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Same You, New View

Personal development is just a better view

When we think of spiritual or personal development we think of changing going onward and upward. What I am finding it is going inward. It is raising your personal awareness, and fine tuning your self management. Growing as a person and achieving our dreams and goals has everything to do with our self awareness, other people and our circumstances have literally no control unless we give it to them.

Victim, What do you think of when you hear that word? I used to be the victim. I had the victim mentality. Oh how could this or that person do this to me, or oh i’ve been through this that or the other; poor me. Victim mentality is a crutch to shield us from our personal responsibility to life.

Everyone has been through something, been hurt or slighted by something or someone.

While our trauma and our wounds may not be our fault, our healing and growth is our responsibility. Staying the victim isn’t a real option and it will muddy our perspective, stop our growth; keeping us trapped in never ending cycles of hopelessness and despair.

To break free of the vicious victim cycle we need to become self aware, go inward deal with the past and then leave it there. Once we become aware of ourselves we can manage ourselves. When we focus on everyone outside of us our world will shift to chaos.

When we go inward, we will gain new tools at each level of the process, and oh boy it is a process! The more aware I am becoming of myself, the more things im catching myself on, the less people behavior trigger me, the more calm and discerning I am.  I still have a lot of development to go, I will always be growing. 

I for one am enjoying the new view, How about you?

Learning, Loving Growing


Spiritual Development

It wasn’t until I accepted my spiritual side that I began to heal.

What truly separates us from other species on this planet. To some extent its our emotions, but there are many other animals that can display emotions. Some believe our ability to communicate, our intelligence and mental cognition is the key, but animals can be taught to do the things we do and even teach certain species sign language.

I believe what sets humans apart is Spirituality. I think spirituality is the key defining factor of the human condition. We search for meaning, we try to find out place, we try to connect to the power that is greater than us and find its design in the mess called life. Now I am an amatuer in this catagory. I don’t claim to have any answers on what the higher power is or isn’t, or what that higher power had in mind when all of this was put together. I feel, and sense something, I know I am not alone.

When I was on my downspiral when I had hit bottom in my life, when I felt like a failure I acted like a defiant child not getting their way with crossed arms and declared non belief in a creator.  I found out fast that rock bottom had a basement, I triggered something toxicand it ate away at the hope and joy in me. I had turned my back on the powers that be claiming they’d abandoned me.

The pain, the sorrow, and how lost I felt after that point I wouldn’t wish on anyone.

It wasn’t until I accepted my spiritual side that I began to heal.

I highly urge and recommend we become students our spiritual nature. Discover what it means for you to be spiritual. You do not have to label your spirtual side with a religious title, you do not even ever have to share it with anybody. Your spirit, your spiritual nature is for you alone. Its how we fill that hole in our chest and breathe just a little easier. Learn how to feed, water and grow that side of you to become a better, happier, more successful person.


Living, Loving, Growing



Development Within Your Character & Personality


“The first thing each morning & the last thing each night, suggest to yourself specific ideas that you wish to embody in your character and personality. Address such suggestions to yourself, silently or aloud, until they are deeply impressed upon your mind”

-Grenville Kleiser

A little food for thought this morning…..

Love To All-Kim