Sometimes we learn the most by watching our kids.. in the craziness of this pandemic, I have 3 kids that are just living life as kids.
The amount of schoolwork that I should be doing with my 3 kids is overwhelming. I get daily emails from all their teachers along with all their special assignments. I’m addition, I’m working from home. There is no way I could keep up with all that is sent home. My situation is like millions of others..
I know I wrote before about how I tried to do it all in the beginning couple weeks of distance learning… completely unrealistic for anyone that’s trying to have 3 kids at home and work full time. So then we figured out a plan and we started just doing what was required. And this works for us. And instead my kids just spend time being kids. The activities that my kids are creating on their own is definitely rewarding for them.
I do not organize a lot of “ organized “ fun. I don’t make them play games or have something planned every minute of the day. We don’t do a million pinterest crafts that I would ended up being more frustrated with than when I started. I don’t make them play math games with their vegetables and fruits. All of those things are great, but they always add extra stress that I can handle right now. And I have learned the spontaneous activities usually turn out to be the best for us.
Instead they figure out of their own what they spend their day doing.. some days they might hang out in their rooms more and other days they are making homemade chocolate cake at 9 am. My daughter’s have found crafts and painting supplies and ordered them off amazon by themselves.
So I think what I have realized is how independent my kids are these days… They do their schoolwork and chores and then the rest of the day is their’s to do what they want. They make their own lunch most days. Even my 9 year old has learned to make his own ramen noodles.
I walked outside last week and each kid was doing their own thing activity. Amber ( my oldest) was bleaching designs on her sweatpants, Claire ( my
Middle) was making a wooden hamster cage, and nolan ( my youngest) was sanding sticks with the electric sander. Each kid was just happy doing what they wanted.
Even though we are all together all the time… 24 hours a day.. We really don’t spend that much time together. We come together for a dinner, a movie night, a game through the week.. but otherwise I let my kids use their own creativity and make a lot of their own decisions.
I’ve noticed so much the last few weeks that I haven’t seen in such a long time. They are finding new things to do and they are actually hanging out together. It’s almost strange at times. They haven’t complained about not going places or running constantly. They haven’t even asked to go to target, probably knowing the answer would be no right now.
I know this time has been really hard on me. I miss my friends and my co workers. I’m trying to navigate each day the best that I can. But then I see how my kids are coping and they seem happy and content. With all the craziness in the world right now, these kids are just enjoying being kids.