I read an article today about a book called ‘Humankind; A Hopeful History by Rutger Bregman.’ He says “by daring to be so radical as to believe that people are good, you not only start feeling better, but your every day life will improve.
He says “one of the rules to live by that I came up with for myself was, when in doubt, always assume the best in other people. Statistically, you’ll be right most of the time.”
Following politics, as I do, it is very easy to fall into the feeling that there really are a lot of bad people out there that don’t care about anyone but themselves. It’s easy to generalize that the reason the pandemic is still so bad is that people don’t care about other people. But, if I’m honest about it, it really is amazing how much people have rearranged their lives and behaviors to do their part of getting past the pandemic. The great majority of people do you wear masks and are careful about keeping a safe distance. It’s just that the ones who don’t, stand out in the crowd. But, they are out numbered by thousands who do the right thing.
What’s in it for me to think that most people are bad? Not only is it inaccurate, but it keeps me looking for bad behavior. Whereas if think that most people are good, I continue looking for evidence to prove that’s right. Bengman says “behavior—good or bad—is contagious. And do you really want to live your whole life in distrust? That’s irrational. That price is just too high to pay, and it’s really not good for you.”
There is only one person who determines which perspective to choose……me.