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Why I Exercise

People ask me “Why do I exercise so much??” It’s about doing the one thing you need in your life.  I have been active for years… you know when you find that one thing that really makes you feel good about yourself and you love doing it.  

Don’t worry, This isn’t going to be a blog about why exercise is important, although it is.

I did not love to exercise as a kid. I dreaded running the mile in gym class… I would fake being sick or I would hide in the bathroom. I was always always the last to finish. 

It all changed after college, when I joined a gym and then I started to really enjoy it.  And I also spent many hours doing the Kathy Smith walk to fitness videos at home. I soon realized that working out made me feel good about myself.  My confidence increased tremendously and I loved it. Ladies, confidence is key in life.  

Now many years later, my friends and co workers constantly give me crap on how active I am. They hate to join any Fitbit challenge with me because I win every time. They make fun of me constantly for being active.. and I am not one to brag about my 25,000 steps or getting up at 5 am to work out. Yes, I am one of those people.

When I married to my husband, he could never understood why I wanted to work out. It was a constant battle. I was a stay at home mom with my 3 kids for 8 years.  Anyone who has kids knows how much work they can be and how important it is to do things for yourself.. working out, pedicure, massage, cocktails. Whatever it is, it makes you feel good about yourself or what you enjoy.  My ex husband loved to fish and hunt, he did it for himself… same thing as working out.

There were parts of my life that I exercised to lose weight however now I exercise for so many other reasons. I exercise to clear my head.. let’s face it that moms with 3 kids and an ex husband probably have some stress they need to release.  I exercise to feel good about myself. And I exercise so I can drink wine and eat nachos…

And as my life got more chaotic with kids and work and activities, I had to find the time to do that thing I loved. I found the time at 5 am and it works for me. I do it at 5 am because it gives me focus and balance for the day.  And without it, I feel off for the day. In that 45 minute of working out, I can plan my day, I can sort through any stress, and I can listen to my favorite music without any distractions.

I did not want to give it up because I knew how important is was to me.. so  I had to find the time. It took some time to get used to getting up that early and being more strict about getting enough sleep.  I could have just let them go or made excuses that I didn’t have time, but I knew I needed this in my life.

If it’s important to you, find a way to fit it in. If it makes you a happier or more focused person, do it.  It will take determination and maybe some changes, but if it’s what you need, stay with it. Do not feel guilty about it or make excuses, for doing something for yourself or something you need.  Whatever it is, just make it a priority.

https://www.snarkydivorcedgirl.com/

What Are Your Hobbies?

What are your hobbies?  I have hated that question since I was in school.  I have no hobbies…How do you start doing things you for you?

Last Spring, I decided that I needed to do something for myself. I needed to start getting back into things.. And by things I mean, hobbies, activities, or something that I loved.  I was married for over 13 years, you have kids, and then you stop doing things that you love.   I think we all experience that part of life even with being divorced or not. Having kids is great, but you have to give up many things in the process. I stayed home with my children for many years, so over time I forgot the things that I loved. Or I would feel guilty for wanting to do them.. Yes, the mom guilt.

I love music.. I love concerts…I love working out.. I love golf.  I started to think about all the things that I had really enjoyed in life and had not enjoyed in so long.  It had been years since I had done a lot for myself.  Or even put myself first.

I had golfed after college and even did my internship at a golf resort, but after having kids I had not done it in years. I had missed it.  Being outside with friends and a few drinks in the summer felt so heavenly.   I knew a friend that was in a women’s golf league and so I decided to join. I did not have a partner and I only knew a few people in the league, this was way out of my comfort league.  I usually gravitate towards smaller groups and people that I know.  I was scared to death… what if my partner was a golf pro, what if she wasn’t fun, what if she didn’t sneak drinks on the course… All these things were going through my head.  I like to know what to expect and this was all new…I am a woman in her 40’s that is freaking out about meeting new people.  Yep, just like high school it never changes.

Well I did it, I joined the league and somehow I got placed with a partner that was just recently divorced with kids.  All of my fears were put aside the moment I meant her.. I mean she suck “truly’s into her golf bag.  A girl after my own heart!  We really suck at playing golf, but we have so much fun. I honestly believe that everything happens for a reason and this was it.   I mean sometimes its pretty much dark before we get off the course..haha.  We golfed each week and could talk about our divorce, frustrations, dating, etc.. we became great friends.  I can not tell you how great it felt to do something again that I am doing for myself and that I love.

Every Tuesday from May through September I golf in a women’s league.  This is what I do for myself. Yes, I do golf league even when I have my kids. I am not a bad mom for not spending every moment with my kids and I have learned that you do need to put yourself first at times.

It just think its important to start doing things, activities,  hobbies, etc. for yourself.  Find the one that you love or might learn to love.. And do it.  You might have to start from scratch and find something you enjoy..might be something completely different than the old you. Lets face it, you are different.

https://www.snarkydivorcedgirl.com/

Sum Sum Summertime

Another summertime day to spend with the sun on your face. Seriously?” you grumble, “When will I have time for that?Between phone calls and laundry piles and errands, on your lunch break at the office, in the pickup lane at the school waiting for the kids and on a Sunday between church and meeting your girlfriends for lunch. Yes. Yes. And yes.

Give yourself five minutes whenever you can. Sit with your face to the sky. Draw in all the wonder of the sunshine. Soak up the heat and the beauty of the sun. As it brightens your face with a natural D3 glow…. It just might brighten your mood.

Do you feel better when you look in the mirror and see some rosy cheeks, or tawny skin, or freckles speckled on your nose? Whatever you see looking back at you, the sun has a way of brightening the day, changing the mood and enhancing that self love, self talk, self adoration stuff. …..It really does.

I remember when I was a little girl, I used to love going to the beach. Running through the waves, building sand castles and burying my sister waist high…. but most of all… the sun was the best part. It made me feel energetic, full of life and unstoppable. I always wondered what it must be like to be a mermaid, able to bask in the sun with no chores to do, no school bus to catch and no reason to change your clothes. So amazing, right?

The joy that I got from playing in the sun brought me to a place that only the sun could do. Now as an adult I beg for 5 minutes in between everything. To turn my face to the sky, to bask in the beauty of the heat & be reminded that a simple joy… is right here. Yay for Summertime!

Your God Girl

Tracy

Finding Your Escape

Music has been a passion of mine for as long as I can remember. Growing up, music was essential at every family gathering. Some days all we would listen to was Spanish ballads. Other times, all you could hear was Brian May’s iconic guitar solos coming from the speakers.

I grew up listening to musicians that are mostly unknown to kids my age. Imagine an eight year old, in this day and age, trying to explain to her friends how much she would love to turn back time to get a chance to meet John, Paul, George, or Ringo.

Guess what… I was, and still am, that kid. At first, I fell in love with this music because of its upbeat and fun rhythm. Now that I’m older, I’ve fallen in love with it once more because of the lyrics that always find a way of touching my heart. In some ways, this music seems like the one thing that never ceases to “understand” me.

The most exciting part of my day is putting on my headphones to listen to musical classics. Whether I’m sad, angry, or just bored, these songs always find a way of acting like a kind of “escape” from anything going on in my life.

Over the summer, I have been spending a lot of time with my friends. I noticed that not one of them feels the same way that I do about music. What I did notice was that all of them had their own form of “escape“ (oddly none of these included Freddie Mercury’s vocals). Some use sports as their escape, while others explore more creative escapes like drawing or actually playing music. I find it fascinating that all of us go through similar things in life, yet each of us have a different way of escaping into our own passion. This made me think about how everyone should find something that makes them feel good. Something small that they are excited about doing. Whether it’s drawing a beautiful portrait or just jamming out to your favorite song, try and make time for it.

I also want to let the adults out there know, that although these activities might seem like distractions for your kids, they can be very positive for us.  Go out and find your escape! 

-Dani

Let’s Have Some Fun

Let’s have some fun! I hope that some of you will join me on this. The writing challenge today is to list 5 places you want to visit. I had a hard time narrowing it down to just 5 but here it goes and why:

  1. New York City during Christmas time-I’ve been told this is the most absolute beautiful place to be during Christmas and since Christmas is my favorite I desire to visit. I have never been to New York City.
  2. The Mountains-any mountains will do. I have never been to the mountains. Drew and I always talk about living off the grid in the mountains. I would guess before committing to such a thing I should probably see if the mountains and I get along. 🙂
  3. Australia- I would absolutely  LOVE to go on vacation with my family to Australia-we love animals and there are just so many awesome places to see.
  4. Every where Eric Church performs!  I am a huge Eric Church fan. Yes, I am 42 years old and act like a groupie-or maybe it seems a bit like a stalker! Haha!
  5. Black Hills-I have lived in the Midwest my entire life-and I have never been to Sturgis or the Black Hills. Not sure why not but I guess I better go see what it is I am missing since every time I tell someone I have never been there they think it’s absurd.

I would hope that some of you might enlighten me on some of yours!

Love to All-Kim