I don’t know about you but I am tired of fear and its seeming ability to steal my peace albeit temporarily…last week I had to do something that I did not really want to do, however I had no choice and fear was working overtime for at least several days…and every time it is time to travel fear starts its run at me…used to be that I was afraid all the time about money and not having enough of it, after 51 years I worked my way out of that and now it comes calling for new things and quite frankly I am sick and tired of it— I thought that you might be tired of it too, so I thought we’d talk about it.
The New Oxford American Dictionary defines ‘fear’ as follows:
Fear- an unpleasant emotion caused by the belief that someone or something is dangerous, likely to cause pain, or a threat.
Here is what I LOVE about this particular definition, it says that it is caused by a BELIEF that something is dangerous, harmful etc— a BELIEF—- BINGO!!! Herein lies the KEY for beating this shit— it is a belief which means that we are giving it the power, we are allowing ourselves to ‘believe’ the thoughts that scare us—which ALSO means that we have the power to annihilate the fear. I talk to you all the time about changing the thoughts that circulate in your head, I am always saying that you first have to change your thinking before anything else will change…this remains true about getting rid of it.
Last week when I was feeling like fear was getting the best of me, I picked one statement and I repeated it to myself over and over and over again until the chatter in my head ceased. Then I would be okay for a few hours and then the shitty, fearful thoughts would start up again and I would start my repetition process again. This literally went on for 48 hours— by the way, as is almost always the case, my fears were unfounded and every thing turned out just fine.
Fear produces NOTHING that is good— it simply steals your joy, makes you anxious, makes it hard to sleep, eat or breathe—makes you want to pull into yourself and not participate with others. Fear is a thief and a disruptor and will always make you feel worse— when we are enveloped in fear based thinking we are rendered unable to act—we are almost like a ‘deer in headlights’ because we cannot move to a place in our minds where solutions can find us—we are stuck and the thinking fear based thoughts keeps us more stuck….it is a vicious circle.
The way out of this is to control your thinking, you have to be vigilant about what thoughts you are allowing into your head and what the source of those thoughts are—you also must spend a fair amount of time talking about the good and focusing on thoughts and statements that will bring more good.
The quickest way to annihilate fear or anything you don’t want more of is to STOP talking about it…stop giving any power or voice to the things you don’t want to see more of—start focusing on your intentions and what IS working.
When we come from a place of peace things work out for us more quickly.
This week really take a look at what causes your fear and where those thoughts are originating from—the first step in changing something is to become conscious of it.
Remember, you have the power here…don’t forget that. Nothing can make you afraid unless you let it.
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