Choosing my battles has always been a difficult task for me. I am suppose to write today about my top 3 pet peeves. Problem is, long time ago, I gave up what I would refer to as pet peeves, I chose my battles. Pet peeves to me are things like, chewing with your mouth open, chewing loudly, my son’s dirty socks 2″ from the laundry basket, my daughter’s floor carpeted with clothing, and so on. I spent a lot of days irritated by pet peeves, sweating the small stuff and when it was time for me to wind down for the night I would be so strung tight with annoyances through the day that I couldn’t even relax.
Now-don’t get me wrong, I still get irritated by pet peeves but I have trained myself to think “Do those things really matter at the end of the day?” And if the answer is No- then I have chosen my battle. Life is too short to be irritated by those things-and yes it’s super annoying and irritating. I have a close friend who has lost a child at an early age and I can guarantee with everything that I am she would give ANYTHING for her child to sit at the table and chew loudly with their mouth open while leaving his socks 2″ away from the laundry basket, while everyone stomped through his clothing on the floor. She doesn’t get that chance, ever again. So I refuse to spend my days irritated by pet peeves and the small things. I chose my battles in all aspects in my life.
Love to All-Kim
Happy Thursday, I hope that you all had a good day thus far…I just finished a round of teaching boy to drive…NO WORDS! Let us just say that it is REALLY hard for a control freak to not be in control in that situation…’nuf said!
I posted a video this afternoon for you, it can be found on the FB page. In it I am talking about how what you think about, you get more of…as in what you keep focusing on is actually what you will bring to pass. Many people seem to think that the circumstances they find themselves in are a mystery, yet if you backtrack into what they have been focused on for the last while you may start to see exactly how they ended up where they are. You actually perpetuate unfavorable conditions by staying focused on how awful they are, when you complain about and continually discuss the things that are not working you give them more solidarity. Your words, thoughts and attention have an immense amount of power and therefore what you focus them on gains strength in your life.
That said, when things are not working the way that you want them to you need to start focusing on the outcomes you want to see instead of on what seems to be before you. This is no easy task, it requires you to be vigilant with your thoughts and police all the ones that are not going in the direction you want them to. Not only do you need to catch those unfavorable thoughts, you have to REPLACE them with a positive thought or with a moment of gratitude.
I have been studying these principles since I was 12 years old and I can promise you with certainty that when they are practiced with discipline and consistency they work, hands down, every time. Let me know in the comments or via email if you want me to elaborate on this more. For now I will task you with beginning to pay attention to your thoughts and words and see if they are representative of the life that you want to have.
See you tomorrow. xoxo