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Embrace Yourself For Yourself

Embrace who you are.

It’s easy to feed into the negatives of becoming mature and beyond but let’s acknowledge there is some positives.

Aaagghh the blessed relief of just being yourself! With maturity comes that awesome stage where you can  just be yourself .You have given up pretence and are starting to accept the real you. For example I have given up the idea that to be productive you have to be a morning person .There are those that love the mornings ,up all bright-eyed and sparky however I have embraced the night owl in me.In the past I would have set myself busy morning goals forcing myself to race around to reach them meanwhile feeling at my worst for the day.In the morning my spirit animal is a sloth,slow moving and blinking in the sun versus a quick, alert owl at night. Now in my Forties I am realizing , I DON’T HAVE TO ! I can rearrange things most days so that when not working I can laze about in the morning and refuse to feel guilty.I have achieved a lot in the evenings and hope the new realisation brings more.

Experience also gives you the ability to see beyond first appearances, to look deeper and see the moral , character and  humour of someone.It gives you the chance you look for what you really want in friends and other relationships.Experience teaches you the people in life who make you genuinely laugh are treasures.

The joy of knowing your own mind, likes and dislikes. It is a freedom from the early years when one was more prone to worrying about others opinions and just wanting to  be the same as your friends.The need to please has “left the building”.You start to embrace all your weird and wacky ways and love each and every one of them.An appreciation for uniqueness and individuality begins.You know what you want and you wont be talked out of it.If I want to give up wearing mascara after years of itchiness,  , wear what I want not according to trends, read late into the night ,watch British mysteries on TV and sleep in, I WILL….I know what I like to watch, eat, read and where I enjoy going, so all that adolescent angst about who you are is over.You know who you are and the freedom is in giving into that.Embrace all that is you!

~Toni~

Truth And Owning Yours

Today let’s talk about owning your truth…owning ALL of the things that you have been and that you are…there is a power that comes from owning that shit and that kind of power cannot be gotten any other way.  We all have parts of ourselves that we would rather not ‘own’, times we did things that we are not proud of, behaviors that we wore for a while when we didn’t know any better, actions we took when we didn’t see any other way.  Some of us will call these things the darker part of our story and we shy away from it, it’s the stuff that we try not to call attention to…views of our filthy hearts that we would rather not be seen.  We ALL have this stuff, I don’t care WHO you are or what you would like me to believe about you…every single person has parts we would rather not claim as our own.

Here’s the thing though, OWN THAT SHIT!!!  You cannot evolve into your best self until you are willing to own ALL the creepy, shitty things about yourself that you wish nobody else knew.  The power comes from being authentic and you can only be authentic if you OWN every, single thing about yourself.  So many people are busy trying to get you to ‘buy’ the version of themselves that they wish to present to you and most of their energy floods out to keeping you from knowing the real them…imagine the freedom in simply owning your truth and letting people accept you for who you are.

Walking into Christmas and into the end of the year, it’s a good time to shed the stuff that is no longer serving you…it is time to simply be authentic and own every part of your history so that you can move ahead into the life that you want.  It’s time to shed old ways of being and time to start owning your truth…what an incredible freedom it will bring you.  See you tomorrow.  xoxo