I am not a perfect mom…I have two young children, I am a working single mother. None of my family lives close to me. My boyfriend doesn’t live with me. It’s just me – always outnumbered by the kids.
I’d love to say that I’m this always perfect, cool, calm, collected mom. You know, the one you imagine in your head. The one that has a perfect work-life balance. That has little stress, and what stress she does have – well she never lets it get to her. The one who sings and reads to the children every single day. The one who homecooks all of their meals and of course everything is organic and perfectly nutritiously balanced. No fast food for us! The one who never loses her cool. The one who delights in all aspects of her children at all times. The one who is able to make it to every single school and life event (on time of course). The one who has a perfect co-parent relationship with her ex and his fiance. The one who is the perfect balance of compassionate, loving mother and gentle teacher/disciplinarian.
But I am not her.
The truth is, I don’t know ANYONE who is her. We all have good days and bad days. Days where we feel like mom of the year and days where we hang our heads in shame because we lost our cool when the kids pulled down the towel rack, pulled furniture across the floor and left a big scratch, colored on the walls with those cheap crayons that are so so hard to get out, had a VERY hard time listening and following instructions, couldn’t have “nice hands” with each other, and sooooo much more all in the same day. When did we start comparing ourseslves to this imaginary version of SUPER MOM (I imagine she wears a cape) in our heads? Or the perfect moms we imagine based on those social media posts we see all day? No one posts the BAD PARTS of their day. Only the highlighting moments. But we all have the bad parts, ya know? All of us. And that’s ok. That’s normal. We are not alone. We love our kids and try to be the best mom we know how. But sometimes we fail, we get frustrated, we get tired. And you know what? That’s ok too, that’s normal too.
So why don’t we all give ourselves a little grace, patience and compassion? We deserve it.