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Creating An Inner Peace

On last Sunday’s Coffee Chat FB Live, I talked about keeping your peace…let’s talk about what that means, how you find your ‘peace’ and how you can protect it. With everything that is happening both in our homes and in the world right now, it is extremely important that you figure out how to get yourself into a place of peace and be able to stay there. This is easier said than done and I am relearning it right along with you. These last few months have been a real lesson for me in how much I try to fix and solve everything for everyone often at my own expense.

I have been learning that it is no longer my job to solve all my son’s problems (he just turned 19 last week) and that it isn’t my job to fix or save my family members or my clients—people have to be able to learn their own lessons…by continually trying to solve everything for everyone around me I have literally exhausted myself to the point where I feel like a dish rag that has been thoroughly rung out on the daily right now.

Peace comes from being able to keep your inner equilibrium no matter what is going on around you…it means understanding what is yours to handle and what isn’t and it means being able to ‘listen’ without feeling responsible to act. Those of you fellow ‘fixers and savers’ know exactly what I mean. We are only responsible to handle our own crap. We don’t have to take on the issues all around us because when we do we lose our own inner peace, become more reactive and exhaust ourselves.

If you are a God person I would tell you to practice letting go and letting God— for those of you that have trouble with the God stuff I would say learn to let go and trust that Life itself will take care of you and the circumstances around you. Remember that what we focus on we will create, so taking time to focus on positive outcomes goes a long way in creating inner peace.

As the days pass and I continue to be stuck here I become more and more aware of how I tend to take on everyone else’s “stuff” as if it were my job to solve it— I ‘kind of’ knew this about myself, yet over the last two months I have become VERY much more aware of it and it is not something that I want to continue.

I realize that I need to be protective of my peace— that the cost of not paying attention to that is exhaustion and the inability to create anything new— I have found myself unmotivated to work on the new body of work for entrepreneurs that I want to bring out as well as unmotivated to make videos for the small coaching group that I invited a few people to participate in— when I started looking to see WHY I couldn’t seem to get out of my own way, I realized that I was using all my energy to try and make everybody else OK and happy etc. during these crazy times—— NOT MY JOB. I get it. I am working on letting GO and being responsible for MY OWN SHIT.

I started playing the effectiveness game again on Monday, so far I am a 10/10 on the daily— working really hard to stay focused on what works for me. Inviting you to do the same— see you on Sunday morning for Coffee Chat— take care of YOU.

XO, Noelle

Numbers Don’t Lie

The numbers don’t lie…

If you have been following along on the FB live Sunday Morning Coffee Chats and on the blog you know that I have been playing an effectiveness scoring game with myself since Jan. 12th.  This is a game/ measuring tool that I have invited you all to join me in—with every week that goes by I gain new insight into what stops me and how I am really showing up in my life.  It is proving to be quite telling.

After last Sunday’s Coffee Chat I decided to get a weekly average and graph it—so I added my daily score from each week and divided it by 7 to gain the weekly average.  The graph looks like this:

Clearly you can see that I am averaging 50% which is pretty pathetic….LOL.  Examining this data tells me everything that I need to know about why my life is where it is, don’t get me wrong I have a very blessed and fantastic life which I have worked really, really hard to create—yet with all I know and all that I have done this is the truth about me—I am showing up at about 50 something percent in my life.

The really interesting thing is that I now have to look at what I could create as my reality if my average was 80% or even 90%— who would I be able to be then?!—I have been asking myself this question since last Sunday…

So I do these averages and I make this chart and I look at it over and over and on Sunday I was a 30% and on Monday a 20% and then yesterday I decided that I would like to SEE what happens if I show up between 80 and 100 % consistently so I forced myself to be 100% yesterday and this morning I woke up with more energy to get things done.

Often I tell you that the worst battle you will every have is with yourself—my experiment with this listing game is really shining a light on that for me.  I told you that this was an assignment given to me decades ago from a coach of mine and that I have played it again over the years—however only for a week or two at a time.  This is the longest that I have ever evaluated myself and I have committed to you guys to do this until June.  It is going to be very interesting to see what reveals itself as I continue this.

Would love to have you play too and share with me what you are seeing about yourself.  You can go back and watch any of the Coffee Chats since Jan. 12th or go listen to the podcasts or read past blogs for instructions on how to make your list.  See you Sunday morning at 10am est for Coffee Chat.

 

XO, N.

Your Mentality Creates Your Reality

Last Sunday morning on the FB Coffee Chat (10am EST) I started talking to you guys about how your mentality creates your reality, so let’s talk about that some more.  Whatever you hold in your mind will eventually become the circumstance in which you live— this is a simple, universal fact.  Thoughts that are held in your mind will go forward into manifestation and become your reality.  Meaning first that if you are constantly focused on what is wrong and what isn’t working then you will create more of that in your future and also meaning that YOU have the power to bring forth a different REALITY by cleaning up your mentality.

You can quite literally “think” your way out of any seeming difficulty and “think” your way into a totally different life.  This can only be done IF you are willing to do the work—it takes work to change your thinking, you have to be willing to think new things and think in new ways as well as ‘fake it till you make it’.  When you start to introduce new thoughts your mind will tell you that you are crazy for making up statements that are not yet true— good thing you know better than to listen to your ‘mind’.  Waking up every morning and saying “every day in every way things are getting better and better for me now’ may seem crazy especially when your present circumstances appear to be daunting…this is what I mean when I say ‘fake it till you make it”—you have to start saying and thinking the NEW thoughts first—- the results come after—so you have to be willing to just begin no matter what you seem to be in the middle of…

The most important thing that I can teach you is that you can change anything if you can change your thinking—this is far easier to say than to do—-to do this—change your thinking requires constant replacement of thoughts—it is our habit to think about what is wrong, to complain, to think about what isn’t working—cleaning up your mentality means that you have to be vigilant and consciously replace every ‘old’ thought with a new one.  You have to train yourself to think and respond in a new way.

Most of us are living unconsciously when it comes to our thinking, we don’t evaluate our thoughts, we simply have them and act accordingly—we don’t take the time to see that our reality has becomes a reflection of what is in our heads.  Instead we remain reactive to circumstances and we slog through our lives complaining about what is around us and how things are going.   This really is insanity—acting like we are at effect of what is around us—instead of seeing that we are very much “at cause”.

My goal is to have you get conscious— to SEE that you CAN change things in your life—to see that if you will just be willing to do some work on yourself and be disciplined in it you can CHANGE THE GAME.

So for this week let’s get you to at least start seeing that your mentality creates your reality …

I will see you Sunday at 10am EST for our FB Live Weekly Coffee Chat…XO, Noelle

We Are Limitless

What would you do if told you that you cannot create abundance? You cannot create abundance because it is already and always there. We instead create and impose limitations that keeps us away from our abundance. We are limitless.

The universe, God, the source, whatever it may be for you, always has what we need or more for us, ready waiting for us to reach, and achieve it. Our perceived limitations are the only thing that is stopping us.

This is why perception checking is a must. We can not expect to prosper living in negativity, for we will block anything we are attracting to us. 

I’ve noticed on my own personal journey and growth many many obstacles. I am a kind, loving, and generous person. The thing that boggled my mind is im such a good person, but yet i keep getting screwed over, again and again. Trying to figure out why I knocked myself out of a place of abundance and started basing my value on how others treated me and thought of me.

I more recently figured out my issues, I was allowing low vibration individuals into my circle, these people that have no desire to work on themselves would much rather knock people lower than them. Hence the term Misery loves company. I was allowing these type of people to measure myself worth and lets just say with them of the wheel it kept measuring up short.

Negativity steals abundance and so does non growth in fact these two things together are deadly to a fulfilling and abundant life.

After the last two years of getting rid of my own personal ick, I am finally realizing abundance is a constant natural state. That I place my own limitations and outcomes of abundance, and I can have it all if I allow myself to. I do not need someone to define what success, worth or abundance is for me because I found my path I see my roadblocks and i’m moving forward hammer in hand ready to tear down anything in my way.

Loving learning growing,

Ali

Anger Creates Chaos

Dale Carnegie teaches that the only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.  There is something to be said for that, how many of your own personal arguments ever ended with the desired result?  Most arguments, which are fueled by anger, consist of heated emotion and reactionary feelings. When those things are present, nothing good is happening.  Like I always say respond, don’t react!

When we are angry, we are divided from our centered/higher self, which only leads to chaos and destruction of some sort. Angry people cannot hear anything real, and they certainly can’t hear their inner voice or intuition.  Being swallowed by anger cuts us off from solutions and allows the dark side to run us with negative thoughts…thoughts such as “he is such a jerk”, “I can’t stand her, she is always wrong”, “he is selfish and hateful,” etc.

Allowing thoughts like this even for a moment gives power to the dark nature of things. Allowing thoughts like this to take root fuels more angry feelings.

Anger and angry feelings are destructive to the natural order of things, which creates chaos.  Chaos breeds fear and fear creates more anger, and so goes the vicious cycle.

Understanding anger for what it is can help us to become more tolerant.  There are times when we get upset because things don’t work the way we want them to and adjustments must be made…that is healthy.  What is destructive is upset that we allow to turn into pure rage and wholly negative thoughts.  When we permit ourselves to fall unchecked into negativity is when we begin to generate something destructive.

We must be vigilant in turning our upsets into constructive opportunities for change and communication.  Today, when you are feeling angry, look and see how you can change your perspective or communicate your upset constructively to create something positive.  Don’t allow yourself to be overtaken with angry and negative thoughts…be the better person, be the peacemaker.

 

-XO, Noelle

Creating The Life You Want For Yourself

As we approach 2017, it’s a good time to start thinking about the life that you really want to create for yourself.  How to begin creating this life for yourself can be difficult. How do I get what I want, what am I willing to give up, how will I have to change, who will it affect? All very overwhelming thoughts.  Today I am simply going to ask you to start living in three questions and writing down your answers…as we get closer to January we will do more with this.

What do you want?

Who would you have to become to get it?

What would you have to shed about yourself to make that happen?

The Past Is Not To Dictate The Future

Don’t let the past dictate your future.  Leave the it back there where it belongs, it served a purpose and now it’s time to move on.

There is something to learn from every thing that has happened to us.  If you are stuck on something from the past then ask for the lesson to reveal itself so that you can be freed from constantly reviewing history.

Often the holiday season will become a time for reviewing old situations or old circumstances, let’s not do that this year.  This Christmas season let’s remember what we are grateful for and start thinking about what we want to create for 2017.   Time to move on….