Dale Carnegie teaches that the only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it. There is something to be said for that, how many of your own personal arguments ever ended with the desired result? Most arguments, which are fueled by anger, consist of heated emotion and reactionary feelings. When those things are present, nothing good is happening. Like I always say respond, don’t react!
When we are angry, we are divided from our centered/higher self, which only leads to chaos and destruction of some sort. Angry people cannot hear anything real, and they certainly can’t hear their inner voice or intuition. Being swallowed by anger cuts us off from solutions and allows the dark side to run us with negative thoughts…thoughts such as “he is such a jerk”, “I can’t stand her, she is always wrong”, “he is selfish and hateful,” etc.
Allowing thoughts like this even for a moment gives power to the dark nature of things. Allowing thoughts like this to take root fuels more angry feelings.
Anger and angry feelings are destructive to the natural order of things, which creates chaos. Chaos breeds fear and fear creates more anger, and so goes the vicious cycle.
Understanding anger for what it is can help us to become more tolerant. There are times when we get upset because things don’t work the way we want them to and adjustments must be made…that is healthy. What is destructive is upset that we allow to turn into pure rage and wholly negative thoughts. When we permit ourselves to fall unchecked into negativity is when we begin to generate something destructive.
We must be vigilant in turning our upsets into constructive opportunities for change and communication. Today, when you are feeling angry, look and see how you can change your perspective or communicate your upset constructively to create something positive. Don’t allow yourself to be overtaken with angry and negative thoughts…be the better person, be the peacemaker.