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The Big Day

The big day…

It’s Sunday, a week before Labor Day, and I’m on vacation with my son at Universal studios, currently sitting by the wave pool in premium seating at Volcano Bay and it hit me… I have a good life.

I’m successful, I’m good with money (finally), I have some great friends, I have a great kid and I may be starting to date someone… so what’s wrong here?

Guess what?

Nothing!

I’m enjoying the moment and my spare tire in my midsection. I’m not stressing over what’s next and why not or why me… I’m just living my best life right now. And I’m doing it for myself.

That’s the trick here, put your oxygen mask on first, then everything else falls into place. None of this came without a good amount of time in therapy or a lot of looking in the mirror and saying, get at it or you know you are better than this.

Does this mean I don’t have goals? Of course not… that spare tire stopped paying rent a while ago, so the eviction notice is coming, Tuesday.

That career designation is happening by year end, because I made a promise to myself and I don’t want to fail on it (again).

That being a good role model to my son is continuing to grow and happen, we are just going to the next level with it now, as he develops into a young man.

What’s my purpose with all this? To tell all of you to get out there, smile, laugh, have the hard conversations (I did and it made my friendships even better) and take care of yourself first.

“Ad astra per aspera” my friends. Get at it and you got this! Your kids will thank you, I promise. 

-Electra 

Change Is Hard But If There Is A Will There Is A Way

Change is always hard but if there is a will there is always a way.

When I was in class for my real estate license I became extremely sick. Severe bronchitis, and it wasn’t being made better by my 18 year cigarette smoking habit. One exhausting morning of coughing, hacking and not being able to breath I caught myself trying to smoke!  Then a first happened to me, I got angry at my habit/ dependance on cigarettes. I threw my pack away, and swore I would never touch one again.

This is not the first time I have tried to quit. I have attempted and failed many times. I knew I should quit and why I should quit, but there was always something holding me back. I would cling to the idea that it was a stress relief, or that I enjoyed it.  I’ve come to realize that’s all rationalization for what i truly had-an addiction and a pretty bad one, at that. I was smoking up to a  pack and a half to two packs a day and not slowing down.

It has been six months and counting since I have quit cold turkey. I currently live with a smoker and I do not miss it, one bit! I cannot stand the smell and I feel better. All it took was not allowing excuses to give up. Change is hard, especially a change like this but anything worth doing is going to be difficult. No more excuses, if there is a will there is away and I have found my will.

Always be unapologetically yourself,

-Ali