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Your Mentality Creates Your Reality

Last Sunday morning on the FB Coffee Chat (10am EST) I started talking to you guys about how your mentality creates your reality, so let’s talk about that some more.  Whatever you hold in your mind will eventually become the circumstance in which you live— this is a simple, universal fact.  Thoughts that are held in your mind will go forward into manifestation and become your reality.  Meaning first that if you are constantly focused on what is wrong and what isn’t working then you will create more of that in your future and also meaning that YOU have the power to bring forth a different REALITY by cleaning up your mentality.

You can quite literally “think” your way out of any seeming difficulty and “think” your way into a totally different life.  This can only be done IF you are willing to do the work—it takes work to change your thinking, you have to be willing to think new things and think in new ways as well as ‘fake it till you make it’.  When you start to introduce new thoughts your mind will tell you that you are crazy for making up statements that are not yet true— good thing you know better than to listen to your ‘mind’.  Waking up every morning and saying “every day in every way things are getting better and better for me now’ may seem crazy especially when your present circumstances appear to be daunting…this is what I mean when I say ‘fake it till you make it”—you have to start saying and thinking the NEW thoughts first—- the results come after—so you have to be willing to just begin no matter what you seem to be in the middle of…

The most important thing that I can teach you is that you can change anything if you can change your thinking—this is far easier to say than to do—-to do this—change your thinking requires constant replacement of thoughts—it is our habit to think about what is wrong, to complain, to think about what isn’t working—cleaning up your mentality means that you have to be vigilant and consciously replace every ‘old’ thought with a new one.  You have to train yourself to think and respond in a new way.

Most of us are living unconsciously when it comes to our thinking, we don’t evaluate our thoughts, we simply have them and act accordingly—we don’t take the time to see that our reality has becomes a reflection of what is in our heads.  Instead we remain reactive to circumstances and we slog through our lives complaining about what is around us and how things are going.   This really is insanity—acting like we are at effect of what is around us—instead of seeing that we are very much “at cause”.

My goal is to have you get conscious— to SEE that you CAN change things in your life—to see that if you will just be willing to do some work on yourself and be disciplined in it you can CHANGE THE GAME.

So for this week let’s get you to at least start seeing that your mentality creates your reality …

I will see you Sunday at 10am EST for our FB Live Weekly Coffee Chat…XO, Noelle

Anger Creates Chaos

Dale Carnegie teaches that the only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.  There is something to be said for that, how many of your own personal arguments ever ended with the desired result?  Most arguments, which are fueled by anger, consist of heated emotion and reactionary feelings. When those things are present, nothing good is happening.  Like I always say respond, don’t react!

When we are angry, we are divided from our centered/higher self, which only leads to chaos and destruction of some sort. Angry people cannot hear anything real, and they certainly can’t hear their inner voice or intuition.  Being swallowed by anger cuts us off from solutions and allows the dark side to run us with negative thoughts…thoughts such as “he is such a jerk”, “I can’t stand her, she is always wrong”, “he is selfish and hateful,” etc.

Allowing thoughts like this even for a moment gives power to the dark nature of things. Allowing thoughts like this to take root fuels more angry feelings.

Anger and angry feelings are destructive to the natural order of things, which creates chaos.  Chaos breeds fear and fear creates more anger, and so goes the vicious cycle.

Understanding anger for what it is can help us to become more tolerant.  There are times when we get upset because things don’t work the way we want them to and adjustments must be made…that is healthy.  What is destructive is upset that we allow to turn into pure rage and wholly negative thoughts.  When we permit ourselves to fall unchecked into negativity is when we begin to generate something destructive.

We must be vigilant in turning our upsets into constructive opportunities for change and communication.  Today, when you are feeling angry, look and see how you can change your perspective or communicate your upset constructively to create something positive.  Don’t allow yourself to be overtaken with angry and negative thoughts…be the better person, be the peacemaker.

 

-XO, Noelle