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It’s All About The X

It’s all about the X…

Sooooo…the whole list of ten things exercise…what an eye opener that always turns out to be…for those of you that are not understanding this it has been mentioned on several FB lives and in a past blog.  I suggested that people play along with me in seeing how effective they really are in their daily lives. The suggestion was to make a list of 10 things that if you did them EVERY day you would feel like you were winning in your life.  The 10 things are up to you, could be whatever you want…then make a chart for the 10 things a day, 7 days a week and start giving yourself a daily score by putting an X next to tasks completed and a 0 next to those left undone.  

This is something that one of my coaches assigned me a long time ago and over the years I start it up again from time to time to see how I am doing with being effective and creating forward motion.

Began this again (and invited you guys to start it too) on Jan. 12th when I did the FB Live Coffee Chat that Sunday morning.  Here are how things have stacked up since then…

1st week start Jan. 12= 90, 80, 90, 100, 70, 70, 50

2nd week start Jan. 19= 70, 60, 60, 80, 80, 60, 50

3rd week so far Jan. 26= 50, 70, 70, 50, 40 (fri and sat still to go)

As you can see, I got more pathetic as time marched on…so when I want to know why I am not producing certain results in my life, here is my answer.  These scores are SO typical of me and the way I approach things, come out of the gate balls to the wall and then lose steam over time, then I will give myself a pep talk and get back on the beam and go balls to the wall again.  The result being and UP and DOWN kind of momentum instead of a steady forward and organized force. This is the pattern that has gotten in my way for decades and I am really committed to breaking through this and having it be a different way.

I encourage those of you not playing this game with me to join in—given that the 10 things can be whatever you want it should be relatively easy to knock it out of the park with this process…unless you are me…LOL

Things on my list include working out, reading for an hour, making the bed, keeping the kitchen counter clear, gratitude journal…simple things really…things that one should be able to easily accomplish daily.  Several days I simply decided to rebel against the list and purposely did not complete things that were simple as if I was punishing whom exactly????

Funny thing to note is that on my 90 and 100 couple of days I was so on purpose and filled with energy that I even surprised myself with all that I accomplished…kind of seeing a self-sabotage thing going on here…which I am committed to breaking into so stay tuned for updates on my scores!

Don’t forget to join me Sunday morning at 10am EST for Coffee Chat on FB Live.

Have a good week and here’s to the X’s.

With Love,

Noelle

Why Are Doritos Enough?

Why are Doritos enough? Being content without being in a relationship.Soon after my divorce, I dated quite a bit and then I was in a serious relationship,for over a year and a half.  Which I know I have wrote about in some of my previous blogs….

Fast forward a couple years, why am I NOT serious about dating now? Why am I content spending nights eating Doritos and watching Netflix.  I hear all the time, why don’t you have a boyfriend.  I get asked about my dating and why I’m not in a relationship… Maybe because I just want to do other things and I am content.   Back off Debra…

Kids…

I share 50/50 custody with my children.  My children are in their prime years.. they are 15,12, and 9.  And they are heavily involved in sports, activities, church friends, etc. I complain a lot about them because my nights and days are spent driving them everywhere. However, I know that these are the years I will never get back. I love my time with them and I cherish it.  We spend our time just hanging out and having fun. I have realized that this point in my life, I do not want to change the dynamic of our family and life. They feel comfortable and safe at our home.

Time to myself…

After my children leave for their dads, I have learned that I love to have time to myself.  I need that time to decompress after the crazies have left.. I love to have a night to myself to go for a walk or hike. I am not being selfish, but I love that time. I know I have mentioned this before on how my house can go from a crazy madhouse to deathly quiet. Anyone that has shared custody with kids can probably relate to this analogy. I am a huge advocate for how important making time for yourself is in life.

Not enough time to commit…

I feel that with the demands of my children, I would not be able to give the amount of time dedicated to being  in a relationship.  Don’t get me wrong, I’m not against it.  I know that right now, I can not dedicate the time needed for a relationship.  I have been in a relationship and it was very hard to divide the time between my children, boyfriend, and everyday life. I was overwhelmed much of the time.  I just couldn’t get it all done and I had no time for myself.  Many times I was so stressed and crabby, I was mad at everyone.   There were times in the past when I knew I picked my relationship over my kids. Or I would drag them along to activities that they had no interest in, just to see my boyfriend.

Since that relationship, I have taken a lot of time to understand why it didn’t work.  Relationships require a lot of commitment.  They require hard work and making them a priority. I know that I would not be able to make a relationship a priority right now in my life.

In the past, I seem to attract men that are really looking for a serious relationship.  Even after, I am very honest with what I was looking for in dating and the amount of time that  I can commit. I get overwhelmed by the constant texting and not being able to respond. Yes, I know all the quotes about “if you really want to, you will make time”.  I have heard it all, but its not at the top of my list.  I do understand that thinking however, when I’m with my children, I do not feel like taking time away from them to be texting possible dates.   And from some of my past dating experiences, some of the guys that I have met think that all my free time should be spent with them.  This is even after one or two dates.  That is not true.

Priorities…

Right now, I have many areas in my life that I want to make more of a priority. I enjoy writing my blogs and gaining more experience. This is something that I have taught myself through research, podcasts, and social media.  I am learning new things all the time that I want to learn about.  I think I was in an unsatisfied marriage for over 13 years and the last 5 years I have learning all over again what I enjoy.  Until I can accomplish these goals or priorities, then a relationship will not be a priority.

I’m Actually Content…

I guess what it comes down to is my life, is that I’m very content and comfortable right now.  I look at how much I have changed and grown in the last 5 years.   I’m comfortable with not having my children 100% of the time. That was a huge obstacle for me. I am content hanging out by myself. I am comfortable saying no to a date..  well unless he was really cute.

There is no magical answer to when is the best time to enter in a relationship.. it’s all up to you and what you want out of it.  As I have adjusted to being divorced, I have learned there is no rush in anything. And there is no problem in waiting or saying it’s not a priority right now.  So just tell your family and friends to back off….

Snarky

www.snarkydivorcedgal.com/blog

Consistency Eludes Me

Don’t look at yourself upside down…as in when you are doing the downward dog yoga pose…the skin on my thighs looks like it belongs to an elephant and so now I am going, like WTF?!

Also I have decided that coffee IS a food group. Now that we have established those two things we can move on to today’s blog…

What keeps us from achieving certain goals that we set for ourselves? Why can we be super disciplined about some things yet not at all about others? Why are there some things that it seems like we can never make a dent in???

These are the questions that I am asking myself this evening—- I am a REALLY high producer, people hire me to make things happen—-yet I have been struggling with the same two stupid things for literally a decade and I am so freaking SICK of it. For all of my training and forward thinking I have been seemingly unable to be consistent month after month and year after year with two things—-

  • A daily TO DO List
  • Sticking to a weekly workout plan

Just to be clear, I have days, weeks and even months where I do each of these things like clockwork and then something will happen and a day gets skipped and then I have fallen off the wagon again—- then starts my cycle of self-loathing because I am not consistent etc etc.

I am very convinced that the next level of my life will only come to me as a result of mastering these two items. I feel better when I am doing these two things as if they are a habit— I feel more on purpose and more productive…however consistency with them continues to elude me —- as you know I am working on a new book for you guys which will give you the tools to “change the game” and of course as I am thinking through the book content process I see that I will have to set about mastering these two things so that I can walk you through what it looks like to finally master something that has been an issue for so long. This motivation is actually a gift, thinking of all of you will make me stick to my resolve even when I don’t want to—-you guys are my WHY…and truly that is a blessing.

Armed with a new planner and a new workout program, I have started again on my quest to master these two items. The important thing is to simply keep going, because of course that is all there ever is to do. Just keep going, keep at it, keep moving—-no matter how long it takes you will get there and so will I—- stay tuned for my progress—-have a great week.

 

XO,

Noelle

Development Within Your Character & Personality

Development….

“The first thing each morning & the last thing each night, suggest to yourself specific ideas that you wish to embody in your character and personality. Address such suggestions to yourself, silently or aloud, until they are deeply impressed upon your mind”

-Grenville Kleiser

A little food for thought this morning…..

Love To All-Kim

The 5C’s Unlocking Your Unlimited Potential

The 5C’s Unlocking Your Unlimited Potential

“Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence.”

-Vince Lombardi

 

This is one of my favorite Lombardi quotes. It really does hit the nail on the head for what I hope our program can develop for you, a vigorous pursuit of perfection on the road of excellence.

Too often we succumb to the tasteless flavor of mediocrity only to kid ourselves that it tastes good. It doesn’t, average never tastes good, nor ever will. Our life should be full of flavor and rich experiences, and that’s what this program is designed to be; rich and full of unique experiences as you develop mastery over your health, fitness, wealth, and happiness.

There are two central concepts I would like you to review before describe the 5C’s:

1.) You are created by design, not by default. You have a purpose, and the ability to fulfill it. All of the necessary ingredients for your success are already within you, my mission is to teach you how to Unleash the Champion that is already in you.

2.)  We must all learn to exceed expectations to thrive. The enemy of great is good. You are created for greatness, there is absolutely no doubt about it. Never settle for good enough, you must have high expectations to achieve excellence, so commit to exceed your expectations daily.

80% of people never reach their expectations

15% reach their expectations

5% exceed their expectations

Be the 5% and you will rule the world.

I created a blueprint called the 5C’s to keep you focused on process, and not problems.  Problems now become opportunities when put into the proper context. To describe the 5C’s from a health and fitness standpoint, let me give you a brief overview of the most important aspects of the 5C’s.

Conviction  .  Commitment  .  Consistency  .  Confidence  .  Courage

 

Conviction is an overwhelming belief in someone, or something. Our beliefs are the foundation for how, and what we think. For example, if you believe you never have been healthy, and probably never can be, this is a reflexion of belief. Your belief is then manifested in how you think, and your body tends to come into alignment with that thought process, you are overweight and unhealthy.

There are two major forms of belief, intellectual agreement, and assimilation.

Intellectual agreement tends to be fact based and resides on the surface of our thoughts. The example being, there are obviously people that live debt free, experiencing financial freedom, living a joyful life, but they’re different, they have a skill or talent I just don’t have. Intellectual agreement being based on facts is a beginning to forging a strong conviction, but must be developed deeper.

Assimilation is taking conviction to the depth of our being, you become what you believe. An easy example to follow is with nutrition. Every cell of your body requires nourishment, EVERY cell. You literally assimilate the foods you eat, and become what you eat. If you develop Type II diabetes it’s not because you ate a clean nutritious diet, it is typically because you have eaten too much sugar on a consistent basis. If you have to much month at the end of your money it is possible you are spending beyond your means, and need to position yourself to create more income when and wherever possible.

Assimilation is becoming what you believe. If you believe you were created to “can do” anything, that all the necessary tools reside in you already, you just need to learn how to access these skills and make them work for you, than you are on the road to renewing your mind.

To renew your mind, to change your “stink’n think’n” and not conform to the world of managed average you must continuously assimilate who you are, and where you are going. Not focusing on where you are, and you have no clue who you are.

 

Commitment is the action plan anchored to your conviction or beliefs. This is very often where a persons actions begin to break down. Is this true for you? Have you made commitments in the past and after time passes the commitments seems to have passed by as well? Very often we break our own commitments simply because they were anchored in intellectual agreement, not assimilation. Remember assimilation has deep roots and can withstand the storm of life on your dreams. Intellectual agreement has underdeveloped roots and can easily be talked away with an unexpected storm. Commitment is strengthened with every storm if, you have assimilated Conviction.

 

Consistency is a reflexion of your past, an insight into your future, and the power you can leverage today. Consistency then is habits. Think about it, how many of you would even consider not brushing your teeth for days, let alone weeks? Yet how many people don’t exercise on a regular basis, or save a percentage of their incomes consistently? Consistency is established in the strength of our Commitments. We are all a walking, talking advertisement for consistency, the question is are those consistent habits building us up, or effectively pulling us apart?

 

Confidence is a wonderful process developed through the consistency that builds you up. Confidence is also born through the failures we experience along the way that through our commitments, anchored to our convictions, we can learn from, rather than lose because of. Confidence is the magnificent result of the Consistent realization that you are the direct product of your decisions and not your conditions.

 

Courage is many things but for us let’s focus on the fact it takes courage to leave your comfort zone behind. To live the “next level” lifestyle means you are living the extraordinary life, and never settling for ordinary again. You are comfortable with uncomfortable, and you prefer to be abnormal rather than live average. Courageous living is knowing the difference between being willing to take the next step, and having the willpower to push on.  People that have established Confidence, never strive again, but thrive daily with the courage to live from victory, not for victory.

 

Using the 5C’s to transform the way you Think

Transforming the way you think requires daily reflexion on your beliefs. Your beliefs about your potential more so than anything else when it come to health, fitness, and happiness.

 

 

Consider:

  • Do you have a hunger for growth?
  • Are you willing to chase your dreams, and “lean in” to your life?
  • Preparation is the key to developing confidence, follow through is the icing!
  • What are your pay offs? What inspires you to never quit?
  • Define what this means, and then answer it, “Do you have the courage to fail?”
  • Skill is developed through failure, learning is what transforms failure in success.
  • Are you willing to give your broken pieces a chance?
  • When you have a mentor you can learn from their mistakes, you never pay for the mistakes of others, yet you can learn powerful lessons on your road to optimal health and peak performance.
  • You clearly have thousands of choices about your life, for example:

1.) What you say, and what you don’t say.

2.) What you think, and what you don’t think.

3.) What you do, and don’t do?

  • Always keep the “main thing,” the main thing. So what does that mean to you?
  • Today answer these questions, Who are you? What do you want?
  • Never fear hard work, embrace it.
  • Avoid envy, unless you are willing to do, what other people do, to get what other people get…
  • When we have tough, or “bad” things happen, that typically means you are in the right place, and the challenges are the refining fire necessary to take you to the next level.
  • In life, we always should be moving forward, in saying that we should also always be ready for a fall, that is REAL life, not negative thinking. If you are prepared for a fall, you will always get up quicker.
  • Take time, get a pad and paper, and write out what do you believe. Deep, heartfelt beliefs, are crucial to controlling your life, you just need transparency, and clarity. Write them down, please…
  • Hope travels everywhere, no need for a passport. Did you remember to pack it?
  • EVERY single day matters, every day counts. Do not take one day off…

I want to invite you to check out my website, and my complete eBook,

  • The 5C’s “Unlocking Your Unlocking Your Unlimited Potential”

Please visit: www.unleashthechampiononlinetraining.com

Also you can check out:

  • Habit FORMING “Creating Nutrition, Fitness, and Life Habits”
  • Fit for the Fight “The Art of Fighting from Victory, not for Victory”

Have a Joyous and Blessed Christmas and Holiday Season

Carter