Make the other person feel important…
How often does someone stop to ask a question, and since we’re in the middle of doing something, we don’t look up and let them ask the question to the side of our head? It’s not like we’re not listening, it’s just we’re busy. We have taught ourselves to multitask, and to be able to listen to someone while working on the task at hand.
The practice of stopping what we’re doing, turning and facing them, and giving them our full attention, sends the message that they are important. I can hear what you are thinking, (because I’ve thought it myself). They are the ones interrupting me. They are the ones not respecting my time… This is where my favorite quote from Wayne Dyer changes my attitude every time… He said: “We have a choice. Do we want to be right, or kind?”
What’s the end of the game here? Do we want better, more fulfilling relationships? If so, the answer is very clear.
Let’s do whatever we can to make the other person feel important, and do it sincerely.
There is wonderful story about a little girl saying to her mother, “mommy, I know you love me”. When her mother asked how she knew, she replied “because whenever I talk to you, you stop what you are doing to listen to me.”
It is a very simple process to stop ,to listen, make eye contact and to pay attention, yet in reality it seems quite difficult because of our inner dialogue. So, regard this as a friendly reminder on your journey to build stronger, more fulfilling relationships both in personal life and in your work life.
Use Dale Carnegie’s principle Make the other person feel important and do it sincerely.
i hope you too, feel important.