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Getting Out Of Bed Has Saved Me

Getting out of bed and morning routines have saved me. If you knew me in college, this would never have happened.  20 years later I would be a person that loves a morning routine. And now I set my alarm to get up earlier than I need too including on the weekends, I still stick to a routine.  Yes, I set my alarm most weekends because otherwise I just won’t do it.. I come up with some excuse and then I’ve missed my opportunity.  We all do it.. say we are going to get up early but it just doesn’t happen. Setting a routine and sticking to it everyday works.

After my divorce,  my life seemed to get crazier with my kids and settling into a new lifestyle… there is a lot of adjusting with schedules, emotions, and just life.  I know people think that when you share custody you have all this free time. FALSE. I almost think I’m more busy ( that’s a story for another time).  I knew I had to do something different with my daily schedule. I needed to find time for myself and not finding time to exercise was making me more stressed. I felt so overwhelmed with the changes in my life and my mind was going to explode.  Like when you are trying to think about all these things to get through but your head is just scrambled.

I decided to start a morning routine, which includes getting up at 5:15 am.  This is not something that happens easy … it takes time to change habits and it’s hard.  I had to change my nightly routine and go to bed earlier.  And many days I have to drag my body out of bed and I still do..but I love it.  Morning is my favorite time.. it’s my time. I usually go to the gym and workout for that hour.

Crazy thing happened…After a couple of months of sticking to a routine.  I noticed that I am more prepared when my kids wake up and I’m not losing my shit every morning.  I am more productive at work because I’ve had time to plan my day and think about what I need to accomplish.   And I feel better about myself for getting up and doing something. It’s that feeling of accomplishment.

It’s my time of the day and I schedule it.  I get to prepare myself for the day ahead and not feel so rushed.  I hate that rushed feeling of not being caught up with life…. You start to feel scattered and running behind on everything in life..Routines keep me on track for the week.

Some days I go for a walk, write a blog, listen to a podcast, follow up on small projects or just sit outside..but I stick to the same routine that includes time to focus for myself.  Your daily routine does not need to include exercise, it can be whatever you want.  What is something you want to do each day but can never find time… this is the time that you can schedule it.  For me, this gave me an extra hour in the day.. one hour, 60 minutes, for seven days adds up.. it’s amazing what you can find to fill that hour.. and pretty soon it’s a routine for you and feels normal

-Snarky

https://www.snarkydivorcedgirl.com/blog

Daily Dose Of Happiness

Daily happiness tends to be about who you choose to surround yourself with in life and what you choose to look at on social media.These influence us and how we see the world.Echoing my fellow Blogger Ali’s post “Birds of A Feather ‘ we need to really empower ourselves in choosing who has this influence over us by carefully assessing them.

Until recently I really hadn’t noticed how what I read on social media actually follows me for the day.I had a personal issue with a friend over a car repair ,it shouldn’t have happened and I was feeling wronged .It was during this time that I started the notice the manipulation this person was attempting to use on social media and the ability of some humans to present themselves so falsely.In my mind I was left alone as soon as  I was no longer willing to be walked all over. The frustration was so great and was mounting daily and then I read Ali’s blog.

Using this as inspiration I did a little test, getting a daily dose of happiness.Ignoring everything else I chose to watch a happy compilation of things on social media.These were Jason Momoa (Aquaman) throwing axes on Ellen –both good for my heart rate and laughter , a sloth being assisted across the road by a tourist and waving thanks,ducks being used as bug control in crops in China instead of poison and the comedian Wanda Sykes referring to her middle aged belly fondly as “Esther”.All these things, while widely random and unique to my quirky Aussie humor worked together.Instant mood change! .Im not focusing on betrayal and the dark side of false friends and other perceived negativity but rather the funny and inspirational side of good people.So now I’m actively seeking the good people.The funny,the brave ,the out of the ordinary.Anyone can make you feel bad in life, seek those that make you feel good.

In the end I realized it was all for the good, I have moved on and am watching daily doses of happiness.We do need to be there for people in bad times but if you feel that its not reciprocated its not for you .It is now a relief to have lost those negative people and I look back at how I was being used.

Now I aim to laugh or be inspired when I log on and have those influences follow me for my day.

Toni

Learning,Teaching and Taking Time For Yourself

Whoa!  Time slow down!  I just blogged last week about time going to fast this year and the last few years. But seriously, this month has literally flown by!  We’ve been wrapped up in my brother-in-law’s illness for the last month, trying to catch up on work that we have gotten behind on, school Christmas programs, church programs, parties, basketball games, shopping, gift wrapping, baking and then our normal everyday responsibilities with 2 children who are very involved in a lot of things. Oh, and breathing…we have been trying to find time to breathe 🙂 The flu has already made the rounds at our house twice so far this fall/winter, which only causes to the confusion of catching up! It is complete madness! Every year the holiday season is like this for us and every year it just gets worse and worse with “things to do”.

I am fairly certain as a I talk about everything that goes on and the chaos of it all there may be a bit of a bitter undertone to my voice-and I am sure that during the moment of something going on I may seem irritated, tired, or disinterested.  I am not any of those things, well maybe tired, but I am focused. Focused on getting “this” done, or someone somewhere, and “this” taken care of……I enjoy every moment I get to help or be there for my children, husband, friends, family-I truly do. How does one go about slowing down in a world that is just so committed to going so fast? You just DO IT! I have seen parents that are way busier than us and I am to the point where I feel our plates are too full…I cannot even begin to imagine some of the others. My husband and I have put a “cap” on the amount of activities the kids could be in, financial reasons as well as scheduling reasons. Not because we don’t want the kids to do everything they want to do-because we do-but for ourselves and for them we know that if someone doesn’t have “Me-time”, “down-time” it just makes it all worse.  I have blogged on a previous occasion about the importance of me time, and I am a firm believer that if you are not healthy physically and mentally you are doing NOONE any favors.

Today is an awesome day to revisit that blog post and take some inspiration on ideas for the “Me Time”-

Self-Care On The Daily To Do List

Love to All-Kim