely leave their homes, or kids that simply don’t have the drive to pursue their dreams. Today it’s not uncommon to have kids linger at home well into their twenties while they try to “find themselves.”  In fact, many of us are actually trying really hard to accomplish our goals and make those dreams come true. The reality is there are many distractions in our lives that previous generations never had to deal with.

Sadly, sometimes these distractions prevent us from being the best version of ourselves. This time spent doing things with less relevance, has created the misperception that we are a “lazy” generation.

As I have previously mentioned, I believe that social media and technology at our disposal on a constant basis can be very beneficial but it can also be one of the major distractions to our productivity. It can cause us to lose sight of our important responsibilities and our goals for the future. I know that I often lose track of time when I scroll through Instagram. This problem occurs for many other kids my age. My parents often point out the hours I’m potentially wasting on these social media platforms rather than focusing on schoolwork or other projects. I don’t think it has anything to do with how lazy we are, or anything to do with our work ethic.

I am certain that generations before had plenty of other distractions in their day. Maybe it was playing stickball on the street or hanging out to listen to music. Regardless, I do think that we can do better, and, that if social media wasn’t so darned entertaining, it would be easier for us to stay focused. As a result, we wouldn’t be considered such “slackers”.

As a challenge for the teens out there reading this right now, I suggest you turn off your phones, log out of your social media accounts, and go focus on your goals. Although it might seem like a difficult task, we need to prove to those around us—and to ourselves— that we are so much more than a “lazy generation”.

-Dani

Relationship Goals

Relationship Goals..A million moons ago before I was married, divorced, and a Mom.

I dated. A little more than I’d care to admit.

Lots of blind dates.

One of my very first blind dates was with a listener from my radio station.

Typically I didn’t date guys who listened to me on the radio, because it always felt to me like I was not going to be the person they listened to.

But he wore me down.

On said date he asked me what I wanted in life.

I answered a relationship like my Mom and Dad.

He did not ask me out for a second date.

However, the answer is still accurate.

My parents met in high school. I was born shortly after they graduated with a laundry list of health problems.

I can’t imagine being teenagers and going through what they did.

But they did and are still together forty seven plus years later.

So what is it about their relationship I covet?

Let’s start with they will tell you they’re best friends.

How they have always treated each other as equals. Or in my Dad’s case he will tell you that my Mom is in charge.

That even though they are opposite in a lot of things they have learned to compromise. With maybe a battle or two in between.

Don’t be afraid to know what you want Mommas.

That date wasn’t so great anyway.

<3 Caprise

Happy New Year To Me

Happy New Year, Happy New Year, Happy New Year….

That’s what I’m hearing from lots of people, from every direction, all day for the past few days. I get it. But I feel like it’s more of a traditional salutation than a real heartfelt one. Although some people may seriously mean it… from the bottom of their heart…wishing others a HAPPY new year and all. While some may deeply long for something new in their own lives and really want to spread the vibe to others. Some may long for happiness at every level. And some may not even realize that their wishes are empty because their eyeglasses are just too rosey. Some, like me are excited for what God has planned.

“Lest Not Judge” Right…… so let us not judge the proclamations of others but instead look internally at our own longing for a Happy New Year. A Joyful New Year. Or how about a Glorious, Vivacious, Stupendous, Blessed New Year? I like the sound of that!!

We get to make it up in our mind. We get to say how it is for us. We get to move in that direction, trusting that we have what it takes. We will walk our walk while talking our talk and we will live through those thoughts that WE proclaim. Easy right? Not so much?

Start somewhere. Claim the adjectives that you’re going to place on your new year. Wrap your mind around them. Maybe even make a Vision Board full of pictures that speak to those beautiful adjectives that you’ve chosen as yours. Talk about them, sing about them, brag about them. Use these new words in conversations. Get so damn comfortable with them that they fee like fuzzy slippers on a cold day. And watch. Watch your life begin to move into the direction of something NEW for YOU. I’m choosing “Glorious, Vivacious, Stupendous, Blessed. What are your new words?

Your God Girl,

Tracy xoxo

What Is My Worth?

My  worth….

I’ve taken the last 5 weeks or so to really gather my thoughts and try to evaluate who I am and who I want to be. I have achieved very many of my life goals this year and yet still have to get out of my head with so many things.

The one goal I have not achieved is personal wellness. It’s not to be physically perfect or have the best diet 100% of the time. The goal is to feel good about myself and the decisions I am making. I felt like I lost myself at some point. There was a plan and then that plan went away. I didn’t know how to truly pivot and find a different course. I covered it up with life goals and making changes, none of those which truly ran deep and helped fill my soul.

There was a time when I thought I had a chance at having it all. I’m not traditional by any sense of the word and don’t need the white dress and wedding and regalia. Just a person to truly love me and that being all of me. I don’t know that I have ever really had that in my life, and I want to believe that I am worth it.

So I’m taking the rest of 2018, all of 2019 and devoting this time to myself. I need to live the life I want my son to model. I’m hoping that while being ruthlessly devoted to myself, I will end up finding the person who will honestly love all of me. I’ve decided to share my life and my process and my progress and my shortcomings on Instagram. Not for anyone but myself. It will be real and raw and hopefully amusing. I’d invite you to find me @getatit62 and try to get at your own goals this coming year.

I hope that all of you take some time this holiday season to love yourself, love others and look at what this past year has brought you and what you want next year to bring. Happy Holidays!

~Leslie

Overwhelmed Can be Debilitating

Overwhelmed can be debilitating… BUT it doesn’t have to be.

Can you remember a time you felt overwhelmed?  Was it in college when you had more on your plate than you could handle?  or was it when you were trying to get 5 kids out the door for school before 8AM?  or maybe you had a really big team project at work and you were the only one on the team?

Whenever it was that you felt overwhelmed, the mountain in front of you must have seemed a little too big to handle.  And the longer you looked at it, the worse you felt and the harder it got… or so it seemed.  Just as a hiker getting ready to go on a mountain trek must prepare, you must prepare.  So that overwhelm doesn’t sneak in, never mind take over.  The hiker can pack an extra water bottle & shirt, some snacks, warm socks, their compass and wear they’re best hiking boots.

How can you prepare?  Make a list, ask for help, say no to a few things, pray?  Whatever it is for you… ensure you have what you need… take care of yourself, look at the little things, keep an eye on the goal and walk in Him.

Your God-Girl
Be the Light
Pray, Trust, Wait
I am a Conqueror

 

 

 

 

Today Is The Day I Begin To Reach High

Today I am starting a journal, not only will this be a journal but a life changing assignment for myself. Today I am one step closer to be a braver woman, mother, friend and all-around person.

I have never thought of myself as a brave person. I have ALWAYS been the quiet one. The one everyone doesn’t see. The one who tries not to be called on for ANYTHING. The one who agrees with EVERYTHING just, so I don’t have to debate about it.

When Hurricane Harvey hit, my world was devastated. I have never been through something like that before. It changed my whole aspect on who I was. All I wanted to do was help people. But how was I supposed to help anyone when I have been scared all my life? Well, your girl has set her sights high now.

With my new career insights and pushing and pulling against all odds, it seems I still find things that push me back. But this is more than ok because this is only a test. I must keep pushing outside my comfort zones. As time goes by I keep changing into a whole new person and I am loving it. I am more outgoing, happier, trying new things and making new friends.

“Brave people don’t stop hearing the whispers of fear. They hear the whispers but take action anyways.” This is my goal. To keep fighting, keep pushing with everything to accomplish that I am setting my mind too. With the help of my friends, family and the words of the Lord I shall succeed!

I believe in myself. Do you believe in yourself? I believe all we need is that one whisper to get us up and motivated. Still scared? I am here, to help push you, help you find the meaning you may be looking for.

Today is the day to begin Reaching High.

~Shelly

Obtaining The End Result

New Year’s Resolutions…..everyone has their way of getting to their end result of improving one thing or another. Most people try to turn over a new leaf for something in their life specifically at the beginning of the year.  I personally, am not terribly fond of that. I’ve never had much luck with New year’s resolutions…I have all these ideas of what I would like to do and improve…lose weight, save money, pay off debt, etc….problem was I KNEW what I wanted to fix or improve but never had a game plan! I was just playing the game of New Year’s resolutions…

I still announce my goals for the year on New Year’s Day, but I have also spent the last 30 days writing out and seeking information for me to reach those goals. Breaking them down into smaller goals with the end result being the finish.  I am one who needs instant gratification so breaking down the large goal in to smaller goals is what works for me!

I also choose resolutions that will be obtainable, I try to be a realist in all things. I still set the bar high, or nothing changes, but I don’t set it so high that I end up being disappointed in myself.

 

Love to All-Kim

 

GOALS

Many of us have goals in our heads of things that we want to see happen. Yet they never quite make their way to paper nor do we achieve them. This weekend I am launching my new class, “The 7 Ways to Create Good Fortune” and one of the points that will be covered is setting goals and actually writing them down, working with them in an ACTIVE way, and how to reach the end result.

In preparing the materials for the class I did some research into the power of actually writing down objectives and backing them up with action plans. As a result I came across this study and it was really interesting to see the importance of writing down objectives and creating a plan.

In 1979, Harvard Business School did a study on the graduating class and their goals. Here is some of what they found.

  • 84% of the class had set no goals at all
  • 13% of the class had set written goals but had no concrete plans
  • 3% of the class had both written goals and concrete action plans

10 years later, the 13% of the class that had set and written down their targets but had not created concrete plans, were making twice as much money in comparison to the 84% of the class that had set none at all.

The 3% of the class that had both written down goals and a plan, were making TEN TIMES as much money as the rest of the 97% of the class.

The Harvard MBA Business School Study on Goal Setting

Pretty interesting, right?  I will be talking to you more about your goals. How to set them and how to make them work for you.  Start thinking about what you would like to achieve in 6 months, 1 year, 5 years. WRITE them down! This is your first step in the beginning of how to create your own personal good fortune.

 

How Bad Do You Want It?

Look at your life and pinpoint for yourself some things that you really, really want.  Got them?  Good.  Now tell me how bad do you want them?  Do you want them bad enough to change everything about yourself that stands in the way of you getting them?  Do you want them bad enough to give up your behaviors that don’t work?  Do you want them bad enough to not give up until you get them?

Most people will probably tell you that they want certain things, however,  I would bet that they are not willing to do WHATEVER it takes to get them and that is why they still do not possess the things that they want.  I would also bet that most people don’t even fully understand the concept called ‘whatever it takes’—most people quit at the first sign of difficulty.  There are some people however that don’t quit…the Navy Seals don’t quit and truly self aware people don’t quit either because they know that quitting only perpetuates the circumstances in their lives that they don’t like.

Let’s talk about where most people lose it along the trail of getting what you want…you start out with a business or a goal or a relationship and everything looks kind of groovy at the beginning.  Then we move along in time and obstacles start to appear…the business doesn’t seem like such a good idea, the new relationship looks like a piece of shit, the goal you set out to accomplish looks WAY TOO HARD.  So you start to buy into that you didn’t want it anyway, you start to think of other things that you can do that would be “easier” —we call this the “grass is greener” syndrome—news flash—the grass is NEVER greener somewhere else…smarten up and learn to cultivate your own grass to make it the green that you want it to be—another news flash—this is HARD WORK…it requires commitment, discipline, purposefulness and doing what you said– NO MATTER WHAT.  If you want to win and get the things you want in life then you must go to war with all the things about yourself that don’t work.

Going to war with yourself means that you set out to prevail no matter what.  This means that you must give up paying attention to your ailments, grievances and complaints.  This means that you must only look at what you want… keep focused on the goal, the intention and let go of ANYTHING that is counterproductive to forward motion.  This looks like doing what you said no matter what opinion you have about it, it means not giving attention and energy to what isn’t working, it means NEVER giving up no matter what it looks like all around you…you keep yourself focused on what you want to achieve and you refuse to be swayed by anything that doesn’t get you to where you are going.

This kind of war on your self is not easy, in fact it is very, very difficult and therefore the average person would never even begin to attempt it.  The average person gets stopped in life by the first sign of trouble…they hit the first obstacle and they quit.

In Navy Seal training an average starting class of 80 people ends up to be about 20 or so by the time graduation rolls around…the men that want to be Navy Seals NO MATTER WHAT are the ones that graduate.  In Seal training they are wet, cold, sleep deprived, physically challenged, mentally challenged and pretty much put through what most people have nightmares about—the BEST part of this…they ASK for it…they WANT to go…they strive to EXCEL…they want to be THE BEST…imagine that?  Navy Seal candidates want it so bad that they will do anything to get it.  Would you go through that kind of hell to get what you want?  Are your goals important enough for you to overcome yourself to achieve them?

Any goal or thing worth having is worth whatever challenge you have to go through to get it…that is the beauty inherent in the system of achievement…when you overcome yourself, when you work hard, when you change yourself to achieve something, then you can REALLY HAVE IT…you can REALLY appreciate it, you can feel deserving of it because you know that you EARNED it and it is yours to keep…be it a relationship or a successful business or a degree…whatever.

If you get something and you didn’t work for it the satisfaction of it is very short lived…handouts don’t teach us anything…challenging ourselves to be better teaches us a wisdom that can’t be learned any other way…xoxoxo

Willing To Do Whatever It Takes…

‘Willing to do whatever it takes’ is a concept foreign to many, which explains why most people do not have the results that they want in life.  ‘Willing to do whatever it takes’ means just what it says “whatever it takes”…this may mean staying up all night to get the job done, it may mean making cold calls when you don’t feel like it, it may mean helping someone if you aren’t in the mood, it may mean getting up at 5am to work on your goals before you start your day.  It certainly means making yourself uncomfortable in some way, “whatever it takes” is never easy and it never feels good, however it WILL enable you to execute the results you seek.

Sadly, most people that think they work so hard are actually working within their comfort zone, and then they wonder why their HUGE, AUDACIOUS goals never come to pass.  Working within your comfort zone will net you the same circumstances and results that you have always had.  If things are not moving along the way you want them to, then you are not doing enough to create momentum.  Momentum is difficult to create, yet once it starts rolling it will knock down everything in its path and you can keep it moving with consistent focused effort. 

If you have a goal that you want to complete then you must be willing to do whatever it takes to make that happen.  Do not let anyone deter you, delay you or distract you…keep your head down and stay focused on doing whatever needs to be done.  Executing results is not impossible, it simply requires consistency, commitment and a willingness to do ‘whatever it takes’.  That means no more excuses, only results.

This will be an unpopular way to behave in most circles because the majority of people prefer to offer reasons and excuses instead of results, so if you are truly committed to doing something different you may need to change the company you keep.