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Take Your Second Chances

Four years ago to almost the day, my parents took my family and my sisters family to Florida for a vacation. We had been planning it for years.. At that time in my life, I had lived my entire life as a pleaser and couldn’t disappoint any of them. I hated having that feeling I was disappointing someone. However, I already knew when we got back to glorious Wisconsin, I would be telling my husband I wanted a divorce. No way to sugar coat that..It was not the trip of a lifetime.

And now four years later,I am divorced and happy. I mean I have my moments but overall it took the last 4 years to get to this point. The point of life where I’m happy about my choices and happy about the life I’m living. I had my 3 kids for spring break so off to Florida we were going… This was my second chance.

I was so excited for this trip but also so nervous… I had to do all the planning and be responsible for getting 3 kids to Florida.. And just hoping my son didn’t put a so-called weapon into his pocket and we will be hauled off.. It was a lot of responsibility for all of us. I had to rely also on my kids to be responsible and help out when I needed. Moments before we left, I thought am I crazy to do this.

But once the trip started, it was amazing. This trip probably meant more to me than they anyone will ever know… to my kids it was 8 days in the sun.. and to me it was my second chance. This was my second chance from 4 years ago. It just showed me how your life can change… How we make choices, how scared we are at that time, and how in time it does work out. I could have never imagined all of the changes as a person that you go through in 4 years with a divorce. I finally got to be the person I wanted to be…

4 years ago, I would have been the mom that had the lunches packed the night before, been yelling at my kids to be up by 7, to be at the beach by 8 am.. and I would not have relaxed for a minute on a vacation. I did not enjoy being that person. I would have made sure I was pleasing everyone, just not myself.

Today, I am so relaxed. I am not worried about pleasing everyone. I am not worried about trying to do a million things in one day. I am not worried about seeing every attraction in Florida in 8 days. I made choices that have made my happy.

I took this trip day by day. I let my kids sleep til 11 and I got to go for morning runs. I got to sit and drink coffee in the sun. I got to think about my life and my future. We swam, we laughed, we had ice cream everyday, we stayed up til midnight.. We got to drive to the beach at whatever time we got up…and some days we just hung out. I have never seen my kids so relaxed or just having fun. They were happy, really happy. I think we all worry about our kids everyday and then sometimes you look at them and know they are really happy. I got to sit and watch them and just relax.

So yes, we get re-dos in life and second chances. We get a second chance to do it again.. maybe different or better this time. Maybe things weren’t as clear the first time or maybe you didn’t have the confidence at that time….but in the end take your second chance.

-Snarky Divorced Gal

I’m Not Superstitious-But I Am A Little Stitious

I’m a big fan of memes and one of my favorites is a picture of Steve Carrel from the office it reads:

“I’m not superstitious

But I am a little stitious”

Yup that’s me. With a lot of things in my life. But the biggie is when good things happen.

Superstitious-I don’t trust good things. I wait for that other shoe to drop. I could use my track record as my excuse but I think it’s deeper than that.

Somewhere along the way just like asking for help. I was made to feel I don’t deserve good things.

I don’t mean daily massages or an unlimited spending allowance at Sephora.

Although, I wouldn’t mind those things.

But rather being recognized for a job well done. When I’m praised at work I always say thank you, but say I didn’t do it alone. I don’t deserve the credit. Even if I really do.

When I got asked to speak at a conference recently, I instantly thought it was because they couldn’t find anyone else. Not that maybe I’m a good speaker.

I blush at compliments.

I get teary at the littlest things.

As much as I want good things and want to hear I’m awesome, sparkly, be loved…

When it happens I don’t know what to do with it. I question it. I analyze it. I don’t always trust it. I wait for it to fall apart.

Luckily and I’ve alluded to my dream team before. My group of friends scold me when I start to question things too much. I have a person who holds my hand and teases me- “don’t cry” and kisses the top of my head.

It’s a slippery slope we Moms traverse. We want so much for everyone around us, why can’t we want that for ourselves?

I’m working on being less stitious. Believing in myself and not letting that self doubt and some bumps from my past make me freeze.

It’s ok to want good things.

Say it with my Mommas.

“It’s ok to want good things”.

Just in case you start to get a little superstitious… I’ll be here reminding you… you deserve good things.

You really do.

<3 Caprise

Get Up, Dress Up, Show Up, For How You Want to Be Seen

Good morning! Whether we like to admit it, some times “books are judged by their cover”. Being seen for your appearance, in the work force, is a true reality. But most importantly how you look, is most often a reflection of how you feel that day.

I myself am guilty of seeing someone and making an assumption on how they are feeling that day. I do interviews for both prospective employees as well as meetings with clients. Do I expect those people to show up in a $1,000 suit? Absolutely not! Although,I do have certain expectations because I feel as if you are disheveled more days than not-it is also going to affect your commitment to the job/project, your personality, and how you feel about yourself. Do I understand that people have craptastic days, don’t feel well? I sure do!

Think about it this way…..I am going in for my dream job interview-I am going to dress the part.  I want my future employer to know that I respect the position, I value the time I am being given for the interview, I appreciate the opportunity to do what I have always dreamed to do. I feel great, I feel positive and I want to look and be seen that way too.  I want to make an awesome first impression. I really REALLY want this job. My confidence is high and I am going to NAIL this interview. It matters, it truly does. Wearing sweatpants to a dream job interview doesn’t take away from your personality and skills but it most certainly takes away your commitment to that position. It takes away from how you feel about yourself.

Get Up, Dress Up, Show Up!

Love to All-Kim

The 5C’s Unlocking Your Unlimited Potential

The 5C’s Unlocking Your Unlimited Potential

“Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence.”

-Vince Lombardi

 

This is one of my favorite Lombardi quotes. It really does hit the nail on the head for what I hope our program can develop for you, a vigorous pursuit of perfection on the road of excellence.

Too often we succumb to the tasteless flavor of mediocrity only to kid ourselves that it tastes good. It doesn’t, average never tastes good, nor ever will. Our life should be full of flavor and rich experiences, and that’s what this program is designed to be; rich and full of unique experiences as you develop mastery over your health, fitness, wealth, and happiness.

There are two central concepts I would like you to review before describe the 5C’s:

1.) You are created by design, not by default. You have a purpose, and the ability to fulfill it. All of the necessary ingredients for your success are already within you, my mission is to teach you how to Unleash the Champion that is already in you.

2.)  We must all learn to exceed expectations to thrive. The enemy of great is good. You are created for greatness, there is absolutely no doubt about it. Never settle for good enough, you must have high expectations to achieve excellence, so commit to exceed your expectations daily.

80% of people never reach their expectations

15% reach their expectations

5% exceed their expectations

Be the 5% and you will rule the world.

I created a blueprint called the 5C’s to keep you focused on process, and not problems.  Problems now become opportunities when put into the proper context. To describe the 5C’s from a health and fitness standpoint, let me give you a brief overview of the most important aspects of the 5C’s.

Conviction  .  Commitment  .  Consistency  .  Confidence  .  Courage

 

Conviction is an overwhelming belief in someone, or something. Our beliefs are the foundation for how, and what we think. For example, if you believe you never have been healthy, and probably never can be, this is a reflexion of belief. Your belief is then manifested in how you think, and your body tends to come into alignment with that thought process, you are overweight and unhealthy.

There are two major forms of belief, intellectual agreement, and assimilation.

Intellectual agreement tends to be fact based and resides on the surface of our thoughts. The example being, there are obviously people that live debt free, experiencing financial freedom, living a joyful life, but they’re different, they have a skill or talent I just don’t have. Intellectual agreement being based on facts is a beginning to forging a strong conviction, but must be developed deeper.

Assimilation is taking conviction to the depth of our being, you become what you believe. An easy example to follow is with nutrition. Every cell of your body requires nourishment, EVERY cell. You literally assimilate the foods you eat, and become what you eat. If you develop Type II diabetes it’s not because you ate a clean nutritious diet, it is typically because you have eaten too much sugar on a consistent basis. If you have to much month at the end of your money it is possible you are spending beyond your means, and need to position yourself to create more income when and wherever possible.

Assimilation is becoming what you believe. If you believe you were created to “can do” anything, that all the necessary tools reside in you already, you just need to learn how to access these skills and make them work for you, than you are on the road to renewing your mind.

To renew your mind, to change your “stink’n think’n” and not conform to the world of managed average you must continuously assimilate who you are, and where you are going. Not focusing on where you are, and you have no clue who you are.

 

Commitment is the action plan anchored to your conviction or beliefs. This is very often where a persons actions begin to break down. Is this true for you? Have you made commitments in the past and after time passes the commitments seems to have passed by as well? Very often we break our own commitments simply because they were anchored in intellectual agreement, not assimilation. Remember assimilation has deep roots and can withstand the storm of life on your dreams. Intellectual agreement has underdeveloped roots and can easily be talked away with an unexpected storm. Commitment is strengthened with every storm if, you have assimilated Conviction.

 

Consistency is a reflexion of your past, an insight into your future, and the power you can leverage today. Consistency then is habits. Think about it, how many of you would even consider not brushing your teeth for days, let alone weeks? Yet how many people don’t exercise on a regular basis, or save a percentage of their incomes consistently? Consistency is established in the strength of our Commitments. We are all a walking, talking advertisement for consistency, the question is are those consistent habits building us up, or effectively pulling us apart?

 

Confidence is a wonderful process developed through the consistency that builds you up. Confidence is also born through the failures we experience along the way that through our commitments, anchored to our convictions, we can learn from, rather than lose because of. Confidence is the magnificent result of the Consistent realization that you are the direct product of your decisions and not your conditions.

 

Courage is many things but for us let’s focus on the fact it takes courage to leave your comfort zone behind. To live the “next level” lifestyle means you are living the extraordinary life, and never settling for ordinary again. You are comfortable with uncomfortable, and you prefer to be abnormal rather than live average. Courageous living is knowing the difference between being willing to take the next step, and having the willpower to push on.  People that have established Confidence, never strive again, but thrive daily with the courage to live from victory, not for victory.

 

Using the 5C’s to transform the way you Think

Transforming the way you think requires daily reflexion on your beliefs. Your beliefs about your potential more so than anything else when it come to health, fitness, and happiness.

 

 

Consider:

  • Do you have a hunger for growth?
  • Are you willing to chase your dreams, and “lean in” to your life?
  • Preparation is the key to developing confidence, follow through is the icing!
  • What are your pay offs? What inspires you to never quit?
  • Define what this means, and then answer it, “Do you have the courage to fail?”
  • Skill is developed through failure, learning is what transforms failure in success.
  • Are you willing to give your broken pieces a chance?
  • When you have a mentor you can learn from their mistakes, you never pay for the mistakes of others, yet you can learn powerful lessons on your road to optimal health and peak performance.
  • You clearly have thousands of choices about your life, for example:

1.) What you say, and what you don’t say.

2.) What you think, and what you don’t think.

3.) What you do, and don’t do?

  • Always keep the “main thing,” the main thing. So what does that mean to you?
  • Today answer these questions, Who are you? What do you want?
  • Never fear hard work, embrace it.
  • Avoid envy, unless you are willing to do, what other people do, to get what other people get…
  • When we have tough, or “bad” things happen, that typically means you are in the right place, and the challenges are the refining fire necessary to take you to the next level.
  • In life, we always should be moving forward, in saying that we should also always be ready for a fall, that is REAL life, not negative thinking. If you are prepared for a fall, you will always get up quicker.
  • Take time, get a pad and paper, and write out what do you believe. Deep, heartfelt beliefs, are crucial to controlling your life, you just need transparency, and clarity. Write them down, please…
  • Hope travels everywhere, no need for a passport. Did you remember to pack it?
  • EVERY single day matters, every day counts. Do not take one day off…

I want to invite you to check out my website, and my complete eBook,

  • The 5C’s “Unlocking Your Unlocking Your Unlimited Potential”

Please visit: www.unleashthechampiononlinetraining.com

Also you can check out:

  • Habit FORMING “Creating Nutrition, Fitness, and Life Habits”
  • Fit for the Fight “The Art of Fighting from Victory, not for Victory”

Have a Joyous and Blessed Christmas and Holiday Season

Carter

Success = Self-confidence and Enthusiasm

“Self-confidence is an essential quality for all worthwhile accomplishments.”   – Napoleon Hill

If you don’t believe in yourself then how can you expect anyone else to believe in you?  No matter what has happened, you must have Faith in your ability to accomplish whatever you want.  Often it is easier to believe in other people, especially when things look dark and difficult–it is during these times that you MUST manufacture confidence in yourself and in your ability to create and take action.  When I say, repeatedly, that nothing is impossible– I absolutely mean that NOTHING IS IMPOSSIBLE.  The first step to making the seemingly impossible, possible is to have certainty and confidence that you have whatever it takes to move mountains.  Most people do not succeed because they do not believe they can have or deserve success.

Enthusiasm goes hand-in-hand with self-confidence.  Being self-confident and expressing enthusiasm about what you are doing naturally attracts support and goodwill.  People want to be around people that are confident and happy because it makes them feel better about themselves.

When you are going through difficult times and starting to doubt yourself, call on the people that know you the best (your lifers) to remind you that you have what it takes to turn the tide.  Their FAITH in you will give you something to stand on and it will help you remember who you are.  From that renewed perspective you will be able to MOVE YOUR MOUNTAINS and produce  results.