Keeping The Edges Sharp

Keeping the edges sharp…

If you caught my FB live last Sunday Morning (Coffee Chat, Sundays 10am EST) among my connection struggles you would have heard me talking about how we can avoid succumbing to apathy and complacency.  You would have heard me tell you about a conversation that my son, Antonio and I had that morning…we have an immediate family member that no longer has their kick-ass and take names mentality and I was saying to Antonio that for all that particular person had taught me in my lifetime about keeping my edges tight and being effective, I was at a loss as to how they got to their current state.  Antonio replied that he understood it and so I asked him to explain. He went on to say that when you have things that you want to get done everyday to feel effective and on purpose and then you miss the mark and have a bad day, it requires even more discipline to get back on the bus and once you don’t get right back on the bus it becomes harder and harder to do so until all of a sudden you turn around one day and your life has very messy edges or no edges at all…

The kid is right you know…let’s use my workouts as an example…I can be doing great, working out daily, getting it done, kicking ass and then I have an off day and I miss one.  Then I feel like an asshole because I am off track and so maybe the next day I don’t get it done either and then before you know it I have gone TWO weeks without a workout…and therein lies the story of the last 7 years of my life…pathetic in my opinion.

Sooooooooooooo kind of like the old adage about one step at a time, the question, “HOW DO YOU LOSE YOUR EDGE?” is aptly answered with one undone task at a time.  After the live I was talking to one of the 3 life-coaching clients that I still coach…(the 3 of them have been with me for over a decade now) and I was telling him about the conversation that I had been having on the FB live and he said, “yeah I get it.  I still have not unpacked my suitcase from the trip in November, I have baskets of folded laundry laying around to put away and I have a collection of dirty silverware in my dishpan because I hate washing silverware so I keep leaving it there and only wash the one fork at a time that I need (WHAT?!) (He lives alone in case you could not tell) and then I come home from work and just fall asleep on the sofa because I exhaust myself thinking about all the things that I am not getting done.  We laughed about it and he said, “I really get what you are saying about this, all these things are taking away my edge and making me less effective and they are such small things that I didn’t even notice…yet when I put them all together in a list it is quite a bit.”

And so it goes right?  All of us have these little things, the messy corners, drawers, closets, cars…the things left not straightened when we go to bed because we will ‘get it tomorrow’, the laundry left unfolded or in baskets not put away because we ‘don’t have time’—all these little things dull us just a bit every day—the too many cookies we ate, the workout we didn’t do, the trash we didn’t empty, the papers that we didn’t throw away…

On the FB live video which you will find on the FB page under videos I tell you about how years ago my Coach gave me an effectiveness assignment and I encouraged you all to do it with me…here is how it works:

Make a list of TEN DAILY things that you want to see yourself accomplish, ten things that if you did them every day you would feel like you were on top of your game.  The items can be as simple or as complicated as you wish…brush your teeth, make the bed, take your vitamins, workout, read for an hour…whatever YOU wish. Then make a checklist so that each day you can check off the task.  At the end of each day give yourself a score, if you got 2 things done = 20%, if you got 8 things done = 80%–you get the idea. Then at the end of each week look over the whole thing and give yourself a weekly average score— data doesn’t lie, this is a really great way to see just how effective you are being and also a great way to sharpen up your edges.  Go back and watch the FB live, I will be sharing my own scores with you weekly on Coffee Chat. See you soon.

XO, Noelle

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