Age ain’t nothing but a number…
One of my favorite quotes is from Coco Chanel
“you can be gorgeous at thirty, charming at forty, and irresistible for the rest of your life.”
I have riffed about aging before and my struggles, really more my gripes lol.
I have now sat firmly at 47 for three months and I’m still trying to figure out our society’s fascination with aging.
And not necessarily in a good way.
Articles about what women over 40, even 30 should and shouldn’t do.
Cover your gray, don’t cover your gray.
Memes about aging punk ladies – yup that one stung.
Can I tell you a really big secret? Like it’s huge?
I was a moron in my 20’s.
My 30’s so much change, crazy, crazy change.
My 40’s. I’ve landed.
I’m comfy about 80% of the time.
20% I wish I was 21 sitting next to Eddie Vedder at Lollapalooza.
Yes, that did happen.
But then I wouldn’t have my daughter, my friends, a job I love.
Also, milestones are different for EVERYONE. I have friends who adored high school. I didn’t hate it,but my happy memories were built in college.
I have friends who were BABIES when they had their babies and I have other friends who decided to wait until their 40’s.
I guess where I’m trying to go with this, is aging is a beautiful thing. If you all could see how much my haircuts alone have improved, you’d say “yup Caprise, you’re onto something.”
Each wrinkle and gray hair is a memento of a memory, a battle won.
You know what else age has given me?
A sense of calm.
I recently had a very scary situation with a group of girlfriends and I was able to diffuse the situation.
21 year old of Caprise would have broken out in hives.
47 year old Caprise was cool as a cucumber.
Again, this is just me- but I’m gonna be real. I like me so much better now. I still can be wobbly now and then- but a few cycles around the sun and motherhood have given me the ability to see I can handle a lot more than I ever thought I could.
As for those articles and memes…
I’m gonna wear leopard print as a neutral.
I’m going to keep getting tattoos until I run out of ideas or skin. Sorry Mom!
I am going to continue going to concerts.
Have dates with my friends.
Love on my daughter.
Buy the shoes.
Eat the pizza and as Coco said be irresistible or pretend like I am.
But most of all remember age ain’t nothing but a number.
As always much love Mamas.