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Be A Friend

Did you read my blog about “Making Girlfriends in Your 50’s”? I’m talking good, close to the heart, caring, loving girlfriends? Girlfriends you think you’ve known your whole life. Girlfriends who go out of their way for you, think of you while they’re at the market and ask to help you plant your garden? Friends who show up, whether it’s in person or on the phone? Girlfriends who just simply love.

I have one friend I call her “my sister from another mister”. We are soooo alike it makes me laugh out loud every time I find another likeness.   Not only our “curly hair one day/straight hair one day” likeness, but also cowhide rugs, doorstep grates and baskets of goodies in our cars, but also our rhythm. She’ll text me as I’m walking to the phone to call her. I’ll call her as she’s walking across the street to say hi. Happy Hearts here!

I have another girlfriend, we talk 5 of the 7 days, if not every day. We have known each other for more than 2/3’s of our ives and would do ANYTHING for each other. We are similar yet different. We call each other on our shit, laugh with & at each other and support each other to be our best selves. We’ve been through a lot together.   We are mirrors of each other and happy to be that.

If you’re finding yourself friendless, all I can say is step outside your box, say YES more often & live with an outgoing spirit. Stop secluding and isolating. Stop waiting for someone to say hi first and mostly…. stop staying in on sunny days.

Try out “Meet Up”, it’s a website full of events put on by people for people, search for “Events Near Me” on Facebook or sign up for a class through the local Community College or through your Parks & Recreation Dept.

You’ll probably meet peeps just like you. Make a friend. Be a friend.



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Girlfriend Journey

The girlfriend journey …

Being a young girl looking for a place to belong outside the home can be daunting & scary and yet also exciting & fun.  To find girlfriends who are of the same mold as you, girls who have inspirations and dreams and like laughing from their bellies.  Girlfriends who like boys and tree forts and Barbie dolls.  The ones in the mix of it all who love you big, who you trust enough that you take off your mask and who don’t giggle when you talk about the things that lie deep in your heart.

It’s that way when you’re a little girl and it’s that way when you’re a grown woman.  To find a true girlfriend is a journey in and of itself.  It starts with who you are in the world though.  If you want girlfriends who are happy and outgoing and positive, you must first be that kind of person.

Imagine meeting a woman and you’re not quite sure if you want to reveal yourself, if you want to be real and authentic, so you hold back….she will feel that from you.  And if she’s out looking for a happy, outgoing, positive friend to make, she just might pass you by because of your hesitance.

Trust your heart.  Know that women want to know you!  Believe that you have value to add to a relationship and that girlfriends are right around the corner in your life.  It is up to you to recognize your own insecurities, rise above them and shine your light.  Regardless of how scary it might be.  Only through your own vulnerability will another woman be vulnerable with you.

Smile big and share yourself.    Listen with interest and speak with love.  And before you know it, you’ll have girlfriends who share your interests, enjoy your presence, and laugh from the belly with you.